Thoughts...and a little about me...

[Jonaol]

Okay. I have logged on to Lit on and off for about the last three years or so.

I rarely post...normally just read posts or PM others.

I am bored...so I am going to random state some thoughts...and if you want to share...please do.

I find that those who have the most erotic avatars normally get responses to their posts...since I have no idea how to get an avatar...who knows if people will reply (that is not an open invitation for step by step avatar directions...I still would not have the pacients to figure it out anyway).

I am married...and there have been a few married women who I have become friends with over Lit. I have met one in person over sushi once. The sushi was horrible...it was not very sexual...harmless flirting, but it was exciting...why is that?

I know like many - male and female - who are on Lit...we love our spouces, are happy in our relationship...but yet we still go on Lit...Do we miss the chase? Is it our only safe outlet to be bad?

For me, I am also probably a bit sexually frustrated...have a bit of a Madonna/Whore Complex with my wife...which I assume many others also have...as much as I care for my wife and love my life...still have the desire to have a random stricly physical experience...

The reality in all of this, is that if it ever came down to walking the walk...I would probably wimp out...hmmm, maybe...depends I guess.

I am probably more interested in finding people who are in a simliar boat, share similiar conflicting thoughts that I do.

It also strange, when I think about who is on the site regularly...I see a lot of Aussie, Brits...also a lot of people from Ohio and Wisconsin, whats that about? I am from New York City...there are a lot of us from here.

I find that there also a lot of people who have voids and they use Lit to fill those voids...we all have them, obviously I defined mine on this post. But we need to be careful that people do not go to the extreme...people who actually live their life through Lit...and I have met a few of them online...

I do not mean to be controversial or judgemental...but there are some...who dont use Lit as just an escape or as a fantasy or even as simply a way to meet other like minded people...but as a reality...for those people I worry.

Sorry about my long winded post. Excuse all these ramblings...

I know none of it connects...thats what happens when I am board.

 

[heckle]

It also strange, when I think about who is on the site regularly...I see a lot of Aussie, Brits...also a lot of people from Ohio and Wisconsin, whats that about? I am from New York City...there are a lot of us from here.

There are people from all over on here. I have bounced in and out myself.

 

[hausfrau]

I think it's pretty funny that you noticed all us Midwesterners. A buncha repressed freaks we are (said with humor intended and including myself therein).

 

[Jonaol]

yes...there are others...thats why I love Lit.

 

[Jonaol]

bummer...

this is a bit disappointing...my first real post...hoping I would find some interesting people.

 

[never_enough_au]

Hey Jonaol - I thought your post was very insightful. I, myself, like many others here I guess, feel the same way as you about many of the things that you've raised - particularly the reasons for being here when I am in a very loving and happy relationship already. I'm curious - was your sushi thing an attempt to "walk the walk" so to speak and follow through with a "random strictly physical experience"? I've toyed with this idea a bit myself but am still unsure what I'd do when push came to shove.

 

[Jonaol]

it crossed my mind...and i think it would have happened...but the situation was not as perfect as I wanted it...if i was to walk the walk...I would have wanted it to be strickly physical...which is always very hard...

 

[Jonaol]

Bump.

 

[Jonaol]

can I just say, that I find it amazing that there are threads about tit fucking that seem to get replies...and I cant anyone interested in have a discussion...this is disappointing.

 

[Maxell46]

Just my thoughts...
but I think alot here are BSin their way and Lit gives them a good venue to do that.
Way to many freaky chics who love the attention and tease their way along.Shy overweight homely types who suddenly find they are popular and "lusted" after.Enough hard up men to make em feel that way!
Goodlooking woman seldom need to come to a place like Lit for attention.
Some live their lives thru this stuff and that is very scary!

I've met two from here...
no thanks!
More baggage than Ivana Trump on a trip to Europe!

Surely a good looking woman in our situation exists...( I'm in yours!) that would love to keep her life the same but enjoy an occasional get together without the craziness.
but I'm not sure if this is the place to meet one.

I think the lack of responses to this thread says alot about the folks we are dealing with!

 

[Cathleen]

So much to comment upon here, to you Jon and to Maxell. I may not be the 'norm' here at Lit, but in my experience here there is no norm.

I found my way to Lit via stories, I didn't notice the bulletin board for a while, when I did I noticed some fun people. People of all types, different education, socio-economic background, spirituality etc. I spend most of my time here on 'The Playground' and in the 'How To' forum. I have made some wonderful friends here. I've become friendly with many and have met others for cookouts and enjoyable conversations.

I learned quite a lot here, about myself, others and how I wanted to live my life, how others saw me without the physical influence. So many times we judge others physically not taking the time to know the real person, many times we miss wonderful people, real people. Real people come in all shapes, colors, ethnicity etc.

