things slave/subs do to their Master/Doms

[every_mothers_lover]

What type of things do you/r sub/slaves do to you/their Master/Doms without being told to do but dont get punished/tortured for it.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm confused... are you asking what submissives do for their dominant partners that they don't get punished for? does that mean you want examples of ways submissives break "rules", screw up, etc and the dominant lets it slide?

 

[His_pita]

I don't get the question either. Try rewriting it without the / marks and just ask the question.

 

[myinnerslut]

i agree, the question is confusing... i mean, i do a LOT of things in a day, but i dont know what kind of things your asking for

 

[catalina_francisco]

You mean things we decide by ourselves to do, as opposed to being asked to do and thus risk punishment for making the decision it is soemthing the PYL would want without first consulting them? If so, I learnt in the beginning he could get very touchy over me making such decisions, and also it could lead me into dangerous territory if I believed he should be grateful/pleased when he wasn't. He did tend to see it as topping from the bottom or verging on it at times. Now we have spent 5 years together, he is a lottle more accepting of it as he sees it as something I would likely know anyway, but if I make an incorrect judgement and it isn't something he wanted or desired, or he felt I should have asked first, it can still lead to very unpleasant moments.

Catalina

 

[every_mothers_lover]

Thank you catalina_francisco that was a good one, for every one else i will try to re-ask the question.

What type of things do sub/slaves do that are left to slide because their Dom/Master likes it even though they were not told/ordered to do it.

i hope that helps

You mean things we decide by ourselves to do, as opposed to being asked to do and thus risk punishment for making the decision it is soemthing the PYL would want without first consulting them? If so, I learnt in the beginning he could get very touchy over me making such decisions, and also it could lead me into dangerous territory if I believed he should be grateful/pleased when he wasn't. He did tend to see it as topping from the bottom or verging on it at times. Now we have spent 5 years together, he is a lottle more accepting of it as he sees it as something I would likely know anyway, but if I make an incorrect judgement and it isn't something he wanted or desired, or he felt I should have asked first, it can still lead to very unpleasant moments.

Catalina

 

[CutieMouse]

Thank you catalina_francisco that was a good one, for every one else i will try to re-ask the question.

What type of things do sub/slaves do that are left to slide because their Dom/Master likes it even though they were not told/ordered to do it.

i hope that helps

I think the thing I'm struggling with is the idea that doing things as a daily part of living, without his direct approval, means he lets my actions "slide", as if it's inappropriate for me to do anything without his permission. We just don't have that sort of relationship.

The only thing I can think of, is that we agreed I need to lose 15# (ish) while we're going through a short-tem long distance stage. Before I left to come home, he told me to cut all carbs out of my diet after 2pm each day, and to take up jogging.

Cutting out carbs after 2pm is damned near impossible for me, as I don't do the cooking (my roommate does), and I refuse to jog (my knees and ankles aren't the happiest things on earth). So I threw his views on the subject out the window, cut my portions in ½, eliminated sugar completely, added 2-3 small snacks (fresh fruit or yogurt) to my diet, and increased my walking from 3 miles a day to 7. I'd been home about 10 days when he asked if I was eating carbs after 2, and I said yes. He started to get blustery, so I cut him off, explained that I'd decided to substitute what I knew worked for my body (w/ explination), and had dropped 3#.

I don't care how much he wants my world to be black and white; my world is not black and white, and fluidity is a really important thing to me. Thankfully he's smart enough to appreciate my ability to comply, even if I don't do so in the exact manner ordered. Hell I don't even make his coffee the exactly way he showed me, but I still make him a perfect cup of coffee every time. LOL

 

[Netzach]

My husband is supposed to be respectful in his speech.

However when he grunts out "git me a beer, WOMAN" at inappropriate times it just paralyzes me with laughter.

 

[the captians wench]

My husband is supposed to be respectful in his speech.

However when he grunts out "git me a beer, WOMAN" at inappropriate times it just paralyzes me with laughter.

*giggles*

see this is the type of thing I was thinking of.

I love to tease the hell out of my friends. One of my favorite things is to stick my tongue out and say "make me" when one of them tells me to do something. I giggle, they chuckle, and sometimes they do "make me" all great fun.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thank you catalina_francisco that was a good one, for every one else i will try to re-ask the question.

You're welcome. Must admit it took some time for me to get my head around in the beginning, mostly because despite my desire to live this lifestyle, a lot of my head was still programmed to a mainstream mode in such things. It just didn't make sense to me that he would find it offensive I went of on my own tangent and began doing things I imagined he should fall over backwards in gratitude for my thinking of them and actually doing them to please him. It wasn't until I realised it actually wasn't my place to decide what he should and would be pleased to receive, let alone impose my decisions on him even when he did like them, that I began to get it came down to recognising that part of my role as a submissive was to allow him to dominate, not try and be one step ahead of him urged on by my own ego and need to please.

Mainstream thinking would usually mean he would be chuffed I had done xyz without being told, all in the interests of pleasing him even if he didn't actually enjoy it that much or desire it....D/s is a little bit different in that the pleasing part comes from doing as you are directed, not doing the directing. I rarely stuff it up in that way these days, though some days it is difficult to resist the urge. As to what I don't get punished for, that varies depending on his mood and energy levels. Usually if he thinks it was done out of genuine desire to please him more so than please me through pleasing him, he will let it slide with maybe a reminder of who is supposed to make such decisions.

I am getting a sense here though that this is not something understood or related to by many who are not 24/7 under the same roof, or those who reserve their D/s for the bedroom or playtime only.

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

hmmm.... untill very recently something i did which he did not punish me for but adknowledged i had done wrong was eaing badly. everything i feel was wrong of me for a week, whether her agrees or not, gets written down and e-mailed to him every sunday. sometimes he will take action based on what ive written, sometimes he had already taken action earlier in the week, and sometimes he feels that the fact ive adknowledged it as wrong is enough and does nothing else about it

 

[Etoile]

The only things i do without Master's permission are blinking and breathing. i am kept in His cage most of the time anyway. While He does allow me to read books, it is always what He has chosen for me so that doesn't really count for Y/your question. Even if i want to use the bathroom He must let me out. It makes O/our lives so much easier because i never have to worry about whether what i do is right or wrong. Master only allows me to do what He wants me to do, and the rest of the time i sit in His cage thinking about slavery, submission, and how wonderful He is.

 

[catalina_francisco]

The only things i do without Master's permission are blinking and breathing. i am kept in His cage most of the time anyway. While He does allow me to read books, it is always what He has chosen for me so that doesn't really count for Y/your question. Even if i want to use the bathroom He must let me out. It makes O/our lives so much easier because i never have to worry about whether what i do is right or wrong. Master only allows me to do what He wants me to do, and the rest of the time i sit in His cage thinking about slavery, submission, and how wonderful He is.

Sheesh, you must be bored Etoile!!

Catalina