Tired of questions, looking for answers

[Reggi]

So I've been lurking on these forums for a little while now, and so far I'm really liking what I've been seeing. The people out here seem to be honest and kind, which is a rare combination in a public place like this one.

I finally decided to register and make myself at home, and figured the easiest way to do that is to start a thread of my very own and see where it leads.

First topic of conversation: I've seen over and over in these forums how there are men out here who like the roundness of a full-bodied woman. I, myself am a BBW, although I really don't like that term in general...I think it denotes a woman who is a little less than the norm..but that's just me, and I digress.

Why is it that these forums/boards/webpages are filled with men who claim to love the softness of our hips and the fullness of our thighs, when in reality they are so hard to come by? If I had a dime for each time I was set up with a guy only to have him come to the door, open it and see my not-size-two body and get a look something akin to disappointment on his face, I'd be a rich woman.

So...gentlemen..tell me how to find a single, intelligent man in northern MN who can appreciate the love of a fat chick...and ladies, if you're large and lovely, and have a wonderful man by your side, let me know how you found him...and if he's got a brother!!! lol

Make me feel welcome....it's lonely out here all by myself....

 

[tucannon_fly]

You just need to make your way through all the thorns to find the rose. Sorry to hear of your bad experiences. There are lots of us out there, just need to to do some looking and have some patience.

 

[Reggi]

Ah but Tucannon, I have been patient....I've been patient for 34 years already.

How much longer do I have to wait? I'm a girl with needs, damnit!!! lol

 

[tucannon_fly]

lol...we all have needs...and you are calling the kettle black when you are talking to me.

I wish I could tell you how long it takes, because I would love to answer the question myself.

I know it is a crappy saying but good things come to those who wait

 

[Reggi]

And for those of us who want a love with a passion so hot that it rivals the heat of the sun? What about us?

I know that I sound like a HUGE baby right now, and I honestly don't mean to come off like that..I'm actually a very happy gal with alot on my plate right now, but it would be nice to have someone to come home to at the end of the day, instead of coming back to an empty house and two slightly psychotic cats...lol

 

[tucannon_fly]

Check your PM box

I think all cats are slightly psychotic cats...lol

 

[Reggi]

Checked and replied.

And you're probably a little bit right on the psychotic cats part...I don't think I've ever met one that wasn't.

 

[Lazarus_2277]

OK, I know Ill have have the pople wanting to kill me and the other half agreeing but here it is:

Guys are self absorbed, media driven, hypocritical arseholes.

I know this from experience, the experience of being a guy. I ve had many issues with standards, and although im only 24 I have come to realize that standards being either low or high can ruin a relationship before it has begun. Similiarly saying you want one thing fantasically and actually having a sample of that fantasy is two VERY different things.

Ive dated and had sexual relationships with women of different, race, age and body type. And have found through experience that larger women are much more fun, loving, loyal, honest and surprisingly alot more comfortable with their bodies than thin media / celebrity diet obsessed women.

They have a more carefree attitute overall than the waifs that are generally high-maintieanance. In my opinion BBW's, Large ladies, Fat Chicks... whatever you want to call them are much easier to have lasting fulfilling relationships with.

If guys dont want to be with you Reggi, why would you even consider wanting to be with them. Guys that cant see you for who you are dont deserve you, and therefore the right guy for you, your knight in shining armour is still lookig for you. Never give up hope. Tucannon's right, good things do come to those who wait, Cliches dont become so without substance.

Well, thats my opinions anyway.

 

[Reggi]

Lazarus--

Thanks for sharing your two cents worth...I know that both you and Tucannon are right (although I reserve the right to change my mind whenever I want to...lol), and eventually I'll find the right person for me....the one who finds my special brand of strangness endearing...the kind who loves me because of, not in spite of my flaws.

Like I was saying earlier, I'm probably just a little bit lonely, and a little tired of the games and such that always seem to go with the search for Mr. Right.

Thanks for the support.

