Think about your avatar

[amelia]

remember that your avatar both serves to identify you and to color your post. People will make unconscious assumptions about your attitude and personality based on everything from the subject matter of your avatar, to its style, to even the colors it uses.

very true..and well said.

 

[LordLucan74]

So...I shouldnt hit on you just cause I like the cock in your av?

Correct. I would want to be liked for other reasons, not least my intelligence and my excellent people skills. My cock really does not matter in absolute terms. It is useful for urination and fucking, but hardly the foundation of a well-grounded relationship.

 

[sxychick21]

Correct. I would want to be liked for other reasons, not least my intelligence and my excellent people skills. My cock really does not matter in absolute terms. It is useful for urination and fucking, but hardly the foundation of a well-grounded relationship.

The cock caught my eye (esp on a thread ABOUT avs) the intelligent posts kept me around. I'm still deciding on the people skills

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Think about your avatar

very true..and well said.

Amelia, is that you in your av?? If so you are lovely. Sadly. you have chosen to agree with a completely vacuous and ludicrous statement....a veritable apology for uni-dimensional thinking.

 

[chromefreak]

Re: Re: Think about your avatar

I wonder what my choice of AV says about me?

Hello everybody, I'm a german minefield...

Does that make me a Primer Black Deathmobile?

For some reason I wanted to use an AV from Mad Max. I had a pic of Max lying in the road, about to be run over by bikers as he's reaching for a shotgun. Captures a tense moment in the film...

...But alas, when I resized it you couldn't tell what it was. Oh well.

 

[LordLucan74]

The cock caught my eye (esp on a thread ABOUT avs) the intelligent posts kept me around. I'm still deciding on the people skills

Trust me my dear, many are either in your situation or are revising their preconceived opinions. My people skills are sublime. I am always kind and generous, but also widely hated as a result of the same. I am a straight talker. Like Bill O'Reilly, No Spin here.

 

[Guest]

Gee...

I just selected my avatar because I thought it was cool.

 

[sxychick21]

Trust me my dear, many are either in your situation or are revising their preconceived opinions. My people skills are sublime. I am always kind and generous, but also widely hated as a result of the same. I am a straight talker. Like Bill O'Reilly, No Spin here.

So can I hit on you because I like that about you? (and you called me dear...)

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Gee...

I just selected my avatar because I thought it was cool.

And you have chosen well and for the right reasons too. Good job. Be warned, most will not judge so generously as I have. Some think you are your av. I am a dick LOL

 

[LordLucan74]

So can I hit on you because I like that about you? (and you called me dear...)

You were kind and I found that endearing. A rose for you---> Many Thanks

 

[chromefreak]

Now, I’d like to make it very clear that I’m not talking to any one poster, nor am I pretending to hand down commandments from the mountaintop. This is just my opinion:

If you plan to engage in serious discussion please be aware of your avatar’s ability undermine your credibility.

To go along with that; remember that your avatar both serves to identify you and to color your post. People will make unconscious assumptions about your attitude and personality based on everything from the subject matter of your avatar, to its style, to even the colors it uses.

User Handles and Sig Lines can do the same thing, they're just not as visual.

Part of the attraction to socializing on the internet for some people is their ability to remain anonymous if they so choose, and create their own ideal persona of themselves, without having to be called on it, whereas in real life they'd been more easily seen for who they are.

 

[sxychick21]

Re: Re: Think about your avatar

User Handles and Sig Lines can do the same thing, they're just not as visual.

Part of the attraction to socializing on the internet for some people is their ability to remain anonymous if they so choose, and create their own ideal persona of themselves, without having to be called on it, whereas in real life they'd been more easily seen for who they are.

For me its not so much remaining anonymous, its highlighting the positives and playing down the negatives. Is that wrong? I never lie but neither do I tell everyone everything. Am I dishonest?

 

[intrigued]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: To Quote John Wayne:

Unfortunately, I disagree. Certain people on Lit (and the net in general) may be real. However, I have detected quite a number who are emotionally and intellectually dishonest. While one can be real and share emotions here on the net, real life takes place out there in the real world, Not on a computer screen nor in a message board.

Thats why I said get a life. If this avatar issue is so germain in someone's life, then they need a life. The starter of this thread is crying out for a life in desperate abandon.

I like you because you are so real. But, if you want a hanger-on, a fan who fawns over you, or something like that, I am not able to do that. If you want a real genuine friend, that I can and will do. I would be a poor friend indeed if I was not able to love you while simultaneously being in disagreement with you. I am a friend, not a 24/7 cheering section. Furthermore, I am intellectually and emotionally honest and mature. Maybe you (and Lit people in total) are unaccustomed to that. Criticism here is always perceived as negative or even mean spirited. That is Not my modus operandi. You should well know that by now.

I can not believe this thread is expanded to almost 7 pages. Some people have way too much time on their hands...

