Shit. I think I just pissed off my best friend royally by refusing his help, and I'm really bothered by it.
Here's the skinny. He's a great guy. I've known him ever since I was an undergrad, which is about 7 years now. We've never dated, and never even considered it.
I trust him more than anyone. I can lost it, BIGTIME, when I get really stressed, and he's seen me at my worst and still hangs around. That's saying something. He's been an enormous help when I've needed it most, and often helps me out financially because he knows I have debts and obligations from when I was younger and "knew everything". For example, he'll buy me things he knows I really want/need for occasions that are sort of pricey, but not way out there. For example, he got me a new computer desk this last X-mas because I was using a TV stand. That cost around $200. He got me a new camera for and early birthday gift right before a big trip because of course, mind took a shit a freakin' week before I was supposed to leave. That was maybe $90.
I know how this sounds. I have NEVER and would never ask for any of these things, and he expects NOTHING in return. He helps me out because he knows I'm trying and not getting anywhere at the moment, and because he believes in me. He LOANED me $1000 once for car repairs, but I have repaid him.
But now...remember that root canal I posted about eons ago? The one I never had because the tooth was too far gone? Well, I had it pulled (not fun, to say the least...ever have dry socket?) and my dentist gave me a few options. I HAVE to replace the tooth, or risk ruining the 2 next to it because of the drift. I could 1) have a spacer/brace cemented in there permanently for about $100 and still have the gap, 2) have a single false tooth cemented in the gap for around $250 which would need to be replaced every 2-3 years, or the best option, 3) a bridge, which would last me probably until I die for around $1,800. I was going to go for option #2, because I'm too young to be walking around w/a gap in my face, and there is no way in creation I can afford #3.
Well, he offered to pay for the bridge. I want to accept, because I know that's the best thing for me, but I CANNOT take that much money, and I can't borrow it because I could never pay it back. We got in a huge fight over it because he thought I was being proud and stubborn. I would just feel weird about it.
So...what would you do? Am I being a bitch? Should I let him pay for it and shut up, or stand my ground and say no? Damn...I'm so confused. He's mad at me, and even though we never stay mad at each other, I feel bad because he doesn't understand my problem with it.
Here's the skinny. He's a great guy. I've known him ever since I was an undergrad, which is about 7 years now. We've never dated, and never even considered it.
I trust him more than anyone. I can lost it, BIGTIME, when I get really stressed, and he's seen me at my worst and still hangs around. That's saying something. He's been an enormous help when I've needed it most, and often helps me out financially because he knows I have debts and obligations from when I was younger and "knew everything". For example, he'll buy me things he knows I really want/need for occasions that are sort of pricey, but not way out there. For example, he got me a new computer desk this last X-mas because I was using a TV stand. That cost around $200. He got me a new camera for and early birthday gift right before a big trip because of course, mind took a shit a freakin' week before I was supposed to leave. That was maybe $90.
I know how this sounds. I have NEVER and would never ask for any of these things, and he expects NOTHING in return. He helps me out because he knows I'm trying and not getting anywhere at the moment, and because he believes in me. He LOANED me $1000 once for car repairs, but I have repaid him.
But now...remember that root canal I posted about eons ago? The one I never had because the tooth was too far gone? Well, I had it pulled (not fun, to say the least...ever have dry socket?) and my dentist gave me a few options. I HAVE to replace the tooth, or risk ruining the 2 next to it because of the drift. I could 1) have a spacer/brace cemented in there permanently for about $100 and still have the gap, 2) have a single false tooth cemented in the gap for around $250 which would need to be replaced every 2-3 years, or the best option, 3) a bridge, which would last me probably until I die for around $1,800. I was going to go for option #2, because I'm too young to be walking around w/a gap in my face, and there is no way in creation I can afford #3.
Well, he offered to pay for the bridge. I want to accept, because I know that's the best thing for me, but I CANNOT take that much money, and I can't borrow it because I could never pay it back. We got in a huge fight over it because he thought I was being proud and stubborn. I would just feel weird about it.
So...what would you do? Am I being a bitch? Should I let him pay for it and shut up, or stand my ground and say no? Damn...I'm so confused. He's mad at me, and even though we never stay mad at each other, I feel bad because he doesn't understand my problem with it.
