Those three little words

[seXieleXie]

I love you.

is it hard for you to say that? is it hard for you to accept it when said to you?


i have a hard time with the word love. i can say "i love this song" or "i love sleep" but when it comes to a person... it's really difficult for me to say "i love you," even if i know in my heart it's true.


it's even harder for me to accept those words from others. when i hear them my first thought is usually "yeah, sure you do."

english really only has one word for love. i wish it was like latin, where there were three different words for three different kinds of love. maybe that would make me more comfortable with the term.

 

[Jim_Henson]

It used to be impossible, now with one person its impossible not to.

If there were levels of love t'would be nice but cant be choosy I guess.

there is a whole nother level tween I love you and I'm IN love with you.

I described it one day along the lines of this. "I love you is I feel strongly for you, I care about you a great deal and I want you to be happy. I'm in love with you is I need you, and I cant live without you... and the rest"

 

[seXieleXie]

i think it would be easier to say "i'm in love with you" than to say "i love you." to me "i love you" is something more perminant than "i'm in love with you."

 

[red_rose]

i think it would be easier to say "i'm in love with you" than to say "i love you." to me "i love you" is something more perminant than "i'm in love with you."

I agree with you there.

I told a friend of mine recently how much it freaks me out when people I barely know say they love me. It almost makes my skin crawl because I know they can't mean it! They don't know me well enough to love everything about me... and therefore, they can't truly love me.

Lately, though, I've had fears of not telling the people I love that I do love them. I am slowly allowing myself to not freak out about that word. I'm learning to give it...and to accept it more often.

I think my problem with the words "I love you" stem from having people revoke them in the past.

 

[sexy-girl]

when i got told for the first time that someone loved me i was close to tears and i said that i woudnt say i love you too because i want to wait and for it to be seperate and special

i said i love you to her the same night though

 

[seXieleXie]

i know what you mean sg. "i love you too" seems so automatic.

 

[Guest]

 

[intrigued]

It used to be impossible, now with one person its impossible not to.

If there were levels of love t'would be nice but cant be choosy I guess.

there is a whole nother level tween I love you and I'm IN love with you.

I described it one day along the lines of this. "I love you is I feel strongly for you, I care about you a great deal and I want you to be happy. I'm in love with you is I need you, and I cant live without you... and the rest"

I like.

I can say it, but it takes me time, and even then, I wait until I feel my heart will burst if I don't say it.

Hearing it, well...hmm...I haven't heard it too many times, so I don't know. I love it when my kiddies say it.

 

[sexy-girl]

i know what you mean sg. "i love you too" seems so automatic.

i had never been told i love you before i didnt know the rules i felt i should say i love you too but i didnt want to because it felt cheap ... it was a little awkward at first because i dont think she understood what i meant at first but she was happy in the end

and i did show her inbetween that i did love her too

 

[Laurel]

I say it often to the one I love. I don't ever say it if I don't mean it. I rarely mean it, so I rarely say it to anyone besides Manu. To him, I can't help but say it many times a day, and he to me.

 

[fgarvb1]

I like "hey let's fuck" a lot better... At least you know they mean it.

I've heard "I love you" From a couple of the best liars this side of hell.

 

[seXieleXie]

I say it often to the one I love. I don't ever say it if I don't mean it. I rarely mean it, so I rarely say it to anyone besides Manu. To him, I can't help but say it many times a day, and he to me.

*melt*

you are so cute laurel.

 

[LordLucan74]

Love and Loving

Love is a natural feeling that we must express. When we love others we are fulfilling one of the most important reasons for our very existence. We should love without restraint, without motive and without seeking reciprocity. We should say it and more importantly we should show it and live it. Love comes in many ways and many forms and can be demonstrated in a multitude of ways. But, when it comes to sharing it, the first thing one must do is say it.

Many of us have been hurt by those whom we have loved. Or, been hurt by those who claimed to love us. To be sure, these are bad and unfortunate occurances. I have had it happen many times in my life.

However, I have never allowed these events to take from me my natural need to love and express it...be it to God, my dear elderly mother whom I adore, my son whom I treasure, to my many friends without whom I could not continue, and to my neighbors (ie the community at large). I even pray daily that I may be given the grace to love those that have hurt me in the past. It is not easy, but nevertheless I try.

