The psychology of being a cuckold

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I'm curious as to where the desire for a man to see his wife/girlfriend sexually pleasured, and all variants of being a cuckold, comes from.

I have been married for 27 years and I still fantasize and masturbate about seeing my wife with a man with a bigger cock than mine (I'm 6 1/2 and of average thickness).

I dated my wife in college and she had only been with one other guy before me; it was once and just to get over her being a virgin. We dated and I broke up with her. She was in some regards, obsessed with me. At some point, she went out with another guy I knew to be a horndog. They had sex twice before I got a little jealous and got them broken up. I still had no interest in getting back with her. At some point later, she started going out with another guy I knew. Seemed from afar that she was starting to really like him and I knew they must have been having regular sex which drove me nuts. Long story short, I came between them and then starting dating her again. While having sex with her, I'd ask her the usual questions, how big was his dick? "You're bigger than him". Was he better in bed than me? ...hesitation. She later told me that he was better than me in certain regards and it came out that his dick was shorter but thicker. I had a hard swallow of jealousy but excitement when she told me that. Also, after much questioning, I gathered that his thicker dick felt better than mine just being inside her. Later, when I had the nerve to ask her, I asked if she had sucked his dick. She immediately said no. Weeks later, she said that she did not want to lie to me and said that she could not remember if she had or not but if she had, it was not a regular thing. My wife is an honest person and is the type to feel guilt about not telling the truth about anything. I would bring the blowjob thing up every so often. She would be in tears. She once said that he was on top of her and she didn't know if she was blowing his dick in that position or not. It drove me nuts not knowing. How can one not know whether you have had someones dick in your mouth or not I'm thinking. (feel free to give me your thoughts on this).

I still fantasize about her and him to this very day, what they did and what it looked like while they were fucking and what she looked like when she came with him. It's a dead issue now after so many years of marriage and I'd be a cad to bring it up again, but I think about it almost daily to this day. In some respects, I could thank him because I don't think I would have come back to her if I hadn't become so jealous about their relationship. And, I do get a thrill thinking about them and someone else in general fucking her. I have some bi fantasies as well.

I was sexually molested when I was 15 y/o by another school mate. I don't know if this play in to this or not.

So, where do thoughts of being a cuckold come from? The above is only my experience, it may stem from multiple experiences. Please share your thoughts.
 
I think it's just that your just a jealous type of guy. On my 30th birthday my wife said that her mates hubby had been coming on to her. She was a virgin before we met and I said if you want to try him then arrange it. She did and he met at ours while I went out, he didn't know that I knew he was coming. When I got home he was gone and I had a very horny session with my wife. I licked her pussy and his spunk was still there. Later on in life we had a couple of 3somes with my mate and watched her getting fucked. Was a good experience. She knows if she wants to she can fuck other guys but if she has then she hasn't told me. I am not the jealous type and don't label myself a cuckold, it was a good experience and try as I might I cannot get jealous. Would gladly watch her taking a cock again and joining in, why not? Lifes too short to worry.
 
I'm not jealous in the sense that I wonder what wife is doing while I'm not around or anything like that. I did get jealous in college about her fearing that I would lose her for good if I did not come back to her when I did. I don't think I could ever give her carte blanche to fuck anybody else, not that she'd want to. It still fires me up to this day thinking about her fucking someone else or having someone else's dick in her mouth. I don't know where this compulsion comes from.
 
I think it's just that your just a jealous type of guy. On my 30th birthday my wife said that her mates hubby had been coming on to her. She was a virgin before we met and I said if you want to try him then arrange it. She did and he met at ours while I went out, he didn't know that I knew he was coming. When I got home he was gone and I had a very horny session with my wife. I licked her pussy and his spunk was still there. Later on in life we had a couple of 3somes with my mate and watched her getting fucked. Was a good experience. She knows if she wants to she can fuck other guys but if she has then she hasn't told me. I am not the jealous type and don't label myself a cuckold, it was a good experience and try as I might I cannot get jealous. Would gladly watch her taking a cock again and joining in, why not? Lifes too short to worry.

I think there's a LOT more to it than simply being jealous or not.
 
it's pretty much the opposite of jealousy. It's not so much "How dare someone else have the thing that I own," as it is "I want some of that good thing too!'

or... something like that.
 
I find it hard to put my own feeling around this subject into words. I'm very turned on by the thought of my wife fucking someone else. On one hand, I do feel jealous thinking about it, but I also feel very horny at the thought of my wife being fucked in a way that I can't, so I want her to feel that way.

She's really not a sexual person and obviously I've been unable to bring that out of her, so maybe someone else can inspire her inner slut. Maybe she just needs to try a big cock, as I'm the only man she's ever fucked.

The thought of her doing it almost kills me and the idea that she could end up in love with someone else terrifies me, but the idea of it just drives me crazy. I also get turned on by the humiliation, especially if there was a humiliation aspect to the scenario too and a feminisation aspect.

I guess I'm just fucked up.
 
I find it hard to put my own feeling around this subject into words. I'm very turned on by the thought of my wife fucking someone else. On one hand, I do feel jealous thinking about it, but I also feel very horny at the thought of my wife being fucked in a way that I can't, so I want her to feel that way.

She's really not a sexual person and obviously I've been unable to bring that out of her, so maybe someone else can inspire her inner slut. Maybe she just needs to try a big cock, as I'm the only man she's ever fucked.

The thought of her doing it almost kills me and the idea that she could end up in love with someone else terrifies me, but the idea of it just drives me crazy. I also get turned on by the humiliation, especially if there was a humiliation aspect to the scenario too and a feminisation aspect.

I guess I'm just fucked up.
I seriously doubt that mate, but it does come from somewhere. Question is, where?
 
My wife had only been with one other guy before we met in college. One other guy after I broke up wtih her (fucked him twice but is completely sure she never sucked his dick), and the last guy she was with for about a month before I got between them and dated her until we married. He is the one that she says she can't remember if she blew him or not. Is this possible that she could not remember such a thing. It drives me wild with lust thinking about his dick in her mouth and what the whole scene looked like and did she taste his cum.

A little humiliation gets me fired up too. I would like her to tell me about what they did while we are fucking. How much better he was than me. Even call me his name while we are fucking, telling me how much better than her husband (me) is. We've been married for a long time now and it would probably be seen as very strange to make that request of her. Thoughts?
 
I must be

I love cleaning a well fucked pussy with my mouth, Im I alone in this?
 
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