The Wife Swap Report

[NOIRTRASH]

THE WIFE SWAP REPORT by Lawrence Block

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Its a 150 page interview with a married couple who swing. Its detailed and thorough. Plenty of the material is sexual content but a significant amount of the writing is philosophical conjecture about swinging roles and levels of intimacy.

Bottom line: Free love communes fail because the commune evolves into a group marriage. That is, marriage per se encompasses plenty more issues and activities than sex, and communes go the same route. Plenty of swingers do the same, and the sex gets lost in the life issues of all involved. The trick is to keep the sex a pastime like tennis or a weekend fishing. Or else you get sucked into the bills and IRS problems and school problems, etc. Rigid boundaries must be set. There are good and bad places for noses to be. Often health issues arise when couples see too much of each other. Not STDs but all the other medical events that come along and inhibit sexual activity for spells.

The book doesn't speak of love erupting, so let me add this from experience: A couple I knew since childhood became swingers. They became close with one particular couple and love erupted between my guy friend and the other woman. My friends wife was traumatized when she found out, and her daughter brought her to the hospital to see me. I admitted her to another facility, because of our long history. She went to the other hospital, got discharged, and killed herself. That was 23 years ago.

She was smart, she was a delightful person, a great mom, managed a title company office, and was very attractive. My pal married the other wife, quicker than I liked.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I erred.

I went back and found a revelation the wife made of two suicide attempts she made related to swinging. She became obsessed with one of her female sex partners, the woman got the hell outta town, and Mrs. Swinger emptied a bottle of pills, twice.

 

[49greg]

That's t the problem with sex. No matter how much either party says it's 'just' sex, love can happen.

 

[lovecraft68]

That's t the problem with sex. No matter how much either party says it's 'just' sex, love can happen.

Also a very realistic look at the un-sexy reality of swinging.

It works for many, but it takes two very like minded people. Unfortunately, especially with porn being so prevalent these day, way too many couples,(men more often than the women) think its hot and sexy and do anything they can to talk their partner into it.

Then they do it and reality hits. The reality of seeing another man pound your wife or another woman blowing your husband. People get through it-many times due to being afraid to disappoint the spouse or make the other couple feel bad-then afterwards jealousy sets in.

He fucked her longer and harder, she came harder for him, does she think about him now? Does she want him again?

Her tits were better, she could get in positions I couldn't she was younger, prettier, perkier...does he want her again....

Its a big line to cross and for every happy couple there's a lot of wrecked marriages.

Want proof? Go to the how to section every freakin week its "How do I convince my wife too..."

The real answer is you do not, they have no real interest nothing good is coming out of it.

That response is given there, but this is a porn site so there's a lot more "Make her do it, trick her, try this, try that, give an ultimatum...anything and everything to fuel an already bad situation.

Like glory holes, some fantasies as realities, are better kept fantasy.

 

[49greg]

Also a very realistic look at the un-sexy reality of swinging.

It works for many, but it takes two very like minded people. Unfortunately, especially with porn being so prevalent these day, way too many couples,(men more often than the women) think its hot and sexy and do anything they can to talk their partner into it.

Then they do it and reality hits. The reality of seeing another man pound your wife or another woman blowing your husband. People get through it-many times due to being afraid to disappoint the spouse or make the other couple feel bad-then afterwards jealousy sets in.

He fucked her longer and harder, she came harder for him, does she think about him now? Does she want him again?

Her tits were better, she could get in positions I couldn't she was younger, prettier, perkier...does he want her again....

Its a big line to cross and for every happy couple there's a lot of wrecked marriages.

Want proof? Go to the how to section every freakin week its "How do I convince my wife too..."

The real answer is you do not, they have no real interest nothing good is coming out of it.

That response is given there, but this is a porn site so there's a lot more "Make her do it, trick her, try this, try that, give an ultimatum...anything and everything to fuel an already bad situation.

Like glory holes, some fantasies as realities, are better kept fantasy.

The only person I know about who did swing, I don't know very well at all. But my wife's best friend from high school and college and after, told my wife how the friend's hubby spent months convincing her to try it. They did. After just a few times he wanted to stop.

She told my wife that after he wanted to stop, she wanted to keep going, and lied to him about spending the evening with her friend, her parents etc, and was actually at a party.

Don't know how it ended, whether she stopped on her own, or if he found out, or she is still at it. We moved and after nearly a dozen years, my better half only contacts her by facebook and Chirstmas cards.

I'd be curious to know how it turned out, but it's not the kind of thing I can ask, even if I did see her, she talked about it to my wife not me, and my wife isn't about to pursue it.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

The women report all kinds of reasons for their obsessions. Maybe he or she makes the wife cum in colors, plenty of gals with pimps cant get enough of the degradation and abuse. If the other person has the prize they want, theyre hooked.

Hookers report the same obsessions. 99% of their johns do nothing for them, and one comes along who smells just right or tastes just right or whatever, and its on. And letting the john or pimp or girl friend go is traumatic.