Regg

btw....have I mentioned I love Aussie accents? I've got a couple friends in Sydney and a whole family of friends in Kilseth...I keep them as friends specifically so that I can listen to them talk!! lol

 

[tucannon_fly]

Lazarus_2277,

I would agree that all guys are assholes and I am man enough to say that at one point or another I have been that guy sorry to say. But I have learned from my mistakes and hopefully I am never that guy again. Its good to hear that other guys out there accept people for who they are. Too bad Reggi can't experience the kindness that we have for larger women.

tucannon_fly

ps. I think that the Minnesota accent is pretty sexy Reggi

 

[au_man]

Welcome to Lit!

Hope that you find the man of your dreams.

I prospect for gold when I have the time and while I keep looking for gold in places where it should be, it often isn't there.

We say that gold is where you find it.

Sometimes we need to look on other places. Places we might not think of, but in order to find it, we must keep searching.

I think it is best to find a recreation or hobby first, then meet others that share your intrests... That gives you something to build from...

Good hunting!

 

[au_man]

Just posted your thread

here,

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=11040287#post11040287

Seems you are neighbors!

 

[dr.bong]

I really do love Larger women, however I am in suburban Minneapolis, not terribly near you, unfortunately

 

[Lazarus_2277]

On the strength of Au Man's hobby I thought Id try an analogy :

Gold in its natural state is plain, rugged and heavy. Its only after it has been fired ( ie: after we have experienced pain), can the gold shine beautifully and have people marvel and long after it.

Reggi, its time for you to shine like gold!

 

[tucannon_fly]

The thing with gold, as with most precious metal and gems, is that they are not as scarce as one might think. It is only because people "think" that they are scarce, so therefore people are willing to pay high amounts for them. The situation is very similiar to love. People seem to do any thing to get it because they think they will never find it, but yet sometimes all a person has to do is look somewhere they might not of thought to look before.

So Reggi maybe out there in the wild wonders of northern minnesota there is a little gem waiting to be found.

 

[Reggi]

Hello folks!!

Nice to see my little thread got a little attention while I was away earning my keep and improving my intellect.

Tucannon, you're a pretty wise guy, and I'm not just saying that because you think the Minnesotan accent is sexy...apparently you've never seen the movie, Fargo....lol

Dr Bong, Minneapolis is only two hours away...an hour and a half if I break the speed limit the whole way.

Au-man...I'm gonna have to give that gold analogy more thought...but at a later time, my poor brain is fried tonight.

 

[tucannon_fly]

Thanks Reggi

I have seen the movie Fargo and yes I still think the accent is hot

By the way you have a very odd occupation...how exaclty do you balance the two?

 

[Reggi]

Good evening you.

Play your cards right and I'll let you hear the accent firsthand...lol

How do I balance what two? The firearms/vet school thing? I guess I'm just weird that way....actually, I like the job, but it's a means to an end...they pay me shit, but give me the time off I need to attend class and study....

 

[Lazarus_2277]

Im totally sulking and pouting now,

The gold analogy was mine and yet not only did you say it was Au man's but you didnt even say hi to me...

 

[Reggi]

Lazarus--

I'm sooooooooooo sorry!!! Apparently I'm cute, just not real bright..lol

Let's see if I can make it up to you...ready?

Hello Lazarus...it's nice to see you here in my little thread. I hope you visit often.

Your gold analogy was insightful and inspiring. I'll hold it dear to me and think of it often while I'm looking for Mr. Right (meanwhile, trying to avoid Mr. Rude, Mr. Cocky, and Mr. Poor..lol).

You're a man with incredible depth and a heart of gold...

(how's that? Feel better yet?)

Regg

 

[Lazarus_2277]

Im sure that takes care of your residaul guilt, and although Im not pouting or sulking anymore.... can you keep saying nice stuff about me???

