BiBunny
Moon Queen & Wanderer
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This is something I've been thinking about for awhile, so I decided to post it tonight. (Blame the insomnia.) A little background first, then the actual point of the thread.
My masochistic and submissive tendencies go back to 7 or 8 years old. I've had "kinky" sexual fantasies since I first started having sexual fantasies (10 or 11 years old). I put a name with these fantasies when I was about 15 or 16. Every long-term sexual relationship I've ever been involved in has had elements of D/s and S/M. I started really getting into kink when I was 19-20. This is when I found out that I do have a sadistic side. I enjoy the other side of the whip, but I'm beginning to realize that I'm really submissive at heart. Anyway, I've been really involved in "the lifestyle," so to speak for about a year. At the age of 22, I accepted that I'd never be happy in a 'nilla relationship, so I began actively seeking dominant men. I found Master in March, and I was collared in July. We've had our difficulties, and I'm still not entirely sure what the outcome of our relationship may be. My involvement with this lifestyle has taught me many things in a very short time, however, and I know I still have much to learn.
Anyway, without further adieu...things I have learned from being involved in this lifestyle.
1.) I can still consider myself a feminist and a submissive. I'm not selling out. I'm still a strong woman. I just happen to be involved in a M/s relationship with a man.
2.) Being a submissive with sadistic tendencies from time to time does not make me a dominant. I use the term "switch" for brevity, but "switch," for me, really means "Masochistic submissive who likes to dish out pain about once a month or so, depending on what kind of mood she's in."
3.) Sometimes it's really best to nod my head, smile, and shut up. Occasionally, Master really does know more than I do (but I'll deny it if y'all tell him I said it)!
4.) Sometimes, it's really best for him to nod his head, smile, and shut up. Occasionally, I really do know more than Master does (but he'll deny it if y'all ask)!
5.) I will never, never, never, never be happy in a monogamous relationship.
6.) Crops and other stingy things make me very angry (which often gets me into trouble). Floggers and other thuddy things make me very happy (which often gets me into trouble).
7.) Tying my hands behind my back and forcing me to stand for any length of time always makes me dizzy and close to fainting.
8.) We horse people have a leg up on the kinky stuff.
9.) There is nothing more beautiful to me than a man who's not afraid to argue, snore, burp, fart, or show emotion in front of me. There's also nothing more beautiful to me than being able to do these things in front of him and being able to laugh about it later. (Ask me about the "enema on our second meeting" story.)
10.) The hardest lesson of all: No matter how much you love someone, how hard you try to please him, how deep your devotion runs, or to what lengths you'd go to serve him...there is no guarantee that he will love you in return. Life is hard that way.
I'm sure I can think of more, but I won't bore you with them. I want to hear yours now! Feel free to be as serious or as silly as you want.
My masochistic and submissive tendencies go back to 7 or 8 years old. I've had "kinky" sexual fantasies since I first started having sexual fantasies (10 or 11 years old). I put a name with these fantasies when I was about 15 or 16. Every long-term sexual relationship I've ever been involved in has had elements of D/s and S/M. I started really getting into kink when I was 19-20. This is when I found out that I do have a sadistic side. I enjoy the other side of the whip, but I'm beginning to realize that I'm really submissive at heart. Anyway, I've been really involved in "the lifestyle," so to speak for about a year. At the age of 22, I accepted that I'd never be happy in a 'nilla relationship, so I began actively seeking dominant men. I found Master in March, and I was collared in July. We've had our difficulties, and I'm still not entirely sure what the outcome of our relationship may be. My involvement with this lifestyle has taught me many things in a very short time, however, and I know I still have much to learn.
Anyway, without further adieu...things I have learned from being involved in this lifestyle.
1.) I can still consider myself a feminist and a submissive. I'm not selling out. I'm still a strong woman. I just happen to be involved in a M/s relationship with a man.
2.) Being a submissive with sadistic tendencies from time to time does not make me a dominant. I use the term "switch" for brevity, but "switch," for me, really means "Masochistic submissive who likes to dish out pain about once a month or so, depending on what kind of mood she's in."
3.) Sometimes it's really best to nod my head, smile, and shut up. Occasionally, Master really does know more than I do (but I'll deny it if y'all tell him I said it)!
4.) Sometimes, it's really best for him to nod his head, smile, and shut up. Occasionally, I really do know more than Master does (but he'll deny it if y'all ask)!
5.) I will never, never, never, never be happy in a monogamous relationship.
6.) Crops and other stingy things make me very angry (which often gets me into trouble). Floggers and other thuddy things make me very happy (which often gets me into trouble).
7.) Tying my hands behind my back and forcing me to stand for any length of time always makes me dizzy and close to fainting.
8.) We horse people have a leg up on the kinky stuff.
9.) There is nothing more beautiful to me than a man who's not afraid to argue, snore, burp, fart, or show emotion in front of me. There's also nothing more beautiful to me than being able to do these things in front of him and being able to laugh about it later. (Ask me about the "enema on our second meeting" story.)
10.) The hardest lesson of all: No matter how much you love someone, how hard you try to please him, how deep your devotion runs, or to what lengths you'd go to serve him...there is no guarantee that he will love you in return. Life is hard that way.
I'm sure I can think of more, but I won't bore you with them. I want to hear yours now! Feel free to be as serious or as silly as you want.
