They're out of your league!!

[Mnkinkcpl]

Another thread prompted me to question this idea.

I have not ever looked at someone and thought that they were out of my league. I'm certainly not the best looking guy, at least if you go by Hollywood standards.

What makes people think that just because someone is "beautiful" that they aren't just like everyone else?

We all have our strengths and weaknesses.

Things we are self-conscious about.

So why do people think that someone is out of their league?

 

[Rockymtnman]

Simple answer. Because they probably are. I mean be honest here how many solid 9/10’s you see with 5/6’s ( yes it’s crude to judge only on appearance) never would be my answer or almost never. Unless, fame or fortune is involved.

i personally have never met a woman that I felt I didn’t have at least a shot at because I’ve always been very successful with women. thanks to the genetic material donated by mom and dad

however, I’ve been shot down plenty of times. you win some you lose some.

 

[ericrodman101]

For what it’s worth, as a gay man I see straight couples all the time where I find the man comparatively much more attractive than the woman. Of course, I would say that, but Trying to be objective, that’s my take. We are used to ugly rich men, straight or gay, getting whomever they want by virtue of the attractiveness of their wallets. I presume it works the other way too. As someone who buys sex on occasions, obviously I am able to purchase pretty people to hang out with me. I’m trying to find the non wealth angle to this question, and I know someone somewhere in history has attracted a person outside their league by force of their personality or their wit, but explaining what it is and how it works is beyond my understanding. I don’t think of myself as particularly attractive and the smart thing is to let others be the judge, an approach which often leads to disappointment of course. So that’s my rambling ill informed take…

 

[Rockymtnman]

For what it’s worth, as a gay man I see straight couples all the time where I find the man comparatively much more attractive than the woman. Of course, I would say that, but Trying to be objective, that’s my take. We are used to ugly rich men, straight or gay, getting whomever they want by virtue of the attractiveness of their wallets. I presume it works the other way too. As someone who buys sex on occasions, obviously I am able to purchase pretty people to hang out with me. I’m trying to find the non wealth angle to this question, and I know someone somewhere in history has attracted a person outside their league by force of their personality or their wit, but explaining what it is and how it works is beyond my understanding. I don’t think of myself as particularly attractive and the smart thing is to let others be the judge, an approach which often leads to disappointment of course. So that’s my rambling ill informed take…

I think funny, smart, interesting, educated, well traveled people can be more successful getting someone “ out of their league“ but they still can’t be a troglodyte. That stuff only goes so far.

 

[ericrodman101]

I think funny, smart, interesting, educated, well traveled people can be more successful getting someone “ out of their league“ but they still can’t be a troglodyte. That stuff only goes so far.

For sure. It’s whether a 5 can pull a 10, rather than a 7 pull an 8. It’s also about painting the house and mowing the lawn before you put it on the market. Cosmetic work can raise you a point or two, but it doesn’t turn a shed into a mansion.

 

[Rockymtnman]

For sure. It’s whether a 5 can pull a 10, rather than a 7 pull an 8. It’s also about painting the house and mowing the lawn before you put it on the market. Cosmetic work can raise you a point or two, but it doesn’t turn a shed into a mansion.

3 points. That’s about the biggest natural gap you will see. Again, unless fame and fortune are involved then all that goes out the window. 6/9 5/8 maybe a 7/10. One thing I have noticed is height can move the needle for some.

 

[ericrodman101]

3 points. That’s about the biggest natural gap you will see. Again, unless fame and fortune are involved then all that goes out the window. 6/9 5/8 maybe a 7/10. One thing I have noticed is height can move the needle for some.

Height and blondeness

 

[Rockymtnman]

Height and blondeness

Mmm. Yeah I’ll give you that. Also some folks are straight up nuts about gingers. I got a mate that’s a decent looking enough fella but you show him a ginger sub 5 and he couldn’t care less He’s on it like flies on shit.

 

[ericrodman101]

Mmm. Yeah I’ll give you that. Also some folks are straight up nuts about gingers. I got a mate that’s a decent looking enough fella but you show him a ginger sub 5 and he couldn’t care less He’s on it like flies on shit.

I have a thing for Asian guys so when I say I see an attractive man with a less attractive woman, he’s invariably Asian. So I’m the last person who takes an objective position on this question.