I have seen a real community here, many different communities - for the most part it is a peaceful coexistence for all. There are at times personality clashes, just like in real life. There are far more people that are genuine and caring then the opposite, if you spend some time, perhaps interacting I think you would find that for yourselves.

There are many discussion threads, many 'fluff' threads and the 'General Board' is full of political and other threads. There is something for everyone in my opinion. You can also start your own as Jon did, perhaps if it was in one of the other forums it might get more response.

There are people here for as many reasons as there are people. There are dishonest and honest, married and unmarried, pleasant and unhappy etc. Just like in real life you will find the same diversity here at Lit. Just like in real life you will find some you share experiences and qualities and some you do not.

I have to laugh at Maxell's comment about 'baggage', in my opinion lack of 'luggage' (my view) means you really haven't looked too closely at life, and maybe you haven't lived. I'll keep my luggage thank you, it is a very nice set and is full of so many interesting experiences - good and bad, because I am a real person.

As far as physcial looks go, I don't make friends with a face or body, I make friends with a brain, heart and soul. I have some wonderful friends.

I hope you enjoy whatever time you do spend here.

 

[SweetErika]

Cathleen very eloquently expressed what I was thinking, but I'm willing to share and discuss.

I am married...and there have been a few married women who I have become friends with over Lit. I have met one in person over sushi once. The sushi was horrible...it was not very sexual...harmless flirting, but it was exciting...why is that?

I know like many - male and female - who are on Lit...we love our spouces, are happy in our relationship...but yet we still go on Lit...Do we miss the chase? Is it our only safe outlet to be bad?

I found the boards by chance after reading stories for years. I came to learn and interact with like-minded people, not because I enjoy the chase or need an outlet to be "bad". I stayed because reading about sexuality re-ignited my passion for sex, helped me communicate with my husband, and ultimately, I made friends and felt like I was part of a community.

I am probably more interested in finding people who are in a simliar boat, share similiar conflicting thoughts that I do.

If you want discussion, you have to be open to different opinions and experiences. "Beggars can't be choosers" comes to mind...you may want to think about that next time you feel disappointed with not getting responses.

It also strange, when I think about who is on the site regularly...I see a lot of Aussie, Brits...also a lot of people from Ohio and Wisconsin, whats that about? I am from New York City...there are a lot of us from here.

I have noticed a certain geographic distribution as well, and wondered why there's a lack of people from western states (especially women).

I find that there also a lot of people who have voids and they use Lit to fill those voids...we all have them, obviously I defined mine on this post. But we need to be careful that people do not go to the extreme...people who actually live their life through Lit...and I have met a few of them online...

I do not mean to be controversial or judgemental...but there are some...who dont use Lit as just an escape or as a fantasy or even as simply a way to meet other like minded people...but as a reality...for those people I worry.

Yes, there are always crazy people who don't have lives outside lit, the Internet, or other worlds. I do see lit as part of my reality though. I realize there are nuts and liars just like anywhere else, but there are so many real, normal, intelligent, kind, well-adjusted people as well.

 

[baseball_guy]

nice avatar erika lol

 

[olivia drake]

Well I am married...happily actually....I found Lit about 3 years ago...the stories...I would read sexy stories to my husband...then I noticed the pic boards one day...so I lurked there for a while...we would look at threads together....then I started a pic thread with my best friend for fun...he knew about it...he was here for most of the photo shoots....I still come here cuz I got to know people and I like to post to them and see what's up...I also like to read other threads...so for some people it is different....everyone has a different reason for being here...but whatever the reason is I hope people have fun and learn something....

 

[SweetErika]

Just my thoughts...
but I think alot here are BSin their way and Lit gives them a good venue to do that.
Way to many freaky chics who love the attention and tease their way along.Shy overweight homely types who suddenly find they are popular and "lusted" after.Enough hard up men to make em feel that way!
Goodlooking woman seldom need to come to a place like Lit for attention.
Some live their lives thru this stuff and that is very scary!

I've met two from here...
no thanks!
More baggage than Ivana Trump on a trip to Europe!

Surely a good looking woman in our situation exists...( I'm in yours!) that would love to keep her life the same but enjoy an occasional get together without the craziness.
but I'm not sure if this is the place to meet one.

I think the lack of responses to this thread says alot about the folks we are dealing with!

If the caliber of the people here is so low, why are YOU here?

Of course there are a lot of overweight, unattractive, shy people here...but you meet them everyday in the grocery store and on the street as well.

Maybe being "lusted after" and getting attention helps some of those people feel better about themselves, less shy, practice communication, and meet others. That's great for them! Plus, this is a DISCUSSION board...appearance has nothing to do with it, although I have met and/or exchanged pictures with many very attractive people from Lit. Sure, there are personals, and maybe you'll meet someone with similar interests for friendship, a fling, or love, but that's just a bonus.