)

 

[Horney_in_mn]

Hey there Reggi- I can only speak for myself, but when I was younger I never would have given a larger lady a second look. (I too am not into labeling with BBW) I know it sounds horrible, but that was the way I was. Actually, it was the way my friends made me. If they would have seen me with a woman over 140# I would have never heard the end of it. In recent years one of my best friends married a women who is a little larger then, well, for a lack of a better term- the norm. She is without a doubt the most sincere woman I have ever had the pleasure of meeting! She is so awesome I cannot even begin to describe her. For me it was a huge wake up call that looks are far less important than personality, morals, and general decency. I would be afraid of guys who said they loved BBW"S because to me, they are no different than someone who says they only like super models. Keep looking and you shall find the man of your dreams Reggi- He is out there and lucky for you, he is also looking for you!

 

[babydoll2u]

So I've been lurking on these forums for a little while now, and so far I'm really liking what I've been seeing. The people out here seem to be honest and kind, which is a rare combination in a public place like this one.

I finally decided to register and make myself at home, and figured the easiest way to do that is to start a thread of my very own and see where it leads.

First topic of conversation: I've seen over and over in these forums how there are men out here who like the roundness of a full-bodied woman. I, myself am a BBW, although I really don't like that term in general...I think it denotes a woman who is a little less than the norm..but that's just me, and I digress.

Why is it that these forums/boards/webpages are filled with men who claim to love the softness of our hips and the fullness of our thighs, when in reality they are so hard to come by? If I had a dime for each time I was set up with a guy only to have him come to the door, open it and see my not-size-two body and get a look something akin to disappointment on his face, I'd be a rich woman.

So...gentlemen..tell me how to find a single, intelligent man in northern MN who can appreciate the love of a fat chick...and ladies, if you're large and lovely, and have a wonderful man by your side, let me know how you found him...and if he's got a brother!!! lol

Make me feel welcome....it's lonely out here all by myself....

Hi Reggi!
Welcome to Lit and to the boards. I like a lady who is confident enough to just get out there and start her own thread!
I'm a BBW myself, and like you I don't particularly like the term, but it's one everyone seems to understand, so I use it

It's going to be interesting to see what kind of answers you get here....
I'll be sitting here taking in all in, lol

Peggy

 

[Reggi]

Lazarus....if it'll keep me on your good side, then I'll most definately keep saying nice things about you...I'd hate for you to start pouting again...you might stick that lip out so far that you trip on it...and then you'd probably sue me to pay for your hospital bills...and frankly, I'm a starving college student and would have to sell my cats to some medical testing company to pay the bills...and none of us want that...Soooo.....nice things I'll keep saying...anything to save the kitty-cats.

Horney--I think that's probably the way things go with guys. I mean, I can completely understand the young guys wanting to hook up with a swimsuit model, or some famous actress (as a matter of fact, if Angelina Jolie showed up on my porch, I definately wouldn't send her away...lol), but I think as they get a little older, they realize that looks fade and that if you're in a relationship with someone based only on their looks, things are going to go real bad as soon as the first crows' feet or extra roll around the middle show up. I believe in basing my attraction on someone's personality...because like I said, once the looks go, there needs to be something solid to keep you together. I haven't given up just yet....

Babydoll2U....what can I say, I'm a fat chick with a brave facade...lol....I actually didn't think I'd get anyone replying to this thread, so I'm pretty happy with the fact I'm not sitting here talking to myself!! As for you sitting back 'taking it all in'....Oh no..not in MY thread...us fat chicks need to stick together, so if I'm out here rambling on and on and on, then you need to be here talking too....don't make me come over there!!!! (see how brave I am from behind this computer monitor? )

Regg

 

[babydoll2u]

Babydoll2U....what can I say, I'm a fat chick with a brave facade...lol....I actually didn't think I'd get anyone replying to this thread, so I'm pretty happy with the fact I'm not sitting here talking to myself!! As for you sitting back 'taking it all in'....Oh no..not in MY thread...us fat chicks need to stick together, so if I'm out here rambling on and on and on, then you need to be here talking too....don't make me come over there!!!! (see how brave I am from behind this computer monitor? )

Regg

LOL... well alrighty then! Talk I will