the other side of the coin...

[dolf]

much is talked about on making a sub more slutty, showing her off, no bras allowed etc.

how common is the other side...wanting to make her sweet & angelic to the public eye? doing everything with a hint of girlish self consciousness?

 

[minx1]

much is talked about on making a sub more slutty, showing her off, no bras allowed etc.

how common is the other side...wanting to make her sweet & angelic to the public eye? doing everything with a hint of girlish self consciousness?

I think my Master likes a combination of both. Sometimes he likes me to be shown off, and has set me tasks to do just that......though no more than dressing slightly provocatively, a hint of whats underneath lol. First and foremost though I am his and he likes having a side of me that no one else sees.

Its the same in terms of behaviour too. Here for example he draws the line at harmless flirting....but nothing more than that is acceptable. And I do have banter with people here but I am always careful not to embarrass him and not to overstep the mark. He likes my personal thoughts/desires/fantasies to stay between us, with the exception of for example writing a story which he will tell me to publish.

 

[myinnerslut]

A likes me to be his slut only. nobody else is allowed to see my body without his permission.

 

[WriterDom]

I want My slut, not a slut.

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

.. how common is the other side...wanting to make her sweet & angelic to the public eye? ..

Hehe. G already thinks I'm sweet and angelic. If you wants tips, I could come up with some. I've never heard about anyone doing it on pupose though, sorry.

 

[northwoods_sub]

I have always portrayed the perfect sweet innocent lady on the outside and the dirty slut in the bedroom.

I agree with what Writerdom said, I am my Sirs slut, not a slut.

Though I can't speak for my Sir, I think that it turns him on that I can go from the PTA meeting in ankle length skirt and blouse, to naked in stiletto heals kneeling at his feet waiting to be whipped in a matter of minutes.

 

[ownedsubgal]

actually Daddy always says that it was the fact that i was a slut (meaning easy, promiscuous, not seductive or flirty) yet had an air of innocence and sweetness that really drew him to me in the first place. He would never want that to change. with the way i normally dress, the way i carry myself, speak, etc., lots of people have assumed i was a virgin or something close to it. He enforces rules of conduct to enhance this, like always presenting myself as meek and deferential around others, never raising my voice, keeping my eyes lowered when speaking to men, no cursing, wearing lots of soft girlie dresses, etc. the difference between my Master and most others is that he sees being a slut as a natural part of all this sweetness. because to him a submissive slut is one who is driven to satiate the sexual needs and desires of men, who cannot say no, who does not set limits, who will do whatever is wanted/demanded of her. i am a slut, not simply his slut, which is the only way he would have it. and part of being the kind of slut he desires is being quiet, demure and innocent of nature.

 

[NemoAlia]

.... i am a slut, not simply his slut, which is the only way he would have it. and part of being the kind of slut he desires is being quiet, demure and innocent of nature.

In my experience, finding this sort of Dom is very difficult. Most guys are driven toward monogamous women. The "my slut" phenomenon. I would even consider calling it a biological thing, since that's the only way a guy knows which babies are his.

I find that in order for me to be really slutty, I have to be uninvolved. Letting a guy make the rules usually guarantees that I will not be able to act on my basic promiscuity.

Sorry, dolf. I know this was really not a response to your original topic. Just following where my thoughts went.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Are you talking about a lil girl angelic? Like for her Daddy Dom?

 

[Netzach]

Well, it isn't sweet and it isn't innocent, but maybe this applies.

There's not one thing about the ironclad public exterior that my Bull would want to go out for a night without. There's not a single thing about my public, commercial presentation in the scene as Domme that he'd want to go by the wayside. I actually find myself bemused and turned on, and I want to make the question of the winter "why is that Domme wearing a posture collar?" I find that my desire to dress and present much as I did when I had some vague sense of "reputation" to create is coming back now, maybe this really interesting desire to slash and burn that tightly constructed self by putting it on a leash.

I think I should get myself a better suit for the fall.

I'm not a slut, and it's a word that really garners a "whatever" kind of reaction in my bull.

I mean he could point at someone and say "fuck him" and I would, but any gratification I got out of it would be doing something I really detest for the one I adore. I don't fuck for sport normally. I don't fuck for romantic ever after, but I like some comfort zone and sense of control there.

I have to say I seek this dichotomy in butch male subs. Power on the outside, slut on the inside - I think it's part of why I bottomed butch, because I wanted to replicate that tension initially, but this is more how it's done.

That said, I find myself going more femme in general these days, opting for skirts, showing more skin - my "heavy fetish" interests take a summer vacation and come on full force in October. I like being someone you can easily sip Chardonnay with at a nice place without everyone thinking "he's paying her." There's something sexy and clandestine to really creating a private life together, a separate space in the bedroom antithetical to other spaces.

 

[intothewoods]

In my experience, finding this sort of Dom is very difficult. Most guys are driven toward monogamous women. The "my slut" phenomenon. I would even consider calling it a biological thing, since that's the only way a guy knows which babies are his.

I find that in order for me to be really slutty, I have to be uninvolved. Letting a guy make the rules usually guarantees that I will not be able to act on my basic promiscuity.

Sorry, dolf. I know this was really not a response to your original topic. Just following where my thoughts went.

