Things ya just "love"

[Vixandra]

My "Don'tcha just love" thing of the day- being analized by someone based off my Collarme.com profile (Same name as here if that's any surprise).

I'll not bother posting the entire messages, just the jist of it.

randommalesub(rms)- its close minded not to want a male sub, etc, you're closing yourself off from a lot of good things, etc

me- I've a reason, 'nilla hubby's just not comfy with me seeking a male sub, but a woman is okay with him and I'm happy with it too. And isn't it My right to seek what I want? I did my time defending my freedoms, I think I should be able to use them.

rms- its all about your hubby's fantasy, not yours, blah blah blah

me- That's just special in a short bus kind of way. (really I typed just that)

rms- you're a smart cookie, etc, I'll not beg to serve you, lets be friends, maybe you'll see the power a sub has

Going to write my reply to that last one now, but I thought the whole thing was amusing in a "isn't that f'ed up" way.
Perhaps its the lack of sleep that makes me view it in that light.
And if one other person laughs over this or even smiles, it was worth posting, right?

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, all I can say is I am glad we don't use Collarme.com as from what I see here over the past few months, not only does it seem to have a lot of 'you owe me' type expectations from those responding there, but it seems to be a cruising ground for people to amuse themselves with finding fault with those who do advertise....which then seems to not surprise me there are some who feel they should be considered even though they do not fit what is being sought by the advertiser. It just seems a site which breeds an unhealthy approach to personal advertising, but then I could be wrong because as I said before, the one time I looked, it bored me and seemed to have a huge amount of fakes or unrealisitc expectations people on it so I clicked out and never went back. I think you guys are brave to go there looking.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Eh...I'd just be like, yep it's closed minded, I'm a lesbian. Fuck off.

 

[FurryFury]

Here is what amazes me, not what they say but in general how little they have to say. Most of the people I've talked to have few ideas and seem to be looking for me to entertain them.

Now even though I am Internet addicted and love people, I am a busy person, I don't have that much time to try to pull from each and every person want they want. I get paid for being entertaining so I don't always like to do that in my off time.

Then there are those who "know" what I want/need but I have to prove myself. Yeah, okay, go crawl back under your rock honey.

All that's not to say I didn't meet some nice people on there too. I did. Still I'm glad I'm not getting random pings from "the lost boys" anymore.

Fury

 

[sincerely_helene]

I had originally posted my profile in a lighthearted, informal manner, but one of the first replies I ever recieved was from someone who took me a little too seriously and typed: "Yeah, just what every dom wants, a drunk, lazy moron. Some sub." Then, when I went to respond, he/she had already closed his/her account.

I would have to say about 98 percent of the messages I recieve are polite, but the other 2 percent are just downright nasty, asking me if I even understand what a submissive is simply because my profile mentions that I'm straight, I'm not looking for a threesome and I don't like housework.

All in all, I find the site too hard to keep up with and a lot phonier than even some of the characters I have met at Alt. I also suspect a vast majority of the responses I recieve are site bots at collarme. I'll likely give it another week or so before I completely give up on it and close my account because I'm getting to the point where I'm tired of opening my hotmail and seeing the "you have a new message at collarme" notice 20 times.

 

[serijules]

The name of the site alone is a huge turn off to me...it's like browsing on a vanilla dating site called "marryme.com" or something. Hell, that probably exists. Skip that dating crap, just run to vegas and get married the first time you meet! Is nothing sacred anymore?

It just immediately comes across as a fantasy world. Besides, looking at pictures of people trying to look sexy drives me batty. Either you are sexy, or you are not. If you have to try, you are in the latter category.

 

[Caitlynne]

Here is what amazes me, not what they say but in general how little they have to say. Most of the people I've talked to have few ideas and seem to be looking for me to entertain them.

I agree.

It always surprises me when someone [anyone] thinks that a few generic comments will sustain a 'getting to know each other period'. I had a profile on collarme, just so I could read, but I got inundated with pm's saying hello with what must be some generic form letter type of intro.

The first 3 I received were a dead give away, because they said, "I like your profile", [which I had not filled out], and "Your picture is hot", [and there was no picture up yet].

[and the pm's were equally weird no matter the gender or orientation of the sender. I'll be honest, I was VERY surprised at the agressiveness of male subs trying to manipulate me into a conversation.]

I eventually deleted the account, as it got to a point where it was not even amusing any longer in the "You won't believe this, Sir" as I told Him about it. I wasn't looking to meet anyone anyway. I'm perfectly happy in my current situation, but I did see that there is very little substantial conversation.

And [since I appear to be ranting a little] I flat out ran out of patience with the expression [used IMHO too often by dominants] "Indeed". Which in my opinion is used by men who have learned to keep their mouths shut so they don't put their foot in it. Either that, or they do not really know what I am talking about and they fake 'paying attention'. Either way, it's not real communication and it becomes flat out boring.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

<snip>And [since I appear to be ranting a little] I flat out ran out of patience with the expression [used IMHO too often by dominants] "Indeed". Which in my opinion is used by men who have learned to keep their mouths shut so they don't put their foot in it. Either that, or they do not really know what I am talking about and they fake 'paying attention'. Either way, it's not real communication and it becomes flat out boring.

Indeed?!?

 

[Caitlynne]

Indeed?!?

