Threesome questions?

[curiousinsc]

My husband and I have always fantasized about having a threesome, but now we are starting to think it is something we really want to pursue. We would rather it be me, him and another man. We are not sure how to get started. We have a good friend that we want to try it with, but we are not sure how to bring it up to him, or if he would be interested. If he is not into it, what should we try next.

 

[ParisWaterman]

Threesomes

Well, there is a sort of protocal for threesomes, in that one must be sure about several times before inviting that third party into your nest.

First an assurance that he/she is clean of STD's.

2nd Asking a friend poses a certain risk of refusal and ruining your reputation. Be wery careful, as Bugs Bunny is fond of saying.

3rd Another risk . . . having found that 3rd partner . . . jealousy. He may prove to be more of a man than your current man is. You may seek him out without your SO knowing about it and that may lead to DIVORCE, or the like.

Having said all that, I have found threesome great fun and have done and written a great deal about them. Look me up on Storiesonline under Paris Waterman.

PS: the men may want to make you a sandwich. In that case I hope you like anal.

But you will call the shots during the threesome. Keep that in mind. No means no! So if anal is definitly out, then you can still enjoy two at a time . . . I'm sure you'll work something out. There are many variations, including one at a time. Hope this helps.

Paris

 

[ParisWaterman]

More on threesomes

Just realized I spelled severl word rather badly and I apologize for it. Then too, I didn't answer the 2nd part of your question. If the friend doesn't work out, place a personal ad in a descreet magizine.
Arrange to meet that person at a public place and have a drink while discussing the pros and cons of the threesome. By all means ensure that he/she is clean of STDs.

 

[littlebitshe]

Take your friend to dinner (the 3 of you) and hint around the idea. Ask what he would think about joining a 3 some... how he feels about it... kind of get an idea of whether he is interested or not. If you feel he's interested, make the proposition to him. The worst that could happen is he could say no.

If he's not interested, you can always try online. Single males are NOT hard to find! You will pretty much have your choice. One site that i've used is www.SwingLifeStyle.com You can get a free account and there are plenty of single males on there. Another one you might try is www.AdultFriendFinder.com I've never used this site, personally but I know that a lot of people do. I've heard good and bad about this site so i'm not sure if this is the best option or not. Maybe another Lit member can tell you a bit more about the AFF site.

Good Luck Sweetie! You will love being spoiled by two men!!

 

[Babydoll34601]

there are thousands of swinger sites online........join one, there are single males just dying for a situation like this. There are clubs you can attend, groups that meet.......heck, there are even cruises to Hedo...

check out swingerzonecentral. bet you find a friend within a day....

 

[SweetErika]

Just realized I spelled severl word rather badly and I apologize for it.

You can edit posts by clicking the Edit button on the bottom of the post.

Then too, I didn't answer the 2nd part of your question. If the friend doesn't work out, place a personal ad in a descreet magizine.

I've never seen a discreet magazine with ads for that kind of thing. I'm not sure I even know what kind of magazine you're talking about.

I'd be more likely to go with sites like OKCupid, Craigslist, the personals here and perhaps Swinglifestyle. Much faster than an ad in an alternative paper or magazine, FREE and you'll get plenty of responses, I'm sure (of course you'll have to sift through them to find the good ones, but that's neither here nor there). I'd avoid any of the sites in the FriendFinder network, just because the free memberships are very limited and I've read too many horror stories of credit card and other types of fraud by the owners/managers of those sites.

By all means ensure that he/she is clean of STDs.

There's no way to make sure someone is healthy. Even seeing test results on paper only ensures the person didn't show an STI at the time of the test - they could have one that's still incubating or isn't tested for or perhaps they caught one since they had the test done.

Therefore, your best bet is to treat everyone like they DO have at least one STI and practice safer sex with latex or poly barriers for oral activities, genital-genital contact and any type of insertion. Regular testing and communicating about sexual histories and STIs is great, but it shouldn't be relied on.

 

[silverwhisper]

i too want to draw attention to the risk of jealousy. you and your husband should be very secure in your relationship. will he be OK with you calling out another man's name?

my very first threesome involved the woman i was with at the time and a good friend of mine. afterwards, i was angry & hurt b/c while i did want that experience (it was my idea), jealousy reared its ugly head thereafter, leading to a fracture in my friendship.

i've had others since, but please consider this carefully.

ed

 

[littlebitshe]

i too want to draw attention to the risk of jealousy. you and your husband should be very secure in your relationship. will he be OK with you calling out another man's name?

my very first threesome involved the woman i was with at the time and a good friend of mine. afterwards, i was angry & hurt b/c while i did want that experience (it was my idea), jealousy reared its ugly head thereafter, leading to a fracture in my friendship.

i've had others since, but please consider this carefully.

ed

Silver is 100% right! MAKE SURE you are completely secure in your relationship before inviting someone else into your bedroom for playtime!! Jealousy can easily slip in and cause problems! If you are secure in your relationship, they you will be able to enjoy seeing your partner have fun with someone else. That can be so arousing!! Just be sure before you play