The Right to Privacy

[ChaseMePleez]

I do not know how many on this site have had a similar experience that I did but when I was 22 years old, I met a man on AOL chat rooms. What I thought might be Prince Charming turned out to be a living nightmare. Two weeks into speaking with him via online chat he had hacked my information and started sending me things in the mail, flowers and even marriage proposals. At first I thought he was just a romantic then I made an off hand comment about an old crush from my school days and the next day he sent sent me a dead rat in a flower box.

He became violently jealous when I told him to get lost. For the next year I had to deal with a barrage of similar packages, threatening phone calls and harassment. It took some drastic measures but I was able to get him out of my life. The only way to describe the experience is that of being a scared cornered animal with no where to run.

It took me a long time to get up the courage to start talking to people again and now I find out some people have been trying to hack my information again. Given my previous experience, you can understand that I am very upset by this news. I do not want any identifying information about me put out there without my express permission. I am not exactly sure who it is but I ask that you do not violate my privacy.

My stalker is still free and walking around. I would rather that he didn't get a hold of me again.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

RULE OF THUMB ABOUT MEN.

If he seems too nice and too good he's prolly a nutcase. Decent men are encrusted with flaws and blemishes. Pick one with the least fleas.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Here's what ya gotta do. Tell him those pics are not really you. That you weigh somewhere in the neighborhood of maybe 500 lbs or so. Tell him you would luuuuv for him to make a social call because you have not been out to see anyone for a few years. Mention that you do not get a bath very often and that he needs to be prepared for the smell and........well likely that problem will take care of itself.

 

[beingtrue2me]

RULE OF THUMB ABOUT MEN.

If he seems too nice and too good he's prolly a nutcase. Decent men are encrusted with flaws and blemishes. Pick one with the least fleas.

If they have a garden and actually grow things then chances are that they are actually real men and not living with mama in her basement so that is a plus as well.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

RULE OF THUMB ABOUT MEN.

If he seems too nice and too good he's prolly a nutcase. Decent men are encrusted with flaws and blemishes. Pick one with the least fleas.

Thank you for the advice. I will take it to heart. I am taking my time with the man I am currently seeing.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

Here's what ya gotta do. Tell him those pics are not really you. That you weigh somewhere in the neighborhood of maybe 500 lbs or so. Tell him you would luuuuv for him to make a social call because you have not been out to see anyone for a few years. Mention that you do not get a bath very often and that he needs to be prepared for the smell and........well likely that problem will take care of itself.

This is a serious thread. If you want to crack jokes, go play with the rest of children and let the grown ups have an adult conversation.

 

[beingtrue2me]

This is a serious thread. If you want to crack jokes, go play with the rest of children and let the grown ups have an adult conversation.

Think for one second that I was joking? That will end any stalker in a heartbeat. As for being a grown up, IF you were a grown up in the first place you would not have gotten into such a ridiculous mess so go cry somewhere else.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

Think for one second that I was joking? That will end any stalker in a heartbeat. As for being a grown up, IF you were a grown up in the first place you would not have gotten into such a ridiculous mess so go cry somewhere else.

Oh shut up. They are a million cases of stalking in the U.S. every year. My major was in criminal justice. These guys prey of women of all ages. If you knew anything at all about the subject then you would keep your comments to yourself. And like I said before this was a serious thread. I talk about going through hell and back and you come in to say how its my fault? There is something seriously wrong with you if that is all you have to do with your free time.

Other stalking victims will tell you right off the bat that they treated these guys just like anyone else. It was their own obsessive natures that caused the situation. You're just pissed that I don't find your immature sense of humor as witty as you seem to.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Oh did you get your feelings hurt? Get over it. This is the real world and guess what baby....shit does indeed happen. Do not put yourself into a position that most normal adults would not and you will not have that problem. If someone posts something on a PUBLIC forum that is not to your liking then ignore it and move on. My comment was actually spot on because men are driven first by physical attraction and what I said would likely stop most stalkers cold. But that is neither here nor there. You have enough other issues to worry about to give a shit about something a stranger says in a thread. Move on and get over yourself. I'm out.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

It's a little ironic that someone with an alleged history of such a stalker would have a nickname of chasemepleez.

