Threesome with wife?

[andyandy]

I had a question about threesomes that I hope somebody knows the answer to, especially married females. I have always had a fantasy to see my wife with another guy in bed. At first I thought I was wierd for having this fantasy but soon discovered that other people had this fantasy as well. I have told my wife about my fantasy but she gives me mixed messages. When we are having sex and I bring it up she orgasams quikly and she seems to like the idea. I can feel her get and act exited. We have even been to dance clubs were she dances with a friend of mine and I can see she is exited and when we get home she wants to have sex. But on the flip side when I talk to her seriuosly about it she says, "no i dont think i could do that", or no, thats out of the question". I dont know exactly what to believe. I know she would not want to have a FMF because she has told me this several times. She has also expressed a little interest in MFMF. My question is what is she trying to tell me? Is she just scared, or teasing me, or what?

I dont whant to do anything she doesnt want to do because i respect her. But it seems to me she is mildly interested in my fantasy.

HELP PLEASE

 

[lovechild27]

A lot of people like the idea of something...for example... for me, the IDEA of being with a girl is hot...i tried it though and hated it. The fantasy in my head was a million times better than what it turned out to be. To me, it doesnt seem like she is jerking you around. The idea turns her on but when she says, No...I couldnt do it...she is being honest. Respect her wishes. Dont push her into it. Ya never know...maybe she will warm up to the idea. When she tells you no...take it as her decision. You cant make her do anything.

 

[andyandy]

threesome

Thanks for the advice Lovechild. You bring up a good question. I know she might be willing to try this fantasy what do you suggest i do to warm her up to the idea. I think I maybe going about it the wrong way. A girls perspective would really help.

 

[lovechild27]

you DONT warm her up to it.

You let her think about it...ponder on it...let her decide on her own to do it. If anything, pushing her into it will turn her off like a light bulb. You let it lie. If she likes to talk about it during sex, then keep it at that. But you cant push her into it.

 

[andyandy]

Thanks for your help/input lovechild

 

[peachykeen]

Please remember, there are lots and lots and lots of things that make for great fantasy material that are not so desirable in real life. For example, for some women (and men) the idea of 'gloryholes' and sucking off lots of faceless strangers is a huge turn on, but then contemplating the reality of that (hygiene, safety, disease, risk of loss of public respect, arrest, etc etc) is scary. Ditto for gangbangs, public sex, and so on. Very very exciting to think about, nervewracking to actually contemplate doing. So if your wife gets turned on by the idea, don't make the mistake of thinking she actually wants to do it, and for heaven's sake, do NOT push/manipulate her into it, however subtly or gradually. Unless of course you actually want her to resent the hell out of you until the day you die, or she dies, whichever comes later.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Just be careful. I think you are playing with fire if you have to really talk her into doing this...or if you have to convince her it's what she really wants.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'd listen to the ladies in this thread.. they've said what I would have said, and I'm sure many would agree with them.

 

[millieteases]

I agree with all this. What I fantasize about is not what I'm always ready to do - especially when it comes to sex.

Don't force or trick her into anything. If she eventually decides to do something, she'll let you know. In the meantime, enjoy the results of the fantasies.

 

[Etoile]

You might have some luck looking for information about cuckolding.

 

[Mskey]

If this is something that your SO is truly interested in trying you won't have to " warm them up" to it. When she's ready to approach it she'll let you know. For now just enjoy the great sex you get to have when the idea turns her on and leave it at that.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

Well I can post from the experiance of someone who finds the idea arousing but has it in the 'never will do' catagory. FOr me it's a very erotic idea, which is a very welcome fantasy. Fantasy being the key word here. I only want to share my body and love with my significant other, and being with more then one person, while mentally stimulating, is something that goes against more of my beliefs then I would like to imagine. I could never do it in real life, but it is a nice thing to think about. It seems alot of people may feel that way.

If you are so intent on wanting this sit your SO down and have a long conversation about how you feel about it and how she feels. Ask her directly what she would like. And if she says no then DON'T push her unless you think this is worth losing her over. My advice, most of which was stated earlier in the thread ^_^()

-Zergplex

 

[Lust Engine]

Fantasies can be better than reality so why mess with 'em?

 

[jasmine8316]

Why don't you meet in the middle. Is she into an online affair kind of thing? That way she is trying different things and you start to feed into your fantasy. Couple on couple video exchange....Lots of different avenues to try.

 

[bi guy n va]

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!

say your thread and thought i would respond. my g/f and i had the same discussion. she said it was a fantasy of hers also, so we tried a foursome. all i can say is be careful. some times fantasies become reality. then you have to live with the consequences. we worked through some of the problems it created. however, you really need to decide if you really want to do this to begin with. fantasies are great, afterward, they are reality. be careful what you wish for!