So you're engaging in a mudslinging contest with someone. Insults are traded, etc, etc...and the other party says, "I'm not going to reply to you anymore."
Minutes later, you find a PM in your box, making a snarky little comment.
This happens to me quite a bit. Sometimes just an apology or whatever, but sometimes a snarky continuation of what was started in the thread.
I think this practice is entirely bullshit. I don't carry on flamewars into PM. If you have something to say to me, say it in public. If you're looking to explain or apologise and you want to be discreet, sure, PM. But if it's to make some snide little comment that you're too afraid of ruining your spotless lit rep for to post in public -- well, either you keep it in public or I'll bring it there myself.
I'm perfectly well aware of the rules regarding posting Private Messages on the board. I've no issues with that -- I have never, and will never, post a private message on the board.
But does this mean I won't allude to your Private Messaging me? Hell no. It's a fact -- that's what you did, that's what I'll say. I'm under no obligation to keep secret the fact that you messaged me.
Does this mean that, should I want to, I'm going to paraphrase the contents of your message as I see fit and post it here? Hell yeah. Again, if we're not on civil terms, I owe you nothing in terms of secrecy or discretion. If you PM me with "You're a stupid bitch", I will say, "Hotgrrl898043278 just PMed me and called me an unintelligent female dog".
I believe in keeping trust and living up to someone's faith in you. But you twits who I'm engaged in a flame with should know better than to expect me to think I owe you anything.
Thoughts?
Minutes later, you find a PM in your box, making a snarky little comment.
This happens to me quite a bit. Sometimes just an apology or whatever, but sometimes a snarky continuation of what was started in the thread.
I think this practice is entirely bullshit. I don't carry on flamewars into PM. If you have something to say to me, say it in public. If you're looking to explain or apologise and you want to be discreet, sure, PM. But if it's to make some snide little comment that you're too afraid of ruining your spotless lit rep for to post in public -- well, either you keep it in public or I'll bring it there myself.
I'm perfectly well aware of the rules regarding posting Private Messages on the board. I've no issues with that -- I have never, and will never, post a private message on the board.
But does this mean I won't allude to your Private Messaging me? Hell no. It's a fact -- that's what you did, that's what I'll say. I'm under no obligation to keep secret the fact that you messaged me.
Does this mean that, should I want to, I'm going to paraphrase the contents of your message as I see fit and post it here? Hell yeah. Again, if we're not on civil terms, I owe you nothing in terms of secrecy or discretion. If you PM me with "You're a stupid bitch", I will say, "Hotgrrl898043278 just PMed me and called me an unintelligent female dog".
I believe in keeping trust and living up to someone's faith in you. But you twits who I'm engaged in a flame with should know better than to expect me to think I owe you anything.
Thoughts?
anything with a "straw" maybe... 
