this is a stupid attempt

[tonifer]

how the hell to i get girls to reply to any post on here, i offer complete slavery, any pic in any way that they want, and girls blow me off

 

[Chicklet]

Well, for one, I'd say the vast majority of the chicks on here are taken. Secondly, most people in general tend to lean towards a submissive role. So, on Lit, you're pretty much screwed. Read through the personals: they're 99% submissives.

you're going to have a tough time as a submissive male on ANY site you go to, and any event in real life that you go to. I'd suggest Collarme, but you're still not going to have much luck there.

you could try looking up local munches, and going there, but in my experience the submissive males are mostly SOL. (that's shit out of luck, if you're wondering.)

 

[SweetErika]

Well, for one, I'd say the vast majority of the chicks on here are taken. Secondly, most people in general tend to lean towards a submissive role. So, on Lit, you're pretty much screwed. Read through the personals: they're 99% submissives.

you're going to have a tough time as a submissive male on ANY site you go to, and any event in real life that you go to. I'd suggest Collarme, but you're still not going to have much luck there.

you could try looking up local munches, and going there, but in my experience the submissive males are mostly SOL. (that's shit out of luck, if you're wondering.)

I agree with you when it comes to the garden variety sub male, who's mainly looking to fulfill his fantasies and get off. Most of these guys don't have their shit together, nor do they actually want to submit or serve a real Dominant in real life. They usually want someone to give them the services they'd normally have to pay for via phone sex, pay websites or seeing a ProDomme.


Then there's the REAL submissive male, who's actually looking to submit and serve a real person, rather than his fantasy Dom to fulfill his fantasies, even if sometimes he has to do things he really doesn't enjoy. These guys have good lives: steady jobs, they're not cheating, they do have real life friends and hobbies.

The real submissive male is exceedingly rare and highly sought after, in my experience.

So, tonifer, it's up to you to decide which type you are and want to be. Are you the dime-a-dozen guy who sends out a bunch of PM's hoping you'll get some woman to do something that will get you off, or do you look carefully for ladies you have things in common with and hope to take pleasure in whatever gets THEM off? Are you thinking about what's in it for you, or are you focusing on what's in it for THEM?

You have to understand there are tons of guys who send messages offering pics, camming and following cyber-orders. Most of those messages don't show any thought or writing ability, which are important when a lot of the relationship is going to involve writing. They portray women as pieces of meat for their pleasure, when most Dominant women especially, expect to be treated with respect and offered things for their pleasure. Why should they pick you, or any guy who's basically just looking to get off, when they could spend time seeking people who are interested in, and willing to go great lengths for, THEIR pleasure?

The solution is to change your approach. Get to know women by participating in good discussions (and not just in AmPics) on sites like this. Show your true personality, and value them for their personalities. Eventually, you'll find people you connect with on a more personal level, and you can go from there.

 

[JamieB]

Great advice and insight already posted here

I might only add, try making the personal connections first. Make friends and get to know people, and you might be surprised what opportunities present themselves.

J

 

[NoLeafClover7]

I might only add, try making the personal connections first. Make friends and get to know people, and you might be surprised what opportunities present themselves.

J

I agree. Women HATE guys who sound desperate and are like "WHY WON'T ANYONE PAY ATTENTION TO ME?" If they see you're reasonably intelligent and a respectable person on here, then they'll probably be more inclined to give you a chance. But I repeat, just for future reference, what you just did here NEVER will get a woman's attention unless she is SUPER desperate. A level of being desperate I have yet to ever see.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

The Amature Picture Feedback and Literotica Personals forums probably won't get you very far. Have you tried the BDSM and GLBT boards. You'll likely do better there.