Hi all,
I am pretty new to the BDSM world and am still learning and exploring. I recently began a LDR on kik with a wonderful sub. It's been going very well and I've been learning a lot.
A question came to me and after searching online and on the forum I couldn't find a decent, complete answer.
What I want to know is: When does a title such as Sir become appropriate. Similarly, when does a pet name for a sub become appropriate. I've been referring to my sub as "girl" and she hasn't expressed any dislike, however, I'm beginning to wonder if I should be doing this early on in the relationship. In contrast, she hasn't called me Sir or any other title. Do I earn this and she will call me by a title when she is ready, or do I instruct her to call me by a title when our relationship has matured to the point where it is a proper thing for me to ask?
I appreciate any input given.
I am pretty new to the BDSM world and am still learning and exploring. I recently began a LDR on kik with a wonderful sub. It's been going very well and I've been learning a lot.
A question came to me and after searching online and on the forum I couldn't find a decent, complete answer.
What I want to know is: When does a title such as Sir become appropriate. Similarly, when does a pet name for a sub become appropriate. I've been referring to my sub as "girl" and she hasn't expressed any dislike, however, I'm beginning to wonder if I should be doing this early on in the relationship. In contrast, she hasn't called me Sir or any other title. Do I earn this and she will call me by a title when she is ready, or do I instruct her to call me by a title when our relationship has matured to the point where it is a proper thing for me to ask?
I appreciate any input given.