The part that I don't usually share

[angela146]

Consider this a confession.

There is a part of my sex life that I don't usually share in my stories or my posts - mostly because I'm not entirely comfortable with it.

Buy I'm in one of those moods right now and I'm waiting for my husband to get home so I can act on it.

Sometimes, every couple of months or so, I indulge my sadistic streak. I allow myself to get angry with hubby, usually for absolutely no reason, and take it out on his behind.

It isn't that I'm mad at him. If I were, I wouldn't be able to do it and enjoy it. I just sometimes like to hurt him and enjoy inflicting pain on him. I like having him over my lap or kneeling on the couch or whatever and using a leather tawse on him until he can't stand it anymore - and then I keep going.

I can usually get him to cry out in pain and sometimes I can make him actually cry.

He lets me do it. Partly, it turns him on to feel me let go and partly because he loves me and knows that I enjoy it. It's one of those times when he can express his love for me by "doing anything I ask of him".

Afterward, I have a rush of sexual energy and either get on top of him or have him do me in a submissive way.

Why am I telling you this? Because it's 4:50 on a Friday afternoon, I have the tawse sitting next to my keyboard, I'm horny as Hell and he's not home yet (he's a teacher and usually get's home about 4:30).

I may later regret having posted this but right now my inhibitions are down and I feel like sharing.

BTW: ChilledVodka, your thread is what set me off. My reply to you got me thinking about non-consent and that put me in a mood to bend my hubby over something.

Kisses...

 

[Nemasis Enforcer]

You don't know why you shared that... well im glad you did!

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I never heard the word 'tawse' before. Learn something new every day.

---dr.M.

 

[MathGirl]

I never heard the word 'tawse' before.

Dear Dr M,
They're a type of badger.
MG

 

[McKenna]

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[angela146]

I never heard the word 'tawse' before. Learn something new every day. ---dr.M.

It's a split leather strap with a handle. The spanking implement in my Av is a tawse.

I attached a picture of a couple. More info available at: http://www.tickleberry.co.uk/pages/spanking.html

 

[angela146]

Dear Dr M,
They're a type of badger. MG

Hmmm... Spanking someone with a badger... Which end do you hold onto? How do you get the badger to cooperate? Badgers are nasty little critters when they get annoyed.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Hmmm... Spanking someone with a badger... Which end do you hold onto? How do you get the badger to cooperate? Badgers are nasty little critters when they get annoyed.

the Honey badger is the meanest animal on earth. Wear gloves!

 

[angela146]

I can't even imagine spanking my husband.

Good that you found your niche, though, and your husband is willing to let you explore those feelings.

I know how very lucky I am to have him.

BTW: about 98% of the spankings in our house are administered to me by him. We both like it that way. He's also a lot less intense about it than I am.

Love that AV, by the way. It's so deliciously naughty.

Thank you.

I actually like yours better than mine.

 

[angela146]

Thank you for being supportive! I feel very silly and self-indulgent for having posted that, but it's nice to have a group of friends who let me be silly and self-indulgent.

Yes, I did give it to him yesterday about half an hour after I posted. I also told him that you folks knew it was going to happen.

Damn that feels good!

 

[McKenna]

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[dr_mabeuse]

I want to know more about this tawse. Is it two-ply so that it makes an extra-loud slapping sound? I used a spanker like that once. Can you get them with your initials tooled into them in reverse so you can leave a mark?

Have you ever used a flogger? Or should I just go over to the BDSM board?

---dr.M.

 

[angela146]

I want to know more about this tawse. Is it two-ply so that it makes an extra-loud slapping sound? I used a spanker like that once. Can you get them with your initials tooled into them in reverse so you can leave a mark?

Have you ever used a flogger? Or should I just go over to the BDSM board? ---dr.M.

I've seen them as two-ply or one-ply.

Mine happens to be one-ply. It's smooth on one side and rough on the other. It's about a foot long (excluding the handle) and a little less than an inch wide with two "tongues".

I like the fact that it's thin. I think a two-ply flogger would have too much mass to it. For me, I'm looking for a whipping effect rather than a beating instrument.

You might be able to get one with your initials in it but I'm not sure it would leave an impression unless it was heavier than mine is. Besides that, I like to drag it toward me just a little at the point where it connects so that it slides a little.

This leaves a nice mark sometimes because of the line going down the middle. The two sides don't always connect at the same time so it has kind of a ridge in the middle.

If you get one of these, be careful with it. It *really* hurts. Remember, I use it to satisfy my sadistic streak.

 

[smartnsassy]

confession is good for the soul.

tell us more stuff that you shouldn't.

 

[English Lady]

I happily spank my husband but i could never REALLY hurt him. I use my hand or the little light flogger we have and its all about me experting my power over him than any real pain. Works vice versa too......it is very arousing though.....a bit of pain is good for the soul

 

[Marsipanne]

I think instinctively I'm quite violent. I get angry, I hit something/someone. Thing is, I have the nicest temper in the world. I never get angry, I never cry, I'm always happy and laughing. So, nobody's seen my violent streak yet, but I've told a few people about it. They all seem to think I would be into BDSM, but that's one area which I'm not into. It's strange. Maybe it's because I don't yet acquaint pain/anger with sexual pleasure. Maybe it's because I acquaint anger with violence that I think I wouldn't find sexual pleasure in it. In fact, I'm probably more submissive than dominant.

 

[herecomestherain]

Marsipanne wrote '

It's strange. Maybe it's because I don't yet acquaint pain/anger with sexual pleasure. Maybe it's because I acquaint anger with violence that I think I wouldn't find sexual pleasure in it. In fact, I'm probably more submissive than dominant.

I never equate anger with sexual pleasure either. For me it's a huge turn off. Power play, pain and pleasure can manifest in subtle, fascinating and and very exciting love games. It isn't always necessary to choose a "side" as such.

 

[angela146]

Marsipanne wrote '

I never acquaint anger with sexual pleasure either. For me it's a huge turn off.

The only real violence I experienced growing up was spanking, usually bent over and usually on my bare behind. It wasn't overtly sexual but there is always a sexual aspect to being touched or slapped in that general area.

I grew up wanting to have "my turn" at being on top. Unlike my parents, I restrict my spanking activities to consenting adults (actually, one consenting adult).

 

[dr_mabeuse]

double post deleted

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I never acquaint anger with sexual pleasure either. For me it's
a huge turn off. Power play, pain and pleasure can manifest in subtle, fascinating and and very exciting love games. It isn't always necessary to choose a "side" as such.

Never do anything with another person out of anger, especially sex, super-especially BDSM. Anyone who thinks that BDSM involves taking your anger out on someone else or simply hurting them has absolutely no idea of what BDSM is really about.

---dr.M.

 

[angela146]

Never do anything with another person out of anger, especially sex, super-especially BDSM. Anyone who thinks that BDSM involves taking your anger out on someone else or simply hurting them has absolutely no idea of what BDSM is really about.

I think you're making the same distinction that I made in my original post, albeit with a different set of semantics.

Looking back on what I wrote, I can now see it as a classic example of girl-speak.

"I allow myself to get angry with hubby, usually for absolutely no reason, and take it out on his behind... It isn't that I'm mad at him. If I were, I wouldn't be able to do it and enjoy it."

"Angry" was the wrong word, although I don't really have a right word for it other than "sadistic passion".

However, what I'm describing is also not BDSM in the orthodox sense.