The trouble with toyboys...

[dolf]

I'm forever explaining recent political history.
He thinks he's seen an amazing, classic film I love, but it turns out he's only seen the crappy remake.
He's so far behind on those life experience, learnt the hard way lessons, trial and error lessons.
Being closer to my kids' age, he bickers with them.
He still likes clubs and bars.
He's never cohabited before, and still needed house breaking and teaching about compromise.
Instead of being ready to go home and sleep by 11, like any self respecting old git, he's still full of energy to party until dawn.
His driving.

... love him to bits, of course, but (never having had a much younger partner before) this relationship has a whole new set of issues.

I'm sure there are plenty of issues from his perspective but I have no idea what they are, seeing as he completely denies this and claims near perfection on my part. Lack of experience made most obvious!

I'm sure some of you have done the age gap thing. What were your experiences?

We're coming up to our third Xmas together, and I still don't fantasize about strangling him, so I think he's a keeper

 

[elli1point1]

I had 13 years age difference in a relationship once. Surprisingly, most issues weren't related to the age gap at all. The only thing I can think of is that he wasn't into sex as much as I was, but that might have been a general personality thing.

More recently, I've been called "such a child", but I think it was meant affectionately.

 

[Saint Peter]

This is why I like 'em old and leathery.

 

[MagnusRichard]

I have a young lover who calls me Daddy when we meet new people for the mischief fun if they seem judgy.

 

[WoundedKnee]

So, she found someone so desperate that they would put up with her sagging bits and then has the temerity to issue complaint? PUH-leeze.

 

[MagnusRichard]

That is nasty. She got his momma’s permission before dating him, yes.

 

[WoundedKnee]

She goes all ways, maybe permission was granted during cunnilingus...

 

[MagnusRichard]

She goes all ways, maybe permission was granted during cunnilingus...

I think you just made that filthy slut rainshine cum again.

 

[WoundedKnee]

She will do ATM in a heartbeat. She once confessed that to me when she talked about being fucked on stage in front of an audience. Even at 60+, she's still a drama queen.

 

[MagnusRichard]

Ah, so toyboy has her PIN.

 

[Dinosaur1]

Never had a toyboy. Is that something sold at Walmart these days?

 

[WoundedKnee]

Ah, so toyboy has her PIN.

And he's severely disappointed. She acted above her station in life.

 

[MagnusRichard]

And he's severely disappointed. She acted above her station in life.

Is Dolf your ex? You do not seem to like her very much.

I think she should make sure her toyboy is allowed to go out and play with the other young people, yes? To avoid the resentment in him as she ages.

 

[dolf]

I had 13 years age difference in a relationship once. Surprisingly, most issues weren't related to the age gap at all. The only thing I can think of is that he wasn't into sex as much as I was, but that might have been a general personality thing.

More recently, I've been called "such a child", but I think it was meant affectionately.

I find most of the issues seem to be age related. Or, more accurately, experience related. They certainly improve over time. Even the driving *shudder*

This is why I like 'em old and leathery.

With failing eyesight?

Never had a toyboy. Is that something sold at Walmart these days?

You know, now I think about it that way, it's a bit of a degrading term... without a female equivalent. The why of this is depressingly obvious.

 

[Radiohead]

You know, now I think about it that way, it's a bit of a degrading term... without a female equivalent. The why of this is depressingly obvious.

Cougar isnt relative, or just describing you?

 

[elli1point1]

I find most of the issues seem to be age related. Or, more accurately, experience related. They certainly improve over time. Even the driving *shudder*

I don't drive

In terms of music, films, etc. we had very similar tastes and neither of us were huge party animals. Tidiness: he's OCD and I'm very much not and that will never change (but he payed the rent, so...).

The biggest issue was that he wasn't what I was looking for in a partner...

 

[MagnusRichard]

but he payed the rent, so...

He pays, she stays.

This might be the reason for the unhappiness of many women, yes?

 

[richard_daily]

I'm forever explaining recent political history.
He thinks he's seen an amazing, classic film I love, but it turns out he's only seen the crappy remake.
He's so far behind on those life experience, learnt the hard way lessons, trial and error lessons.
Being closer to my kids' age, he bickers with them.
He still likes clubs and bars.
He's never cohabited before, and still needed house breaking and teaching about compromise.
Instead of being ready to go home and sleep by 11, like any self respecting old git, he's still full of energy to party until dawn.
His driving.

... love him to bits, of course, but (never having had a much younger partner before) this relationship has a whole new set of issues.

I'm sure there are plenty of issues from his perspective but I have no idea what they are, seeing as he completely denies this and claims near perfection on my part. Lack of experience made most obvious!

I'm sure some of you have done the age gap thing. What were your experiences?

We're coming up to our third Xmas together, and I still don't fantasize about strangling him, so I think he's a keeper

I couldn't do it. I've gone out with a few younger women over the past year or so and they have all been so utterly boring.

If you strangle him, send pictures!

 

[sweepthefloor]

i couldn't handle the driving, bye!

 

[elli1point1]

He pays, she stays.

This might be the reason for the unhappiness of many women, yes?

Possibly, but that's not the only reason why I stayed (though being a student struggling with mental health issues who wouldn't have been able to work alongside uni didn't help); and it also wasn't the only reason for my unhappiness.

 

[MagnusRichard]

The biggest issue was that he wasn't what I was looking for in a partner...

How long were you with him?

 

[elli1point1]

How long were you with him?

way too long

 

[dolf]

I couldn't do it. I've gone out with a few younger women over the past year or so and they have all been so utterly boring.

If you strangle him, send pictures!

Pervert.

He has thigh sized biceps, a massive todger, doesn't talk too much and utterly adores me. It's endearing.

Cougar isnt relative, or just describing you?

No, that doesn't describe a younger woman.
And there's no male equivalent to cougar.
(Sugar momma/daddy/baby aren't the same thing)

 

[thør]

Pervert.

He has thigh sized biceps, a massive todger, doesn't talk too much and utterly adores me. It's endearing.

Like a puppy?