Intrigued, I still adore you sweetie. I was never directing any of this toward you per se. I still can not believe that you took it that way. We will just have to disagree on this.

I am shocked that you felt the need to say ANY of this to ME.

I never took you personally except with regard to the "get a life" comment that I know was not addressed to me specifically, in that you did not say MY name. But you still said it, and it pisses me to no end to see someone sitting on a computer, saying that to someone else sitting on a computer.
To go so far as to say that Never is crying out for life in desperate abandon is so totally ludicrous to me, and you know what, that is MY opinion, and i can express that, just as you express yours, only you express yours with wild abandon, sarcasm and always, always belittling others that differ with you. By the way, I never did initially, I never even addressed you as you weren't in this thread at the time of my first reply. In fact, I never differed with anyone, period.
No, we do not see criticism as negative or mean spirited, unless it IS. You could really stand to learn to differ without sarcasm and belitting. It would be so much more mentally appealing.

I don't need or expect a cheering section, as you put it, from anyone at all, ever. I don't need anyones approval for my thoughts, deeds or actions. (Funny, what I get, however, is respect.) I validate myself, thank you. What I expect from my friends is honesty, and to tell me when I've screwed up, (I did not screw up), not to blindly agree with every word that comes out of my mouth. If I wanted that, well, I'd just whip out my tape recorder and look in the mirror a bit.

Excuse the hell out of me, but there are countless people at Lit that are intellectually and emotionally honest and mature, myself included, so please don't insinuate that we aren't accustomed to that, as though you are some breath of fresh air to us dishonest, fake people. Certainly there are those that aren't, and to group me with those even remotely as you did by saying "if" I wanted that, was the final blow. You know me so damn much better than that, and many others do too, and you went too damn far.

You go on and on about how you can't believe how long this thread is, and about real life not being on a computer, and about people having too much time on their hands, yet this thread is full of your replies. Hmmm......

And yes, I certainly do agree to disagree with you.

 

[sxychick21]

You were kind and I found that endearing. A rose for you---> Many Thanks

Perceptive and a gentleman. A for you.

Kind of sucks to follow that rant...

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: Think about your avatar

For me its not so much remaining anonymous, its highlighting the positives and playing down the negatives. Is that wrong? I never lie but neither do I tell everyone everything. Am I dishonest?

If I may answer this, I will say it is "honestly disengenuous." I would never use the phrase outside the cyber-universe. It fits here. In my case, I am 100% real online and that is why I am 75% hated and 97% misunderstood. I never stop being me...not here nor anywhere else.

 

[takingchances42]

Intrigued is also 100% real, and she is 99% loved. Food for thought.

 

[Naughty n Nice]

I just am stunned that judging on words and deeds is a bad thing while judging others based on avatars is not. See what I mean about emotional/intellectual maturity?? QED!

Now see? At what point was I ever judging? I was merely point out the irony. It's you that has managed to put all of us down. Who are you to talk about emotional/intellectual maturity? I don't have 'standards' on which I judge people on, I'm better than that. I'm also mature enough to drop this before you make a bigger ass of yourself.

 

[sxychick21]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Think about your avatar

If I may answer this, I will say it is "honestly disengenuous." I would never use the phrase outside the cyber-universe. It fits here. In my case, I am 100% real online and that is why I am 75% hated and 97% misunderstood. I never stop being me...not here nor anywhere else.

Ok...sorry I need a dictionary on that one...explain please!

Also, I think we are saying the same thing here. Im not a different person online than I am in RL. But you will see a different SIDE of me on here than you would in the grocery store or church. Does that clarify or are we disagreeing?

One more thing, I was mainly talking about my av not so much my writing in the post to chromefreak. My writing is ALL me and 100% real

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Gee...

And you have chosen well and for the right reasons too. Good job. Be warned, most will not judge so generously as I have. Some think you are your av. I am a dick LOL

________

I think I can appreciate some of what is said here.

But I'm not going to lose any fucking sleep because someone wishes to 'judge' me based on some artist's conception of a fantasy mancat borrowed (for free) from an friggin' cyberspace website.

What a shallow, incoherent linkage to reality if one wants to seriously tie an artist's fantasy rendition to a real person. It actually reveals something about the person trying to making that leap.

We're just PLAYING here! OK?

*Sheesh*

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: To Quote John Wayne:

I am shocked that you felt the need to say ANY of this to ME.

I never took you personally except with regard to the "get a life" comment that I know was not addressed to me specifically, in that you did not say MY name. But you still said it, and it pisses me to no end to see someone sitting on a computer, saying that to someone else sitting on a computer.
To go so far as to say that Never is crying out for life in desperate abandon is so totally ludicrous to me, and you know what, that is MY opinion, and i can express that, just as you express yours, only you express yours with wild abandon, sarcasm and always, always belittling others that differ with you. By the way, I never did initially, I never even addressed you as you weren't in this thread at the time of my first reply. In fact, I never differed with anyone, period.
No, we do not see criticism as negative or mean spirited, unless it IS. You could really stand to learn to differ without sarcasm and belitting. It would be so much more mentally appealing.

