The trial goes on and the blood continues to flow. It really sucks!!!

[FlamingoBlue]

This child custody trial that I am currently involved in, like all other custody trials is the cruellest example of people abuse that I have ever seen, actual war, excluded. Thankfully, I took the time to form a personal relationship with the other lawyer before this case ever reached the inside of a Courtroom. Otherwise, our blood would be on the floor, as well. (There were a couple of times that we snipped at each other during the heat of the moment, but each of us sincerely apologized, afterwards).

One of the things that I have learned after practicing divorce law for 32 years, is that I don't like having to try a case with a lawyer who hates me AND my client. That's why I go out of my way to try to get to know as much as I can about the other lawyer. We share our feelings! Trust me, it helps.

The trial should be over next week. Both lawyers have done a very good job of representing their clients and keeping the bloodletting to a minimum. But still there is blood from wounds that will never get a chance to heal. It is a real tragedy, but it is the only logical alternative when people refuse or are unable to resolve things themselves.

I so enjoy being able to share my feelings with you folks, especially my chidren. This BB has become my personal journal. I love it here. It sure is a lot friendlier than a Courtroom!!!

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[Mortto56]

Hey Blue!

I'm sure glad you feel better!

I know how you feel,because I know some people that have had some pretty heated custody battles.
It really does'nt help the children in these cases,because they can see the anger,and the cheesy tactics that each parent will use to get their way.

This in turn will more than likely stay with the child the rest of their life.

I seen first hand how this behavour can stay with a child,when my mom and stepdad got a divorce when I was 10.It was a very nasty ordeal.Hell he even tried to burn the house down one Easter Sunday.I remember that day like it was yesterday.I was in the bathtub,and my mom came running in screaming the house was on fire.So I jumped out of the tub,and ran out of the house with just a towel on.A neighbor ran over and put the fire out for us.That scared the shit out of my mom and I.To this day,I still don't talk to that asshole.

Well I'm done rambling now! Have a nice weekend Blue!

 

[teresafannin]

Hi Blue, I wish I could sit those dumbass people down & talk to them for a few minutes. They don't realize how lucky they are for having their kids. I never want what happened to us to happen to anyone else, but I bet I could make them stop & think. There are far worse thngs to go through than a divorce & those morons need to put their children first & do what is best for them. I will never understand why so-called adults act the way they do. I admire you for caring so much.

 

[Cheyenne]

No wonder you need to spend time here to unwind- what an emotionally draining job it must be to help parents battle each other for their kids. I couldn't do it. Give me spreadsheets and documents any day, they don't cry or bleed.

Congratulations on your pending son-in-law, by the way. At least there is happiness in your own family for you to go home to at night!

 

[FlamingoBlue]

It's now been 8 full days of trial....

over the past several weeks and my mind is sorta lke cottage cheese. I get a break tomorrow and start again on Thursday. I'm home now after Court this morning and the BB is my refuge.
Thanks for being here, folks.

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[Sparky Kronkite]

Bad fucking shit......

In cases like this I'd actually "be for" blood letting.

You know - the kid leaves the room, presumably this is always the case anyway.

The Judge has the parents come forth to the bench...

He has each parent place the pinky of their choice on the edge of the bench...

Two baleiff's (how the fuck do you spell that) flanking the parents, symultaneously whack the appendage off with a clever.

Next up? Ring finger's! And on and on until one parent quits.

The surviving parent get the kid.

It's actually less damaging, over all, than your method.

Cheaper too - less time, less fees - all done in a day.

 

[Expertise]

I could not do your job Blue.

Why? Because I could not, in all good conscience, refrain from saying "YOU TWO ARE FUCKING IDIOTS! Whatever the problems are between you two do not use your children as pawns or emotional clubs. Because if you do I am going to rip off one of your limbs and bludgeon you with it".

Whatever nastiness we subject each other to as adults is one thing..... but when your hate for your spouse or former spouse causes you to use your children as a weapon or poison them against your former partner, I believe you enter the realm of pond scum. The childrens wellfare
and well being should be primary.

I think based on what I know of you Blue you would make every effort to avoid this and wwould probably be far more diiplomatic than I in heading it off. But I see it time and again. It makes me think you should have to pass a test to be a parent. My receptionist is going through this right now and it causes me to become outraged/enraged on an almost weekly basis.

I'll end right here since this subject gets me too wound up to be coherent.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hey Exp, relax.....

take a finger - enjoy!

 

[FlamingoBlue]

This is why I am quitting .....

I don't want to do this anymore. The money is great but it doesn't pay me for the pain that I have to endure.

I wish it was as easy as Sparky and Expertise said it was. If only you could reason with these people. If only. But you can't!!!

This is likely my "swan song". I don't think that I will likely try another case like this again before I quit the practice. Certainly money will be involved in other trials, but this case deals with a 3 year old child.

I don't know the kind of jobs you have, but thankfully you will never have to do what I do. Talk about stress!!!

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