Things you wish you knew before divorce...
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wickedangeleyes
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Thank you all for being so helpful! I have spoken to a Lawyer and they gave me a list of things to accomplish before the next step. I have to take pictures of all of our stuff and they will send an independent party out to confirm the list. That is in case things suddenly go missing. I doubt that would be a problem but they stressed over and over that people often react in ways you would never expect them to when they are told.
I am struggling with the not telling him until we are ready part, I feel like I am cheating or something. It has been leaving my stomach in knots! The stress has also caused my vertigo to kick in overdrive! I can hardly stand up straight!
I took my girls on a mini vacation for several days. It was nice to have something else to think about! I did finally text him while we were gone, that part I will miss... Having someone to text things that nobody else will care about like something silly the dogs did etc.
I am struggling with the not telling him until we are ready part, I feel like I am cheating or something. It has been leaving my stomach in knots! The stress has also caused my vertigo to kick in overdrive! I can hardly stand up straight!
I took my girls on a mini vacation for several days. It was nice to have something else to think about! I did finally text him while we were gone, that part I will miss... Having someone to text things that nobody else will care about like something silly the dogs did etc.
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Bookishleigh
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I was in your shoes a little over a year ago myself - it sucks. It is the worst feeling. BUT right now is probably the hardest part....knowing you are going to do this and he doesn't. Once he knows, it will still be painful, but there is some relief. And I don't want to sound like Debbie Downer but the upcoming months will be tough - do NOT beat yourself up over them. Take extra good care of you, even if it means spending your free time sleeping more or watching TV. I tried to keep moving on a very fast pace and didn't take care of myself and ended up very, very sick. I wish I had allowed myself to be a little more indulgent in that respect.
It all gets better.
It all gets better.
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Close off all revolving joint credit prior to telling them. Things like credit lines, homeline plans, visa's...once they know and they're angry, they can go to the bank and withdraw all available funds and now you're responsible for the debt.
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Look Back And Be Proud
I've been through a divorce and the only advice I would give is picture yourself 5, 10 years from now and be proud of how you acted and the decisions you made. Think of how your kids will look back at this time. Encourage your soon to be ex the same advice - keep the kids out of it and be proud of how you acted in the worst possible moment you've ever known.
I've been through a divorce and the only advice I would give is picture yourself 5, 10 years from now and be proud of how you acted and the decisions you made. Think of how your kids will look back at this time. Encourage your soon to be ex the same advice - keep the kids out of it and be proud of how you acted in the worst possible moment you've ever known.