I hope that made some sense!!! I love you Margot!!

 

[LordLucan74]

Loving Has Risks

Loving and our need for it is fraught with risks and that, no doubt, is why we in this society are so cynical about it. After all, our needs and our desires make us vulnerable and we have no greater need and no greater desire than to love and to be loved. At the risk of sounding like a purveyor of cliches, I say this...nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 

[LordLucan74]

St Clement wrote these words:

"Love is neither servile nor arrogant. It does not provoke schisms or form cliques, but always acts in harmony with others.... Beyond all description are the heights to which it lifts us."

These words were written almost 1750 years ago. True then and now.

 

[oceanbaby28]

I have a hard time with it too.

I think sometimes ppl throw those words around too easily and don't really have the feelings that should be behind the words.

When it comes to saying the words myself.. I tend to hold them back for fear of looking foolish if they're not reciprocated. And when it comes to having them said to me... well I won't lie.. I tend to feel like there's no way they could be talking about me.

I like what you shared LL... very on the money.

 

[Guest]

It's easy for me to say I love you, coz English is my second language.

















It's really difficult to say it in my native Senegalise diarect.




















Try saying to your loved one, ''Ngokomenoii Puchitagongay Obabankonetap.''

 

[KillerMuffin]

Interesting how people work?

The words "I love you" don't mean anything to me. I could say them to someone I hated. Of course, "I love you" usually meant "I own you." Love never actually entered the picture.

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: I have a hard time with it too.

I think sometimes ppl throw those words around too easily and don't really have the feelings that should be behind the words.

When it comes to saying the words myself.. I tend to hold them back for fear of looking foolish if they're not reciprocated. And when it comes to having them said to me... well I won't lie.. I tend to feel like there's no way they could be talking about me.

I like what you shared LL... very on the money.

Thanks oceanbaby!! I was afraid that I sounded a bit preachy, however I have strong feelings about this. Curiously, I find it somewhat easier to show love and express it to others than I do to accept it for myself. I suppose that I somehow feel unworthy?? I don't know. I like making others happy and making others feel good. I like making others feel loved and accepted. It brings me great joy in fact.

 

[LordLucan74]

Interesting how people work?

The words "I love you" don't mean anything to me. I could say them to someone I hated. Of course, "I love you" usually meant "I own you." Love never actually entered the picture.

I would never say "I Love You" to someone I did not love. That would make me a liar. And thankfully, there is no one I hate and there are few who I dislike. I sometimes find others tiresome or aggravating, and usually those are people I love strangely enough. However, as an honest and forgiving person, I suppose it is easy for me to love and trust others. And furthermore, saying I love you with a machination in mind is corrupting of the whole idea of love and, in my view, is the beginning of evil itself. Evil is the arch-nemesis of love and it seeks to destroy it and all of us. If we are robbed of love and the ability to love, then we are easy prey!!!

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[LordLucan74]

I have an inablity to say them to anyone other than my son or other close family. I don't say it unless I mean it, wholeheartedly. Often I'm afraid to say it even if the feeling is there.

Worse than not being able to say the words, I also can't believe when they are said to me. To me they are just monosyllabic words that mean nothing when they come from anyone outside of my child or family. It's that "once bitten, twice shy" issue. I figure people say them because they think it is what is expected or what a person needs to hear...even when they aren't felt. To me that's wrong.

I do completely understand what you are saying here indeed, but am sad because you feel this way. There is something about what you said and how you said it that belies a certain unhappiness. I hope you don't mind my saying that. I hope that, in the fullness of time, you will be happier and I firmly believe that you can facilitate the process by opening yourself up to love and all of the wonderful things love brings. Take care and best heartfelt wishes!!

 

[nike]

I love you.

is it hard for you to say that? is it hard for you to accept it when said to you?

Not at all in either case. I dont think I could hear it enough from my sweetie. And I think I say it waay to much to him.

 

[penguindance]

 

[LordLucan74]

I'm one of those people who falls in love too easily. It's a wicked curse, there really should be a cure.

Curse?? I think not. I think it is a beautiful thing. I am like that as well. And, while I have had pain as a result, I have no regrets and would never change that about myself. The cure is finding the right person to love and then loving with every ounce of your being.