Thrilled by elegant mature women

[avecvous]

You know who you are, and I find each one of you insatiable. There is an intoxicating mix of self-assuredness and gentle feminine receptivity that defines you, and more than likely you have a complex mix of erotic energies ranging from the subtly submissive to the gently dominant. Cradled between those delicate extremes is a well developed and mature personality that both requires and allows a partner to be a complete equal.

Your sexuality is undeniable, unconcealed but not flaunted or exaggerated. You might even hide it if you could, but it shines from you- you're sexy and there's nothing you can ultimately do to hide it. I notice it, and deeply appreciate it. It's part of who you are.

I would love to share your company, to explore the depths of who you are and allow you to get to know me. Together we can push our way gently toward the limits of erotic comfort and safely nudge each other just a bit beyond... just enough to completely satisfy that urge to explore but never so much as to frighten.

I'm mature enough to not throw you any curves and I have zero interest in mind games. I try to pay attention in all aspects of living, and to that end I may be less likely to behave in an unconscious or unaware fashion. That generally makes communication easier. I'm considerate and respectful, even when passion requires something more forceful, but respect comes first, always.

If you choose to contact me, thank you in advance for your time and consideration, and for being willing to be who you truly are.

 

[deskuser]

Hmm I wish I was elegant but I drink too much.

 

[avecvous]

You may just need a second opinion! On both the elegance and the drinking

 

[deskuser]

Well I'm mature ok but not elegant.

 

[avecvous]

I suppose there's bound to be an element of that whole "eye of the beholder" thing in this as well. Different traits are drawn out in people in different relationships, too. Chemistry's powerful stuff.

 

[deskuser]

Subjective not objective everybody's interpretation will be different.

My idea of elegance in a woman would be somebody tall slim and well dressed and well spoken. Maybe Lady Diana , Michelle Obama, even some female tennis players seem more elegant than others.

 

[monique1971]

Subjective not objective everybody's interpretation will be different.

My idea of elegance in a woman would be somebody tall slim and well dressed and well spoken. Maybe Lady Diana , Michelle Obama, even some female tennis players seem more elegant than others.

Yes, to me the word "elegant" also implies the above. I remember this film with Jane Birkin that made a huge impression on ten-year-old me. She had this extraordinary white suit and a huge picture hat, and she was utterly lovely.

 

[deskuser]

I think I know which you mean. Would you agree that elegance comes naturally you can't achieve it deliberately?

 

[avecvous]

I think I overlooked the very important point I replied with - what I perceive as "elegance" is often the result of a combination of very subtle things, and humility is a big part of that. As such, many women that possess those qualities won't be thinking of themselves as elegant, particularly if it has a regal association.

I see it in mannerisms, not necessarily physical build or dress. An ease of movement. And even that seems too constricting when I point it out. Inasmuch as it sounds like I'm compiling a laundry list of measurable traits, it's more mysterious than that. More like a reflection from a light source you can't pinpoint. I know it when I experience it, and I can't say for sure that it doesn't appear for the very reason that I was looking.

It takes a certain kind of instrument to measure for certain kinds of characteristics, and I'm already sorry I used a measurement metaphor again

 

[fireymatt]

I think I know which you mean. Would you agree that elegance comes naturally you can't achieve it deliberately?

Self confidence is key..... not arrogance

 

[monique1971]

I think I know which you mean. Would you agree that elegance comes naturally you can't achieve it deliberately?

I think it can be taught, but the raw materials need to be there from the start.

 

[avecvous]

(what an interesting conversation.. thank you all for your thoughtful replies! The world spins more happily when stuff like this happens)..

broken record reply - I really think it's not a quality that can be said to exist purely objectively, at least not the way I see it. No question, some women seem to be universally tagged as elegant, text book examples so to speak. But that's sort of the epicenter of that particular quality, and there are subtle variations that extend in every conceivable direction.

I believe that for some women, they simply need the right person watching in order to detect it, and once acknowledged, like anything focused on, it tends to increase.

 

[londoner2]

Subjective not objective everybody's interpretation will be different.

My idea of elegance in a woman would be somebody tall slim and well dressed and well spoken. Maybe Lady Diana , Michelle Obama, even some female tennis players seem more elegant than others.

My idea of elegance in a woman would be as above but also that she should not bump in to furniture when moving around a room or break wind (audibly)...