That was 10 years ago and unless you lived it, you have no idea what a typical stalking victim is. Funny how people who have absolutely no experience in something have no fucking problem opening their BIG FAT MOUTHs to comment on it. I think after everything i went through that I have a right to a life and how dare you make such a comment. Its neither funny or warranted.

In case you haven't gotten the clue yet, I am putting you on ignore. That was fucking mean and you know it.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

Omg ur a strange little duck

 

[NightL]

While I sympathise with you completely about the agony and fear stalking may cause please take a moment to reflect on how you are communicating with people here. You are jumping down throats of people who are not your enemy.

I do believe a discussion on privacy and tips offered to maintain that is highly important, especially for sites such as Literotica. Be careful that you don't scare people away who could contribute sound opinions and advice.

 

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[ChaseMePleez]

While I sympathise with you completely about the agony and fear stalking may cause please take a moment to reflect on how you are communicating with people here. You are jumping down throats of people who are not your enemy.

I do believe a discussion on privacy and tips offered to maintain that is highly important, especially for sites such as Literotica. Be careful that you don't scare people away who could contribute sound opinions and advice.

While that may be true...I do not mean to jump on anyone. There has been some speculation on some of the facts of my life from my ad and it has stressed me out immensely. I am sorry if I offended anyone but I am really frustrated and depressed that as honest as I try to be it feels like someone is always calling me a liar on this site when I know that I am not.

 

[NightL]

Perhaps, just sit back and observe the How To... board for a few days - and the weekend is a good time as more people will be posting - and you will soon see the style of posting and gauge as much as you can the various personalities.

I can understand that trust is a hard thing to build up again and you have a need to be cautious. Don't let the stalker win though - developing and communicating with friends is a wondrous gift life provides - don't let this person rob you of that.

 

[Cathleen]

I think you put too much info out there now. Even your OP can be an identifier but honestly looking at your history of just the threads you've made contain a ton of information -- your name, general location, your email address, offers to talk on skype, yahoo etc. Your Sound Cloud alone is off the charts with medical info...

Please be more careful. There are people just looking to victimize others, don't put a target on your back. I think it'd be best if you curb your behavior of over-sharing.

ETA: If you believe, or even vaugely think, someone has hacked your information then tighten up on your password and computer protection.

Take off your YIM, Yahoo Id etc off your info here. You're leaving a trail to your door for crying out loud! Way too much info. If you want privacy don't announce yourself all over the place.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

I think you put too much info out there now. Even in your OP can be an identifier but honestly looking at your history of just the threads you've make contain a ton of information -- your name, general location, your email address, offers to talk on skype, yahoo etc. Your Sound Cloud alone is off the charts with medical info...

Please be more careful. There are people just looking to victimize others, don't put a target on your back. I think it'd be best if you curb your behavior of over-sharing.

ETA: If you believe, or even vaugely think, someone has hacked your information then tighten up on your password and computer protection.

Take off your YIM, Yahoo Id etc off your info here. You're leaving a trail to your door for crying out loud! Way too much info. If you want privacy don't announce yourself all over the place.

Thank you for your concern, Cathleen. I do not just speak to anyone though. In my ad I explicitly ask that people PM me before we can talk that way. I usually will share more than few of those before talking to them.

The information that is being accessed would more than likely point me out to the man I have been trying to avoid for the last ten years. I never really thought of it as over-sharing since its pretty much what they ask on the dating sites I have been on in the past.

I guess I am very naive to think that if I try being a good person that people will see me for who I am and not walk all over me but thats not the case. A part of the reason I put so much out there is always thought that if people saw that I had nothing to hide that they would learn to trust me and I might earn their friendship or affection as the case may be.

I am not saying how I see things or how you see things is wrong or right. Viewpoint has a lot to do with it and that varies with different people. I put who i am out there to say that 'This is who i am.' For some people, I know that understanding my motives will be a tad hard but I honestly am a very lonely person who spends most of her life in and out of medical facilities to stay well.

 

[Cathleen]

Just be careful. It's not your trustworthiness that's the issue, it's others.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Everyone starts with a different box of Leggos or Tinker-Toys, and the challenge for all is to figger out how to make a life from what you got. Maturity comes when you accept the fact that your Galactic Space Cruiser aint never gonna be an Indy 500 Track Blazer or Barney.