This is heavy on my mind at the moment too. Right now I'm getting my flirt on, and it's great. I don't know if when the dust settles I'll be ready to be monogamous or not. I really dig my current play partner, but he let me know that if we were dating, he wouldn't be okay with me getting it on with other men. Of course, women are okay. At the moment, that's neither here nor there, but I do wonder where that will put me once the dust settles. And of course, I find the whole "that's my pussy" talk totally hot! Great. I'm so doomed.

 

[Netzach]

This is heavy on my mind at the moment too. Right now I'm getting my flirt on, and it's great. I don't know if when the dust settles I'll be ready to be monogamous or not. I really dig my current play partner, but he let me know that if we were dating, he wouldn't be okay with me getting it on with other men. Of course, women are okay. At the moment, that's neither here nor there, but I do wonder where that will put me once the dust settles. And of course, I find the whole "that's my pussy" talk totally hot! Great. I'm so doomed.

What one actually needs tends to emerge when dust does settle. And partners who can't be compatible with whatever that is have brief and volatile, interesting runs with you if you stick to your guns. Which, if it's a need, you will even if you don't want to or try to. I would have liked to be less specific, but there are lids for every pot. Often weird mismatched ones fit best.

 

[dolf]

Sorry, dolf. I know this was really not a response to your original topic. Just following where my thoughts went.

interesting thoughts & sidetracks are always welcome

Are you talking about a lil girl angelic? Like for her Daddy Dom?

yes.

 

[HoHoBomb]

how common is the other side...wanting to make her sweet & angelic to the public eye? doing everything with a hint of girlish self consciousness?

It's all about being a Lady.

 

[SubKekiLee]

MYD lives by this rule

A lady in Public, A Cook in the Kitchen and a SLAVE/SLUT/WHORE in the bedroom.

He says he has it perfect... June Cleaver with 90's kink with me.. =0)

 

[HottieMama]

MYD lives by this rule

A lady in Public, A Cook in the Kitchen and a SLAVE/SLUT/WHORE in the bedroom.

He says he has it perfect... June Cleaver with 90's kink with me.. =0)

50's Housewife that fucks like a Millennium Whore...(That's my MySpace tagline.)

i prefer to always been seen as a lady in public...with subtle little reminders, perhaps only for myself, of being that whore.

 

[graceanne]

To tell the truth I pretty much dress myself, and I dress appropriately. I don't wear suggestive clothes to take my kids to school, and I don't wear everyday clothes to go out.

But, even when I'm dressed to go out, I don't look like a slut. I dress sexily, and that's it. I know K likes the way I dress, so I'd say he wouldn't want me to dress like a slut.

 

[SubKekiLee]

let me clarify I do not dress slutty to the general public I chose my clothes to be bought and when he wants naughty stuff it is always in private.. I know what he likes and how he likes it but since we both have high profile jobs I wouldnt dare show off to anyone and the reminders I have are all inside me.. except the charm he is going to buy me to wear FT.. and even then NO one will know what it means but US

 

[ownedsubgal]

In my experience, finding this sort of Dom is very difficult. Most guys are driven toward monogamous women. The "my slut" phenomenon. I would even consider calling it a biological thing, since that's the only way a guy knows which babies are his.

I find that in order for me to be really slutty, I have to be uninvolved. Letting a guy make the rules usually guarantees that I will not be able to act on my basic promiscuity.

yes he's definitely a rare sort of Dom, lucky for me. He has no interest in the woman who will do any and everything sexually with him, but will balk at the idea of doing the same with other men. He says that since he was a teenager, he always dreamed of owning/marrying (same thing to him) a submissive slut, a woman who just could not say no and who he could share with a dog off the street (literally) if he wanted.

that's funny too about the baby thing...that issue actually came up, when i got knocked up at a time when he had been really frequently slutting me out as well as making use of me himself. His guess was as good as mine, there was really no way of knowing. the way he looks at it, i'm his, therefore if i have a baby, it's his as well, biological heritage being irrelevant.

 

[myinnerslut]

reminds me of a line from a song... "lady in the street, freak in the bed"

 

[the captians wench]

This is heavy on my mind at the moment too. Right now I'm getting my flirt on, and it's great. I don't know if when the dust settles I'll be ready to be monogamous or not. I really dig my current play partner, but he let me know that if we were dating, he wouldn't be okay with me getting it on with other men. Of course, women are okay. At the moment, that's neither here nor there, but I do wonder where that will put me once the dust settles. And of course, I find the whole "that's my pussy" talk totally hot! Great. I'm so doomed.

*giggles*

You know my ex hub was the same way. He told me if I ever cheated on him with another woman he'd be totally cool with it. Of course this was when he was thinking about seeking another woman himself.

but more on topic...

I keep trying to tell people I'm sweet and angelic, but they don't believe me. I think the collar gives me away abit.

I do play up the baby girl gig, tho I've never been too keen on daddy doms. I just haven't found a daddy dom out there who was sadistic enough to subdue the pain slut in me. But most of my friends and playpartners have induldged the baby girl, tho they really like the slut in me *giggles*

 

[the captians wench]

MYD lives by this rule

A lady in Public, A Cook in the Kitchen and a SLAVE/SLUT/WHORE in the bedroom.

He says he has it perfect... June Cleaver with 90's kink with me.. =0)

That's how my mother always said I should be. Some one once called me "the kinky bitch you can take home to moma" *giggles*