This is goig to be the most depressing holiday ever..

[Purrde Flower]

*sigh*

 

[Guest]

It doesn't have to be. You're with us.

 

[Guest]

 

[Purrde Flower]

It doesn't have to be. You're with us.

Manxy you are the best

* buys Flower a new bandana, wraps it opretty and presents it with a big smile and no clothes on*

*perks up* WOW! Thanks.. and I don't mean just the bandana!

 

[princess4u]

i am sorry to hear that purrde - i suffer with depression so i know how you feel - although that probably doesn't help

try to be good to yourself - and remember you deserve it - if you don't have a smile of your own, here's one of mine

 

[Purrde Flower]

Well I'm not only depressed for me I'm depressed for my kids. I have a lot of family things planed for us on Christmas day.. Mostly because I'm super poor cause child care cost around 400 a week when I make around 250-300.

This year my daughters class wrote Santa letters. I thought it was cute.. But I didn't know Santa was going to write back promising certain gifts that won't be appearing Christmas day.

I got into a fight with my ex the other day. Over divorce and child support. I'm super lonely in more ways than one. I miss having someone to cuddle with or to just sit beside me and hold my hand.

 

[Bindii]

Xmas can be one the most lonely and stressful times of the year. We all want the best for our kids and I know how hard it is trying to find the money to give our children all the presents their little hearts desire. What we often forget though is that its usually the smallest things that make the biggest impressions of children.

I know that as a child I was spoilt rotten - recieving more presents that any other children in the neighbourhood....yet looking back I cannot remember a single present that I recieved. I do remember the times we shared as a family on xmas day though.....special lunches and laughter shared with my family made more of an impact than all of the money that they spent on my gifts.

Spending the day with your children showing them that you love them will make their day more special than the most expensive present. They will be happy with something small each (from Santa).

How are you managing to survive when childcare is costing more than you are earning. Something is wrong there.

 

[Purrde Flower]

I'm not. I had to quit the job I tried another job but that didn't work out very well.

 

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[EarthWind]

Hi...

~hugs~

i dont have anything for the holidays either... my family is far far away, i have no money and i think i have stuff to make spaghetti for x-mas dinner. although i have no children, my dog will go without a present his first christmas...

~hugs~

remember, love is in you and all around you... (esp. here at Lit.)


Hmmm, one more thing..

~hugs~

 

[Purrde Flower]

OK heres the scoop
I want you to call Social services tommarow am. You ask them about child care assistance

When I needed it, they helped.

They figure helping with child care id better then paying out welfare.

Do it!!!
Its amazing

Also, some Child centers offer scholerships to parents who need finacial assitance

Pleas elook into it
I was lucky to finally land a job where they work me while the kids are in school
I love having a great boss!

We don't qualify for these services. My son recieves SSI. They count that as a family income. When it really isn't. But they do anyway.

 

[Purrde Flower]

Also, call toys for tots.

Someone turned my name in one year.

I got a ton of stuff, and free pizzas from a local pizza place

Check it out.
Right now you need all the help you can get.

I will look into this tomorrow Thanks.

 

[Forever_Gemini]

Awwwww.... Flower, I feel for you...

This will be the first year I wont get a call from my mom (she died last year around this time...) I'm not only missing her as my mom, but as my best friend!

...Get involved with 'Toys for Tots' and any other foundations - use the web! Best wishes to all of you.

 

[His_kitty]

I know how you feel doll.

EE made some very good reccomendations to you, there is help out there for you to take advantage of. No shame in it, you aren't trying to mooch the system... you just need a bit of assistance.

Bindi is also correct that when they get older what they are going to remember isn't the new cool toys they've gotten, but the feelings of being loved and treasured. Kids are smarter and more understanding about these things than we sometimes give them credit for.

All I had to say to my son was, "because I don't have as much money this year, there won't be as many presents... " He just said he knew and it was okay, it wasn't all about getting presents and that he had plenty of stuff already and it wasn't a big deal. I wish I could buy him more just for that alone, but I can't.

This is my first Christmas alone and while I don't miss my ex - I'm sure it will be less stressful than previous years actually lol - I have to share my son and I'll only have him for half the day on Christmas.

Another idea, give them coupons for things. Like your time. A coupon for playing any game they want. A coupon to take them to the park when the weather is nicer. Things that only require your time, not your money.

Happy Holidays hon....

 

[erosman]

The best Christmas that I recall with our kids, was one where we had nothing to give each other than our smile and laughter. Bindii said it well. You have a great opportunity to teach your kids that happiness depends more on disposition than circumstances. The trappings often dull the most meaningful of times in a relationships.

hugs

 

[Mistress]

just another day for me....




i feel your pain

 

[Purrde Flower]

This will be the very first Christmas away from their dad. So they are kinda bummed out anyway. I do have a lot of things planned this week though. We are going to go to the dollar show for free on Christmas day and see a few movies. Go have a picnic at the park. I might even be able to find the gas money to go visit some family a few hours away for Christmas dinner.

 

[glamorilla]

hey.

at least this year from hell is almost over.

 

[Mia62]

Aww, babe. I am so sorry. You know where I am if you need a pal.

 

[Purrde Flower]

hey.

at least this year from hell is almost over.

No mine begins In January or early febuary when I file for divorce. While I will be a lot happier and healthier for it.. I don't think it's going to be a pretty trip.

 

[glamorilla]

ouch!

it's only easy when it doesn't matter.

 

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[Blindinthedark]

Look at it this way:
Things can only get better.

*hug*