To Be A Gentleman Or Not

[TonyG]

I just left a supplier's shipping dock where I had to pick up several boxes of things. I parked at the shipping dock with my car, rang the bell and a new person answered. She is 22, college student working part time, cute, friendly and wearing a tee shirt with baggy jeans. Plus, there is about a 3" wide rip across the seat of her jeans right about at the crotch. I am standing in the lot and she is standing 5' higher than me on the dock checking my papers and not paying attention. Now, I notice the hole in her pants and realize that she is also not wearing panties. I also realize that if I focused on the tear I would probably see her .....
So, my question is: WHEN IS IT OK TO NOT BE A GENTLEMAN?

I'm not saying if I looked or not.

 

[jcgirl]

Okay, I am obviously not a gentleman. And sometimes Im a little too straight forward. i would have said something. If shes going to work like that what kinda person is she anyway?

 

[Jake2001]

Tony, just what is your definition of gentleman? I would think that her choice of attire was to draw attention to her … ahh … assets. To ignore that would be very UNgentlemanly and it may cause you to regret not saying something the rest of the day.

By the way, she WAS paying attention, I am sure.

 

[GuyJD]

ALLOW ME TO RE-EXAMINE THIS CASE.....

Did this rip appear to be intentionally cut or did it look like an accidental tear? I can't see any woman demeaning herself in a way of purposely wearing a pair of jeans with a rip right where her pantiless "pune" would be. Any customer could have complained to her manager. If it was an unintentional tear, I would hope that she would make some sort of attempt to cover it up. As for as being a gentleman, I would have discreetly asked her if she was aware of the tear. I have known of incidents whereas a woman/girl (coworker) would not be aware of their zipper being opened and was very appreciative when I brought it to their attention.

 

[Comshaw]

tony_gam said:
"So, my question is: WHEN IS IT OK TO NOT BE A GENTLEMAN?"

For me the answer to that is simple;NEVER!

Comshaw

 

[TonyG]

The tear looked to me to be intentional but I think the only way it could be seen is from the my point of view. If one was standing next to her you could never see it, which is probably what she was thinking.

For the record, I looked no more and also did not say anything so as not to bring attention that I had looked. Plus, what would I have said, 'Excuse me but did you know your crotch is hanging open'.

 

[Angel]

What is the point in intentionally tearing your jeans? Cuz you like how it looks etc. So....why would you tear them somewhere where you didn't think anyone was gonna see? Of course maybe I'm odd or something. But hey you shoulda just said something.

#1 If it was intentional, then that is the attention she wants

#2 If it wasnt intentional, you mighta saved her from future embarassment.

#3 If it was intentional and she didnt think anyone could see it, then she'd know and fix it.

 

[Jake2001]

The tear looked to me to be intentional but I think the only way it could be seen is from the my point of view. If one was standing next to her you could never see it, which is probably what she was thinking.

For the record, I looked no more and also did not say anything so as not to bring attention that I had looked. Plus, what would I have said, 'Excuse me but did you know your crotch is hanging open'.

No, nothing as boorish as that. Perhaps something as simple as, "Sweetie, your beauty has made my day." If it was intentional on her part, she will appreciate the sentiment. If not, then there is no harm done. Either way, you are bound to have put a smile on her face.

 

[Ree]

No, nothing as boorish as that. Perhaps something as simple as, "Sweetie, your beauty has made my day." If it was intentional on her part, she will appreciate the sentiment. If not, then there is no harm done. Either way, you are bound to have put a smile on her face.

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Jake that would have definitely but a smile on my face and a swing in my hips if I had heard that. Good line! Then again charm and wit are never lost on women.

 

[Jake2001]

Jake that would have definitely but a smile on my face and a swing in my hips if I had heard that. Good line! Then again charm and wit are never lost on women.

If I said it, it wouldn't be a line. I always pick something that is true if I am going to complement someone. I must admit to enjoying the pretty smile and the swing in her step from telling a lady I noticed her.

And Ree, your last statement is proof that wit and charm is a two way street.

 

[Never]

When is it ok to not be a gentleman?

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Isn't it nice to know I can answer a question without answering?

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I go with your answer... And I 'm sure you wouldn't have minded either

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I'm thinking point it out, as mentioned above, just do it in a gentlemany fashion.

I'm also thinking I wouldn't have had the balls to do it myself, except maybe today when reality seemed to be giving me ths cold shoulder. I lived the day in a pink haze and couldn't stop myself litterally leaping around all over hte place, and I don't do drugs! But I wish there was something I could take to repeat the feeling, I had a blast.