A lot of us don't come here for attention or a fling. Many of us are happily married and would never consider hiding our activities from our spouses or cheating on them. Most of us are real people who have pluses and minuses and some baggage, but you're going to find that anywhere.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Okay. I have logged on to Lit on and off for about the last three years or so.

I rarely post...normally just read posts or PM others.

I am bored...so I am going to random state some thoughts...and if you want to share...please do.

I find that those who have the most erotic avatars normally get responses to their posts...since I have no idea how to get an avatar...who knows if people will reply (that is not an open invitation for step by step avatar directions...I still would not have the pacients to figure it out anyway).

I am married...and there have been a few married women who I have become friends with over Lit. I have met one in person over sushi once. The sushi was horrible...it was not very sexual...harmless flirting, but it was exciting...why is that?

I know like many - male and female - who are on Lit...we love our spouces, are happy in our relationship...but yet we still go on Lit...Do we miss the chase? Is it our only safe outlet to be bad?

For me, I am also probably a bit sexually frustrated...have a bit of a Madonna/Whore Complex with my wife...which I assume many others also have...as much as I care for my wife and love my life...still have the desire to have a random stricly physical experience...

The reality in all of this, is that if it ever came down to walking the walk...I would probably wimp out...hmmm, maybe...depends I guess.

I am probably more interested in finding people who are in a simliar boat, share similiar conflicting thoughts that I do.

It also strange, when I think about who is on the site regularly...I see a lot of Aussie, Brits...also a lot of people from Ohio and Wisconsin, whats that about? I am from New York City...there are a lot of us from here.

I find that there also a lot of people who have voids and they use Lit to fill those voids...we all have them, obviously I defined mine on this post. But we need to be careful that people do not go to the extreme...people who actually live their life through Lit...and I have met a few of them online...

I do not mean to be controversial or judgemental...but there are some...who dont use Lit as just an escape or as a fantasy or even as simply a way to meet other like minded people...but as a reality...for those people I worry.

Sorry about my long winded post. Excuse all these ramblings...

I know none of it connects...thats what happens when I am board.

 

[Maxell46]

There ya go!
More responses and reaction in a few hours than the past 10 days
I had a feeling what I posted might rile the crowd and get some fingers typing.

And as far as baggage...
Lord knows I've enough of my own and do realize each of us comes with some.The stuff I had to deal with was way beyond anything I would want to.

Enough said...

Also no offense meant to those of you addicted to this Lit site.
You know who you are.Your # of posts gives you away

 

[Cathleen]

There ya go!
More responses and reaction in a few hours than the past 10 days
I had a feeling what I posted might rile the crowd and get some fingers typing.

And as far as baggage...
Lord knows I've enough of my own and do realize each of us comes with some.The stuff I had to deal with was way beyond anything I would want to.

Enough said...

Also no offense meant to those of you addicted to this Lit site.
You know who you are.Your # of posts gives you away

lol Maxell..... I sure was addicted, had a ton of laughs and met some nice folks - pretty good use of my time while I was convalescing!

It sure can be intersting here! You did well getting some thoughts going........

 

[Jonaol]

Thank you!

Okay...first off...this totally made my day...had not checked out the thread for a couple of days...and now this!

Max..I have no idea who you are, but thank you for throwing in a dash of opinions to get the thread going...I would say I DO NOT completely agree with you,but you make some very insightful and I think fair insights...especially since they come from true experiences.

To answer someone question - maybe Max (and myself) stay on Lit in hopes of meeting interested like-minded people. I think that is the nice thing about this place...it is a bit of a community, there are a lot of different kinds of people...there are not inhibitions...and yes, its a bit passive-agressive...but obviously it fills some void in all of us.

Elizabeth...anything else...was not sure what you were saying there...

To EVERYONE ELSE...thanks for replying...again, my hope was to create a dialog and hopefully get to know some interesting people....so I am really happy you all replied.

 

[Jonaol]

bump

come on!

 

[Maxell46]

Hey folks!

I just re-read my initial reply and...yeah...I came off kinda harsh sounding
I think I just had some flashbacks to a couple of experiences that left a sour taste in my mouth (...non sexual tastes! ) and I vented a bit.

Anyway I sometimes take a break from Lit and will go months without coming here.Usually this is when work is very busy and I've no time for much thinking/fantasizing.
But I always seem to make my way back usually in the hopes of making a friend or two ....real life or just on this computer in front of me.
I do enjoy tha fact that woman here are much more open and upfront about sex and sexuality.Its what first lured me to this site many years ago
I just read read stories for a couple of years before finally signing on as a member.I like to write and read good old fashioned hot n smouldering erotica.The writing is just for me...and whomever I happen to be PMing/e mailing.

Have a great day folks!

Max