I don't need or expect a cheering section, as you put it, from anyone at all, ever. I don't need anyones approval for my thoughts, deeds or actions. (Funny, what I get, however, is respect.) I validate myself, thank you. What I expect from my friends is honesty, and to tell me when I've screwed up, (I did not screw up), not to blindly agree with every word that comes out of my mouth. If I wanted that, well, I'd just whip out my tape recorder and look in the mirror a bit.

Excuse the hell out of me, but there are countless people at Lit that are intellectually and emotionally honest and mature, myself included, so please don't insinuate that we aren't accustomed to that, as though you are some breath of fresh air to us dishonest, fake people. Certainly there are those that aren't, and to group me with those even remotely as you did by saying "if" I wanted that, was the final blow. You know me so damn much better than that, and many others do too, and you went too damn far.

You go on and on about how you can't believe how long this thread is, and about real life not being on a computer, and about people having too much time on their hands, yet this thread is full of your replies. Hmmm......

And yes, I certainly do agree to disagree with you.

I made direct statements. No insinuations.

I recall what you responded to. (Ie, the "get a life statement")

I do not belittle others. If they feel belittled, well, that could point out flaws in their perceptions rather than in my character.
Couldn't it??

I have really hit a nerve here indeed.

I enjoy the web as a diversion from life, not a replacement for it. This thread has caused considerable thoughts both about me and in response to my statements. I am trying to answer them as they pour in.

I have made many friends here that are emotionally / intellectually honest and mature. I have also met many who were not. Facts are stubborn things love.

I agree to disagree with you. C'est la vie. Life is not a demi-paradise.

You are quite cross with me, aren't you?? And over such a silly thing as all this...avatar business.

Real Life is Still Out There------>

I stand 100% behind what I said. It is not sent to your screen via a modem. Nor reduced to algebraic formulae so that your computer can cough it up on command. Once more, I say, facts are facts. What I have just said is a fact. A real tangible fact. I know that even you realize this as well. And, you are too smart not to. So, I will not excuse the hell out of you at all .... There is no hell there to excuse. I will just excuse this anger

 

[takingchances42]

Re: Re: Re: Gee...

________

I think I can appreciate some of what is said here.

But I'm not going to lose any fucking sleep because someone wishes to 'judge' me based on some artist's conception of a fantasy mancat borrowed (for free) from an friggin' cyberspace website.

What a shallow, incoherent linkage to reality if one wants to seriously tie an artist's fantasy rendition to a real person. It actually reveals something about the person trying to making that leap.

We're just PLAYING here! OK?

*Sheesh*

We are all judged every day for superficial things in the real world. From the clothes we wear, to our hair color, to how tall the guys are and how big the women's tits are. Often subconsciously, but judged nonetheless, as numerous psychological experiments have shown.

The AV is part of the package here, along with the the screen name and the sig line, as chromefreak pointed out. Part of the package branding you sell, as DCL points out, assuming someone wants to sell a package. It will matter a great deal more to some people than to others.

But what am I doing wasting my time talking to a pussy like you?

It's an AV joke, calm down

 

[Worm]

<----- Self explanatory.

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Gee...

We are all judged every day for superficial things in the real world. From the clothes we wear, to our hair color, to how tall the guys are and how big the women's tits are. Often subconsciously, but judged nonetheless, as numerous psychological experiments have shown.

The AV is part of the package here, along with the the screen name and the sig line, as chromefreak pointed out. Part of the package branding you sell, as DCL points out, assuming someone wants to sell a package. It will matter a great deal more to some people than to others.

But what am I doing wasting my time talking to a pussy like you?

It's an AV joke, calm down

Another cleverly crafted statement explaining away bigotry and narrow-mindedness. Dr Alfred Rossenburg would be proud.

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: Gee...

________

I think I can appreciate some of what is said here.

But I'm not going to lose any fucking sleep because someone wishes to 'judge' me based on some artist's conception of a fantasy mancat borrowed (for free) from an friggin' cyberspace website.

What a shallow, incoherent linkage to reality if one wants to seriously tie an artist's fantasy rendition to a real person. It actually reveals something about the person trying to making that leap.

We're just PLAYING here! OK?

*Sheesh*

I agree with everything said in the statement quoted save the equivocation.

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Think about your avatar

Ok...sorry I need a dictionary on that one...explain please!

Also, I think we are saying the same thing here. Im not a different person online than I am in RL. But you will see a different SIDE of me on here than you would in the grocery store or church. Does that clarify or are we disagreeing?

One more thing, I was mainly talking about my av not so much my writing in the post to chromefreak. My writing is ALL me and 100% real

We are on the same page. You have it right.