 

[monique1971]

(what an interesting conversation.. thank you all for your thoughtful replies! The world spins more happily when stuff like this happens)..

broken record reply - I really think it's not a quality that can be said to exist purely objectively, at least not the way I see it. No question, some women seem to be universally tagged as elegant, text book examples so to speak. But that's sort of the epicenter of that particular quality, and there are subtle variations that extend in every conceivable direction.

I believe that for some women, they simply need the right person watching in order to detect it, and once acknowledged, like anything focused on, it tends to increase.

That's rather beautifully put. If I had a daughter, I'd want her to read that and to know what's possible for her -- and not to settle for anything less than "the right person watching."

Not that I'd want my daughter to cruise around the Lit personals with me. Let's not be literal about this.

 

[avecvous]

Hahaha.. reality check? Fuckin' A.

 

[deskuser]

No not the Lit personals lol! but we all have our secrets any elegance is for public consumption.

I watched my daughter get beat at tennis the other day by a taller more athletic opponent but another spectator observed that the smaller girl was 'elegant' in her play which was some consolation especially as my girl is only 8.

 

[deskuser]

My idea of elegance in a woman would be as above but also that she should not bump in to furniture when moving around a room or break wind (audibly)...

Thats easy then. Don't bump into furniture or the walls or fart when I've been at the wine. I suppose if I don't burp or swear it makes me a lady.

 

[avecvous]

...I suppose if I don't burp or swear it makes me a lady.

From what I can see in your profile pic, I think other attributes are handling that designation!

That's very cool about your daughter too - maybe she gets it from her mother?

 

[alchemyandlaughter]

Well You Certainly Got My Attention!

I'm not sure why no one else has said it yet, so I will.....

What an enticing, well written and well thought out personals ad!!

It's sure to make the ladies want to be both mature and elegant, if they are not already.

I'd be happy to receive a PM in my box from You. You are well spoken and well mannered and that is a definite turn-on and a good place to start!

Good Luck to You!

 

[deskuser]

Well said indeed! not only that, he is also a fine figure of a man, if you care to check his profile out you will see what I mean. All the more reason to be elegant or in my case act it.

 

[avecvous]

Thank you both- everyone loves to be appreciated. I'm so glad you were willing to chime in on the topic. I love raw eroticism as much as the next guy, but I think the varieties of elegance that women can embody are often overlooked. It's like a big wave, harder to see sometimes but carries tremendous power.

 

[vidiman]

elegance and all sorts

I think elegance will mean diffeent things to different people - as stated below.

Also embrace the fact that there are people out there who are not 'elegant' (opposite of elegant please!!) and who maybe dont want to be.

These poeple are just as vialbe as so called elegant poeple - more so in some cases - les so in others.

I have met people who on first impression and in certain situations I have 'judged' as being a certain type only to be shocked /surprised / intrigued to find them act totally different in 'other' situations.

Now I am rambling - so I'll take a walk!

 

[avecvous]

Vidiman, for me it isn't a question of viability, as if being any particular way makes one more valid as a human being! There are different kinds of development of course, and what I'm talking about will often be associated with some of them... cognitive and emotional for starters. But that's not about viability.

And there's no question that what appeals to one person may be irrelevant or even repulsive to another. I think we're all embodying very complex, advanced forms of the same principles of attraction (or not) that the components making us up do. We're all radical extrapolations of chemistry and physics. Any relatively complete universe needs every possible kind of interaction to occur, and it does. Somewhere.

 

[vidiman]

what differecne does it make?

'With you' on that pretty much - which ever universe we may be in!

What I have always liked - more consciously now than when I was younger is 'difference'.

So something that initially challenges you or comes across as being unusual / alien can actually evolve into something that is quite inspiring and an eye opener.

The saying 'dont judge a book by it's cover' - makes me wonder why books have covers - with evoative imagery and text on them!! I imagine the brief for the book cover is full of prescriptive direction.

My belief is judge the book on the cover if that's all you have to go on - thn let your judgement be altered / imporved if you like as you get more information.

 

[avecvous]

Absolutely on the book cover thing. How about this, "Don't judge a book by a really poorly designed cover." That's what the cover is FOR. It's true that appearances don't accurately translate every aspect of a person's interior, if they did, there would be no need for interiors! They do however tend to proceed from the interior, and as such, will often.. only often, not always... be telling you something true about what lies within.