I expected to come back and find several of these, [deservedly so, btw ]

You happen to be one of the few that can make that 'word' work.. But I'd still get willful on you if it was the ONLY remark you ever made.

 

[graceanne]

...it's like browsing on a vanilla dating site called "marryme.com" or something. Hell, that probably exists. . . . .

Ok, so I'm bored, don't have a life, and was curious. The site marryme.com is 'still under construction'. So there isn't a marryme site yet, but their will be.

 

[serijules]

Ok, so I'm bored, don't have a life, and was curious. The site marryme.com is 'still under construction'. So there isn't a marryme site yet, but their will be.

LOL! good to know, good to know.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I agree.

I'll be honest, I was VERY surprised at the agressiveness of male subs trying to manipulate me into a conversation.]

LOL, my theory is those male 'subs' are nothing more than wolves in sheep clothing....men just trying to play the sub card to get close enough to try and get in a gal's pants. We have come across a few elsewhere....5 minutes of conversation and it becomes obvious they are after one thing and it ain't submission or even D/s.

Catalina

 

[Caitlynne]

LOL, my theory is those male 'subs' are nothing more than wolves in sheep clothing....men just trying to play the sub card to get close enough to try and get in a gal's pants. We have come across a few elsewhere....5 minutes of conversation and it becomes obvious they are after one thing and it ain't submission or even D/s.

Catalina

LOL, ayup!!!!

This was my conculsion too.

 

[Vixandra]

Collarme isn't totally useless.
Actually found the pet I've been chatting with on a daily basis on there. Now if she weren't in Sacramento *heavy sighs*

Still- just luv being analyzed because I'm very very clear I don't want a male and fed up with idiots, no matter what thier orientation in kink or gender.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

LOL, my theory is those male 'subs' are nothing more than wolves in sheep clothing....men just trying to play the sub card to get close enough to try and get in a gal's pants. We have come across a few elsewhere....5 minutes of conversation and it becomes obvious they are after one thing and it ain't submission or even D/s.

Catalina

That's why in my profile I specifically mention I want house/yard slave...

You know what? So far, no takers. *grins and shrugs* Go figure!

 

[shy slave]

I havent ever used collarme, but alt was funny enough.

Nothing better than sitting down at the computer after a long difficult day and reading emails saying

'submit to me, I am your Master now'

Or

'Greek Master wants to lick your pussy, respond now or I will beat you'

Or

'I live in the same county as you, I think we would get on, I don't drive can we meet at your house?'

I am polite but the temptation to respond with a one word answer was tempting.

Now of course, I would want to say 'Fuck, No!' (Thanks Netzach that comment has really made my day )

 

[FLButtSlut]

CM isn't much different than any of the other sites that exist for the bdsm community that I have found (and are FREE). I get the same kind of emails whether it be on alt.com, bondage.com or collarme.com I have even gotten those kinds of PMs HERE.

Granted, my screen name alone is going to get a good number of the HNGs, trolls and flat out idiots (I call them "masterstudlies"), but I did know that was likely given my screen name.

I have a long profile (although that micronation profile makes mine look short) and there are a lot of things throughout my profile that will let me know if it was read or not. My favorite though is "I don't suffer stupidity, ignorance or massive egos lightly, so if you have one and write to me, you must be prepared for the response you get, and you must apparently be secretly looking for someone to let you know exactly how unimpressive you are, because that is exactly what will happen."

That has, needless to say, gotten me accused of being many things, "not a sub" being the nicest! The one thing I do not understand and probably never will is why all the subs and slaves, and even some dommes feel that they need to politley refuse these morons. Certainly, telling them off is not a very submissive or ladylike thing to do, but it does have its endearing qualities!

I have talked to quite a few people over at CM, and some I consider my friends, others are just people I have a great deal of respect for, such as John Warren and his beautiful Libby (yes, the author of The Loving Dominant). Have I met my match over there? No. But I also haven't found him on any of the other sites either, so is there a way to make one better than the other?

I am addicted to the message boards. Here, CM, everywhere I run across them. Slavefarm's forum is a blast! Of course that is because that site has 99% jackasses and it is way too much fun for me to respond to the idiotic posts. Some boards are a good place to learn (I find that on CM), some are strictly for entertainment and honing the "poison pen", and then here I find Marquis satirizing the law with the tort thread, and I get an opportunity to have fun with the things I already know, and the opportunity to discuss things with intelligent people.

Point being they all have their place, and they all have the jackasses that didn't get it when they signed up, don't get it now, and probably never will get it anyway. Have some fun and tell them exactly what you think of them!

By the way, as for having a profile there so you can go to the boards, you can, I believe delete your profile, but maintain your CM identity and still read and post over there. Then you won't get any troll mail. That would be no fun for me, but it is an option.

 

[Vixandra]

I keep a profile up there because it doesn't hurt, for the most part.


STO- there are plenty of idiot females out there. Like the femsub that wanted me to "beat her on her master's behalf" for disappointing him.
And she was old enough to be my mother, which was honestly a bit disconcerning. On quite a few levels.

 

[Miss Trickery]

How come I never get bothered by those crazy-types on collarme? It would be so much more amusing .

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmmm, bit off topic....I just was reading about someone who found a profile on CM where the person was using a pic of them and claiming it was the profile owner's pic of themselves.

Catalina

 

[Recidiva]

That's just special in a short bus kind of way. (really I typed just that)

YAAAAAY!