 

[Primalex]

A part of the reason I put so much out there is always thought that if people saw that I had nothing to hide that they would learn to trust me and I might earn their friendship or affection as the case may be.

Oh pleeeeeaaase.

You know what works well when it comes to trust? Not using pictures of other people and pretending it is you.

I put who i am out there to say that 'This is who i am.'

No, you don't. Dress size 8, who are you trying to fool?

I know that understanding my motives will be a tad hard but I honestly am a very lonely person

That's the only part I believe.

 

[albertaboy]

It's a little ironic that someone with an alleged history of such a stalker would have a nickname of chasemepleez.

I was thinking the same thing. If you don't want to get stalked on the internet, don't post stuff about your life.

 

[NightL]

hmm - the way I see it ChaseMePleez you have now forced hands. Are your photos taken from another person's identity?

I have no doubt that people are willing to indicate where they believe these photos have come from. Perhaps you may wish to quell these speculations by responding in your birth language - a paragraph or two that does not look like a google translation.

Personally if I ever felt concerned my online identity would be exposed I would just tell those who are close - this is my new identity etc and delete all traces of the old. Most certainly not start threads about it.

There are such a variety of kinks displayed at Literotica - is yours Chase Me Please then play victim?

If everything you say is true - I would dump that identity in a flash - wipe all traces and start afresh.

There is speculation - I am intrigued to your response.

First, perhaps start with the photo allegation.

 

[ChaseMePleez]

This is honestly putting alot of stress on me, having to explain myself. The screen name I created was initially a joke. I would have thought people would have supported the fact that I tried to get on with my life by joining in on Literotica. My life was already very isolated and loneliness can push you to do things you normally wouldn't.

My stalking incident is over 10 years old and I have been in counseling for a long time to deal with it. Primalex, I hope you're happy with how you handled this. My uncle passed away two days ago and you putting this stress on me has made me upset.

My best friend, who is a transgender from Poland, took those pictures of me a long time ago as an art project during college. She was one of the few people I would do that with considering how shy I was. There is alot to the story I will not get into but you do not know everything.

I think its sad that some people have nothing better to do than to cause this kind fo drama with perfect strangers. The only reason people started this with me is because of the attention I tend to get.

NightL - No offense to you, honestly but I don't owe you or anyone else any explanations. This is all started on a thread asking for people's opinions on what laptop I should get.

All I ask is to be left alone. I won't jump anyone's ass for their opinion. Just leave me alone, please.

 

[TeaforMe]

I am sure I am not the only one here confused by how your words don't match your actions. In order to be taken seriously, one must walk the walk, not just talk the talk.

You say you want privacy, yet you have a full page ad in the Lit personal sections inviting people to contact you via Lit and various chat communications. You have two of those means listed right in your profile, which means ANYONE can access you. You are not carefully screening with whom you select to share that information. How is that wanting privacy?

Secondly, in your siggy, you have in bold RED type that you are a phone sex goddess. Well, goodness, if that is not an advertisement for all the horny guys of Lit to want to seek you out and find all means to contact you, then I don't know what is.

You don't want privacy, you want attention. This whole thread is about you seeking attention. You are all stressed out because your motive is so incredibly transparent and people here have called you out for it instead of pandering to you.

If you were truly afraid for your safety, or felt that your identity was at risk for real, you would have removed ALL info that could be even slightly connected to you, and you would shut down your chat avenues as well as anything else that could lead to you.

It's sad that your uncle passed, but no one here is to blame for that. If reading all of this is that upsetting to you in your fragile state of mind, then maybe you need to take some time away from Lit to do some proper mourning. I mean no disrespect, but bringing that up and blaming someone for upsetting you even more, is just another drama llama, attention seeking ploy for sympathy for something that just does not add up.

 

[Emerson40]

I thought I remembered ChaseMe from someplace.

TeaforMe called her on some dramatics here a while ago. Reading that thread through again, and seeing this one with all the inconsistencies and contradictions pointed out, I think drama and attention is actually the order of the day, not privacy and wanting to be left alone.

Look at me, look at me, look at me. Okay, enough of me going on about myself. What do you think of me. Now, please leave me alone.

People can be weird sometimes.

This is honestly putting alot of stress on me, having to explain myself.....

... but I don't owe you or anyone else any explanations. This is all started on a thread asking for people's opinions on what laptop I should get.

This thread actually started because you started it.