Thoughts about Swinging????

[fun4me/him]

I am new to these posts but I have to say that I have enjoyed reading them.

My partner and I are considering getting into swinging. We have been to a couple of clubs and it interests us. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get started or even opinions about the whole scene.

 

[Softly]

Love to Swing

Hi Fun,

My husband and I swing together, and alone. Have done so in many areas of the country. Some general comments.

We like it for the sex, and the intimacy with strangers.
We never tell anyone our true name or phone number.
No interest in affairs, and make that clear to others.
Use a screen name for all contacts.
Even if you are swinging alone, convey that your husband knows of your meetings.

Swing clubs, whether large or small, are run by a woman.
No means no everywhere, so you can go to a place and look without an obligation to do anything. About 30% of the time we decide that the crowd is not our type and leave.

To be asked into a sub group, both the men and woman of the group must approve of you both. You will find that the woman have veto power over everything.


why swing? You can explore your sexuality without any strings. The first time that you take three young guys into a bed room, you will experience a level of sex that no one man can provide to you. Neither you or they has to worry abourt the timing of your orgasms.

To find people in your area, use a mega search engine like Dogpile and enter a string like this: Sex+Swinger+Ohio.You will be amazed how many people are into swinging.

The traveling professional guys all live on their computers, and know the sites to review for the ads in areas that they go to. There are some super studs out there.


Try these.
http://www.Swingers-top100.com http://www.senior swingers
Florida Swingers Resourse Swingersusa.com
NASCA

Never pay for any information. It is free somewhere.
Need more information, write to me at, My Crazy Dream@AOL.com



[Edited by Softly on 11-01-2000 at 12:29 PM]

 

[NewEnglandBBW]

Hello Fun!

I'm single, but got into the swinging scene with friends (a couple) a while back. My best advice from observing them, as well as other couples..

COMMUNICATE!!

Talk about what is/ isn't acceptable beforehand, and stick to it. I used to watch them get into some heated arguments at parties because one wanted to go beyond the limits they'd set beforehand. That's not to say the rules can't change as time goes on, but it didnt' seem to me that they should be making those choices in "the heat of the moment" so to speak.

It was sad seeing them both hurt because they lacked communication. I think they had a communication problem in general, but I was privy to some of their limitations, as I was involved sexually with them at the time. I had to leave the situation because of the communication problem (theirs, not mine).

I think it can be a great way to explore and just plain have fun!! I actually would love to find a man (husband or steady partner) who is interested in some occasional alternative activities. It was a lot of fun.

Good Luck!
NEBBW

 

[fun4me/him]

Thanks Softly and NEBBW. The input is much appreciated. I would love to hear more from anyone out there. Especially on how to approach getting started.

 

[svenj]

You know what pisses me off? I've looked at a few clubs in the N.E. area, and all of them forbid male/male contact. Is this the (double) standard? I guess I should just keep looking...or hope that male homosexuality becomes as cute, quirky and erotic as lesbianism.

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/ven

 

[NewEnglandBBW]

Svenj

And, most of the N.E. clubs forbid single males (though I've seen a trend that they're allowing a few now).

It doesn't seem fair, I know, but I'll be the Devil's advocate here for a moment.. Single men have also been the ones who have created more problems. I'm not sure there is a good answer.

If you find someplace that allows single men or male/male contact, please post it so we'll all know!!

NEBBW

 

[Guest]

My partner and I are considering getting into swinging. We have been to a couple of clubs and it interests us. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get started or even opinions about the whole scene.

Well, if you don't mind the "bar scene" then you're already one up on me by having swinger's clubs where you are!! Since you've said you've already checked them out, and that they interest you, you might be able to find what you're looking for at the clubs. If not, this lovely net world might be able to help you. There's a site (Alt.com) that deals with alternative lifestlyes. It's more or less a Personals site... Also, here at Lit, we have Personal Ads. There's also Personals at Yahoo.com, and Love@AOL. Don't underestimate the idea of meeting someone online. There's a lot of great people out there! I already know, I've found mine here. Goodluck to you two!!

 

[fun4me/him]

Thanks Tiggs! We found a chat room for this area and have started meeting alot of couples from around here. I had my first sort of experience on a dance floor at one of the clubs. Just what I had imagined.....very exciting!!!!!!
Can't wait for more!

 

[catlover]

swinging

you might like to check out http://www.adultfriendfinder.com

It's free, and covers the entire US, as well as much of the entire world.

Good luck and happy times!