The real truth about Anal sex

[Maverick1756]

Good Day everyone,

I have read that alot of women love anal, is this true and if so do the guys like it as well,

Another question, and by the way I do know use lots of lube and go slow etc etc, no pain should be involved and stuff,

Ok, kinda of embarrased I suppose to to heck with it,

I love to rim, and finger my womans behind and she loved it to until on day, she had a wee accident, to me it was no big deal, and now she is too self concious to have me touch her again down there,

I keep telling her that I didnt mind, however to no avail


If you are active in anal play can you please tell me what your experiences are really how often do accidents happen and is it really a big deal to most,

Please be candid in your respones, I dont think I am the only one wondering this


Thanks

Phill

 

[isseii]

Hi Mav,

This is actually a very good question and certainly not something you should be embarrassed about. It really varies from person to person and couple to couple. There are a LOT of people, both male and female that enjoy being on both the giving and receiving end of anal play to varying degrees.

As for accidents, it really depends upon the person and the approach to the situation. There are those that are either very into cleanliness or simply enjoy the sensations that use enemas as part of their anal play to ensure that they or their partner are as clean as possible. While the enema play does sound like it might be rather enjoyable sometime there are a lot of us that are just naturalists and go for it whenever we're in the mood. At that point a lot of it really just boils down to good communication. There are times when you know that it's probably not a good idea for you or your partner to be playing around there and you need to tell them so and they need to respect your wishes on the matter.

As for your specific situation it sounds as if you have been very open with her about the matter and have made the fact that it didn't bother you and that you want to continue to play very clear. I can understand why she would be rather embarrassed especially if the two of you are new to this type of play. I wouldn't pressure her too much on the matter, but make sure that she knows that it's something that you get a great deal of enjoyment out of, let her know how much it turns you on to do it to her. Perhaps you can work her back into it slowly by working on her without any penetration (I guarantee she'll be begging for more in no time), or maybe you could get her to try it out in the shower with you where any accidents would be quickly washed away.

Best of luck to you and your lover.

 

[Maverick1756]

thanks for replying

Wow, nice of you to reply so quick,

By the way I have never had anal intercourse,

the shower is a great idea and thanks for that

LOL, she would probably slap me if I showed her this thread, LOL,

thanks

Phill

 

[Firebrain]

As isseii said; sometimes you can 'plan' for it, so to speak, and sometimes you just feel like going for it. I used to plan by making sure I'd been to the bathroom first but now we just go for it as and when we feel like it.

Accidents? In a few years, only a very small one (so small that he didn't even notice). It didn't bother me but then it didn't bother him. Plus, I'm a brazen hussy

If you want to talk to her about it...a good way to look at it is that the anus is just like many other zones in the body that have two functions. We use mouths to kiss and eat; just because somebody was sick once, doesn't mean you'll never kiss them again. Vaginas are for sex and having babies; we still have sex after the babies (unless we're very unfortunate!). Breasts are for feeding but also for sex play; we don't ignore them just because they happen to make milk as well. What happened to you and your GF is really no different.

I think for it all to work well, your GF needs to be very aroused and more importantly, comfortable with herself and what you're doing. If you want to pursue this, I would:

1) make a fuss of how much you love her backside (but don't mention the anal stuff directly).
2) Incorporate a little touching in your foreplay. You could stroke her anus while you're down on her to observe her reaction. You could also have her on her hands and knees, do some g-spot/clit play from behind and then try a little rimming. Perhaps you could agree on a 'safety' word so she doesn't feel too self conscious asking you to stop?
3) I am always more comfortable with any kind of anal play after I've had an orgasm; it's easier and everything is more relaxed. So looks like she should get double helpings

Good luck.