Tips for Posting

MissTaken

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Hi all,

I was just wandering through the forums and thought we might want to give some pointers out concerning how to post effectively on the forums. By effectively, I mean so that your post is more likely to be read and if not responded to directly, will enhance discussion.

So, here goes.

1. When you start a thread, try to make your thread title relevant to the topic you wish to discuss. Beginning a thread with a title that is very general or has little to do with your first post is likely to lose the interest of the other posters.

2. No, I am not a grammar and spelling snob, but using basic rules of grammar and double checking your spelling will make your post easier to read for other posters. If it is easier to read, it will be read! :) Organizing your writings by spacing between paragraphs is one little tool I use to make my posts more decipherable, especially when I am rambling!

3. If you are responding directly to someone, quote them. You can do so by clicking the "quote" button at the bottom of the post you wish to respond to. In so doing, you can avoid any confusion should others be posting at the same time and their post gets onto the forums before yours.

4. We encourage the serious discussion of BDSM issues on the Talk forum and idle chit chat and off topic discussions on the Chat forum. If you aren't sure where to post a thread, ask anyone. I am sure everyone would be happy to help you.

5. Debates and discussions can get very serious when discussing issues as intense and personal as our intimate lives. We, at this site, do our best to encourage and support free speech guidelines. As such, as rule of thumb, treat others as you would hope to be treated on the forums. You have the right to post anything you like as long as it doesn't violate lit guidelines, but also, others have the same right to respond freely.


6. Before reacting negatively to a post that seems to target you or makes you feel defensive, ask for clarification. Many times, what we type isn't read by the reader with the same tone. This is a one dimensional means of communication and there are times when asking, "What did you mean?" will save you from undo frustration.

7. Be cautious about giving out personal information. While many of us are legitimate and are not interested in making life difficult for anyone, some people may not be the type of person they want you to believe they are. An online community can give us a false sense of security and we should always use caution when interacting with anonymous personas on line.

8. Don't be disheartened if you posted and no one replies to you directly. Your post has been read and many feel more inclined to reply to a post they disagree with rather than a post they agree with.


Does anyone care to add to these random thoughts?

Take care and have fun,

MissT:rose:
 
9. Avoid AV's with Viggo Mortensen as Aragon as it might make the straight, female population on the board turn of the brain cells

;)
 
3b. Remember that Literotica has occasional technical issues and sometimes posts are listed out of order. Yes, at least twice I have replied to someone only to see their post appears after mine!

4b. Remember there is a BDSM Personals forum. Maybe I am too harsh but perhaps 5-10% of the BDSM Talk topics and 10-15% of the BDSM Cafe topics actually belong over there.

5b. Remember that every fight is not your fight. Sometimes it is good to just read the debates and try to appreciate the viewpoints.

7b. Be cautious not to list AIM or ICQ accounts in your profile when those accounts were registered with your real name. Unless you are sure you want to reveal your involvement with BDSM using your true identity, it is better to register an "extra" chatter account created with false information.

Bonus. When posting about a personal problem, consider expanding the scope so the thread has more relevance to other people. Sometimes phrasing things in a certain way invites more discussion than harping on your own issues in a restrictive "help me" format.

Errata. If you wish to discuss your relationship, consider using a single dedicated topic and add subsequent updates to that thread. Same with sharing pictures. And no need to cross-post the same thread in both BDSM Talk and BDSM Cafe. And really, it is good for everyone to limit themselves to a single novelty thread.

Whew! ;)
 
dreaming_lilith said:
9. Avoid AV's with Viggo Mortensen as Aragon as it might make the straight, female population on the board turn of the brain cells

;)

Uh what aragon
 
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