The One Night Stand

[piccicatopolka]

Fresh meat... no strings... all play... now go away. I've never done it! There's been some romps very early on in relationships but they lasted at least for a little while. Now its just a fantasy cause I'm chicken! Weirdo crazy disease ridden fakers! But I love to think about it; especially in public. Maybe my brain is turning male LOL! I see a hot guy and wonder... hmm... yeah.

 

[CandiCame]

I've done it- many times. Had one bad experience and like, a million good ones. So I suggest it ONLY if you're both cool. You don't wanna get a stalker.

 

[iAmTheTot]

Also, use protection.

 

[LindsayRae]

In my early twenties, I was a bit "freer" than I am now (more grounded and mature in my early thirties now). I was involved in a few one night stands. Always a condom, and no oral sex even.

Even as a free bird, I've always been scared of disease. That's why I wouldn't perform oral on strangers. Sure, the chances of contracting an STD that way are fewer, but even 1% is/was too much of a risk for me! I used to use the phrase that I was "a safe slut".

Anyway, I actually didn't prefer one night stands. For myself, sex has always been better with a partner that ya know well.

 

[piccicatopolka]

Wasn't ready for your avatar this early.

 

[Justme16432000]

In my early twenties, I was a bit "freer" than I am now (more grounded and mature in my early thirties now). I was involved in a few one night stands. Always a condom, and no oral sex even.

Even as a free bird, I've always been scared of disease. That's why I wouldn't perform oral on strangers. Sure, the chances of contracting an STD that way are fewer, but even 1% is/was too much of a risk for me! I used to use the phrase that I was "a safe slut".

Anyway, I actually didn't prefer one night stands. For myself, sex has always been better with a partner that ya know well.

Great Avatar!

I would agree, I was care free in my late teens and early twenties and made it through without any std's or unplanned pregnancies, and I'm old and married now, but if I were out for one night stands I would be overly worried about diseases. I guess that comes with age, I realize that I'm not invincible now.

 

[piccicatopolka]

I'll be incredibly vain and state that once I've had sex with someone... they tend to stick around. There are a couple of guys that come to mind that I realize now would have been better as one night stands.

And I haven't had THAT many men... maybe like ten in my life and I'm over forty. Guys who have been with scads of women actually aren't all that attractive but who's to know ~ a one night stand isn't about the truth or the past or the future.

 

[Joankraig]

Swing

You might want to think about a "swinging" environment (club, party, etc. - there are a lot out there). The concerns over stalkers and STD's are still very real there, but (and this may seem counter intuitive) they are reduced in this atmosphere. And, because everyone knows why everyone else is there, there are no mixed messages or poorly read intentions. Just sex for the sake of sex.

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

. . . .
~ a one night stand isn't about the truth or the past or the future.

Truth!

I'm sure I'll be quoting you.

 

[Les_Grossman]

Growing up in the generation / environment that I did, it was more or less forced into our heads that everyone had HIV until proven otherwise, it kinda killed the one night stand deal for me, even in college. I had one or two but it was too uncomfortable for me not knowing anything about the chick other than what sorority she was in.
I did however, have some consistant fuck buddies and that was incredible.

 

[piccicatopolka]

This thread has created luck ~ today a friend from Switzerland called and he's going to knock my socks off when he comes to SF next week.