There are a few words, when used in a story that bother me.

[Dearelliot]

For whatever reason, I don't like the words, someone is "hot" or "horny" in a story, and I prefer the word cunt or vagina over pussy. It's just a matter of taste.

 

[mrs_mackenzie]

I think everyone has personal preferences for intimate language. I really prefer pussy over cunt, probably because cunt is such a widely used insult here in the UK.

That's why sometimes it's great to read a story by a writer who has similar preferences to you!

 

[Biker_Faerie]

I think everyone has personal preferences for intimate language. I really prefer pussy over cunt, probably because cunt is such a widely used insult here in the UK.

Fully agree with that

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

It depends on context. And certain words have different connotations, different feelings or emotions depending on the situation. The more benign the action, the more likely I am to use vagina or some euphemism.

Her vagina may glisten with anticipation, her pussy may be wet or dripping, eager even. But it's going to be her cunt that gets pounded mercilessly as her orgasm tears through her body, her hot, sticky juices gushing over my swollen cock, while she screams for me to fuck her harder and spank her already crimson ass again and again.

 

[orangecurious]

this is a bit like receiving anon comments pointing out what they thought you should have written.

 

[StillStunned]

For whatever reason, I don't like the words, someone is "hot" or "horny" in a story, and I prefer the word cunt or vagina over pussy. It's just a matter of taste.

I like pussy. Not a big fan of dick, though.

(Seriously, I dislike the word "dick".)

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

I like pussy. Not a big fan of dick, though.

(Seriously, I dislike the word "dick".)

You inspire me in so many ways. Just updated the limerick thread because of you...


Pussy or dick, you may pine.
Honestly, both are quite fine
to kiss or to suck,
and, oh yes, to fuck;
I just wish the pussy were mine.

 

[JMJ4Play]

For whatever reason, I don't like the words, someone is "hot" or "horny" in a story, and I prefer the word cunt or vagina over pussy. It's just a matter of taste.

Yeah if I went the rest of my life not hearing ‘horny’ I’d be ok with that.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I like pussy. Not a big fan of dick, though.

(Seriously, I dislike the word "dick".)

Cunt and arse are total buzzkills for me. Pucker and pisshole too. I hate vulgar stuff, I guess. I always did. I remember watching a porn movie as a teenager, starring Rocco Siffredi, and seeing for the first time one of his many gross vulgarities. That time it was him taking time to draw spit, looking like he was pulling phlegm and then spitting it out forcefully on a girl's pussy to lubricate his penetration. I've detested the guy and all of his porn ever since.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Cunt and arse are total buzzkills for me. Pucker and pisshole too. I hate vulgar stuff, I guess. I always did. I remember watching a porn movie as a teenager, starring Rocco Siffredi, and seeing for the first time one of his many gross vulgarities. That time it was him taking time to draw spit, looking like he was pulling phlegm and then spitting it out forcefully on a girl's pussy to lubricate his penetration. I've detested the guy and all of his porn ever since.

I find arse interesting. As a Yank, it's much more benign than ass, even to the point of being considered a polite alternative. Just curious, is the converse true across the pond?

 

[Mr_Neb]

I quite like taste of pussy. Hmm. Now that I think of it, I'm not sure I correctly understood the OP's question.

 

[Poeticwolf]

Writing is so nuanced. What one person associates to a word may reflect a certain experience they associate to the word. Like a smell, a word triggers memory and emotions. I try to use words that express a certain emotion and sets the mood of the situation.
But I also like to use different words to describe the same thing as reading the same word for the same thing becomes dull to me.
So instead of pussy, I say softness, sanctuary, flower, velvety entrance, hidden pool, etc

 

[SimonDoom]

Vagina, snatch, pussy, or twat?
It's a riddle what to say and what not.
Just don't call her the B-word
Or refer to the C-word
And please don't use "horny" or "hot."

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Vagina, snatch, pussy, or twat?
It's a riddle what to say and what not.
Just don't call her the B-word
Or refer to the C-word
And please don't use "horny" or "hot."

Don't forget to add it to the limerick thread.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I find arse interesting. As a Yank, it's much more benign than ass, even to the point of being considered a polite alternative. Just curious, is the converse true across the pond?

Well, I can't say as I'm not a Brit. I'm from southern Europe and English isn't my native. It's all in the ear, I guess. I suppose Brits could answer your question better.

 

[Erozetta]

Writing is so nuanced. What one person associates to a word may reflect a certain experience they associate to the word. Like a smell, a word triggers memory and emotions. I try to use words that express a certain emotion and sets the mood of the situation.
But I also like to use different words to describe the same thing as reading the same word for the same thing becomes dull to me.
So instead of pussy, I say softness, sanctuary, flower, velvety entrance, hidden pool, etc

I was with you right up until that last line.

Those words irk me to no end when used as a stand in for female anatomy. It feels like pussyfooting around the idea of women being less than when associated with vulgarity.

Also, it just makes it impossible for me to see the characters as actual adults when they need to use "cutesy" language for sex acts and anatomy. Not that I see them as children at that point, just severely immature for their depicted ages.

 

[StillStunned]

"Arse" is fine to me, as a pair of firm globes to admire or grab hold of. I don't like it as a place to stick things.

 

[mrs_mackenzie]

I find arse interesting. As a Yank, it's much more benign than ass, even to the point of being considered a polite alternative. Just curious, is the converse true across the pond?

Can't speak for everyone but I just don't use the word 'ass' at all. Whether it's someone behaving badly, or a body part you're grabbing, or the place you're sticking it, it's always arse. If I come across 'ass' in any context it suggests non-British writer/speaker.

 

[StillStunned]

If I come across 'ass' in any context it suggests non-British writer/speaker.

I don't mind "ass" to refer to someone being foolish, rather than unpleasant. But perhaps that's an age thing? I haven't lived in the UK for a very long time.

 

[Poeticwolf]

I was with you right up until that last line.

Those words irk me to no end when used as a stand in for female anatomy. It feels like pussyfooting around the idea of women being less than when associated with vulgarity.

Also, it just makes it impossible for me to see the characters as actual adults when they need to use "cutesy" language for sex acts and anatomy. Not that I see them as children at that point, just severely immature for their depicted ages.

I suppose this is a good example of differing associations. I had never looked at my substitute descriptions as 'cutesy' or depicting women as being less. I look at it as being 'flowery', even poetic. If I'm describing a scene to be soft, beautiful, 'flowery ', I use those descriptions. If I want to make it feel more animalistic I will use words like pussy and cock.
Like I said, I try to use words to express a theme.

 

[SimonDoom]

For me, it's all a matter of context. I think there are stories where over-the-top words, or borderline offensive words, or cliche words can be appropriate.

"Hot" and "horny" make sense if you want your prose to resemble the way people actually speak, because people actually use these words all the time.

I'm fine with all the usual synonyms for vagina and penis. I tend not to use "cunt" because in my personal experience many women I know find it offensive and some have told me they don't want that part of their body referred to that way.

 

[mrs_mackenzie]

I don't mind "ass" to refer to someone being foolish, rather than unpleasant. But perhaps that's an age thing? I haven't lived in the UK for a very long time.

People differ, I suppose. I haven't heard someone use 'ass' i.e. donkey as an insult in a very long time. I would just call them a donkey...

 

[SimonDoom]

Can't speak for everyone but I just don't use the word 'ass' at all. Whether it's someone behaving badly, or a body part you're grabbing, or the place you're sticking it, it's always arse. If I come across 'ass' in any context it suggests non-British writer/speaker.

Conversely, as an American author I would never use "arse" unless the specific context justified it, because it would seem affected. Same with "knickers" or "fanny."

 

[Writer61]

I find arse interesting. As a Yank, it's much more benign than ass, even to the point of being considered a polite alternative. Just curious, is the converse true across the pond?

I think the sequence from mild to strong would be Seat > Backside > Buttocks > Bum > Arse.

An ass would be an animal or, as @StillStunned pointed out, a fool.

The next issue to be discussed is where the 'fanny' is located.

 

[Voboy]

Cunt vs pussy, like cock vs dick, gives a valuable opportunity to deepen your characterizations. To the extent that the former, in both those examples, is more vulgar than the latter, it means something that some characters choose to use one over the other (it does when it's in a story written by me, anyway; I don't choose these things lightly).

My more bashful narrators will tend to avoid cunt and cock, which means they can get all flushed when the object of their affections uses such terms freely (or vice-versa). Those kinds of details can make your characters feel more real; that whole "show, don't tell" concept, and all that.