The old self-esteem checklist

[Marquis]

Do you ever make a list of things you love about yourself, and a list of things you hate about yourself, just to check up on your self image?

I'm a little concerned that my list might be getting imbalanced, as it tends to do every once in a while.

Things I Love About Myself

I am:

Intelligent
Attractive
Charismatic
A leader
Ambitious
Creative
Spontaneous


Things I Hate About Myself

I am:

Shallow
Phony
Opportunistic
Short-sighted
Emotionally unavailable
Critical
Judgmental
Arrogant

 

[twysted73]

Alright....we'll play along.

I am:

- Intelligent
- Sensual
- Loving
- selectively loyal
- handsom?
- charming
- thoughtful


I am also:

- judgemental
- hurtful
- insensative
- dismissive
- emotionally fractured
- manipulative
- unmotivated

next?

 

[SubKekiLee]

Alright Ill play..

I am...

Loyal to a fault..
Honest
Outgoing
Sentimental
Sensual
Caring
Giving
Intelligent


What I am not

Confidant
Trusting
Immdiately Emotionally giving
Cocky
Jealous
Unforgiving

 

[BiBunny]

Things I Love About Myself:

I am...

Intelligent
Strong
Attractive
Loyal
Honest
Giving
Witty
Ambitious
Persistent
Basically Guileless

Things I Hate About Myself:

I am...

Shy
Sarcastic
Fat
Prone To Grumpiness When Annoyed
Lazy
Disorganized

 

[LittleJade]

I'll do this tomorrow, when I feel less exhausted. (Just in from the symphony).

 

[Netzach]

I am

engaged
curious
insightful
benign
sensual
passionate
industrious
honest


disorganized
critical
argumentative
needy
vain
procrastination-bound

 

[LadyAria]

Things I Like About Myself

I am:

Intelligent
Successful
Ambitious
Creative
Uninhibited
Eloquent
Charming
Well-traveled
Adventurous
Extremely generous (at times)


Things I Hate About Myself

I am:

Narcissistic
Moody
Materialistic
Critical
Fickle
Vindictive
Manipulative
Selfish
Status whore
Easily bored.
Condescending

 

[00Syd]

Love:

Enthusiastic
Creative
Smart
Loving
Thoughtful
Critical
Joyful
Humorous

Hate:

Unmotivated
No Energy
Dismissive
Stubborn
Lazy
Unambitious
Liar
Selfish
Overly Emotional
Constantly Exhausted
Unfocused
No Drive
Aimless
Cooler-Than-Thou
Vain



P.S. Thanks for posting this Marquis, it felt good to see it all laid out in a list. Maybe I can start working on the things I don't like one at a time.

 

[EmpressFi]

Things I Like About Myself

I am:

Intelligent
Creative
Friendly
Giving
Fun at times
Flirtatious

Things I Hate About Myself

I am:

Moody
Overly Critical
Passive Aggressive
Selfish
Condescending
Fat
Ugly
Unforgiving
Stubborn
Opinionated
Outspoken
Rude
Uncouth
Timid
Unconfrontational
Indecisive
Obsessive Compulsive
Easily Distracted

 

[Davetmat]

Hmm, this is hard to do, self analysis

Thinks i like about me:

Loyal
Caring
Intelligent
Quick Learner
Motivated
Open Minded
Forgiving
Protective
Giving

Things i dislike

Unconfident (working on it)
Shy
Judgemental
Self Critical
Fearful
Sheepish
Passive Aggressive
Quick to Anger sometimes
Anal

 

[VelvetDarkness]

My pros and cons

Pros:

Intelligent
Creative
Kind
Empathetic
Generous
Loyal
Fairly attractive
Honest
Grounded/realistic
Hardworking
Strong moral code
Unmaterialistic
NonJudgemental

Cons:

Non-confrontational
Passive
Naive/gullible at times
Shy/introverted
Lazy
Easily bored
A consummate procrastinator
Unambitious
Bound by conscience in a way that others often are not
Self deprecating/self critical
Unfit since I quit nursing
Prone to intellectual snobbery

 

[DeservingBitch]

I am

Smart
Engaged
Empathic
Critical
Hot
Giving
Game
Chill

Shy
Prone to impostor syndrom
Untrusting
Impatient
Queen of procrastination
Disorganized

 

[minx1]

I am:

Intelligent
Passionate about my beliefs
attractive
loving
sensual
funny
giving
loyal
open
forgiving
not affraid to take risks (life)

I am also:

insecure
analytical in the extreme
sometimes uptight
learning to trust again
needy
afraid of being hurt (relationships)
paranoid
I can be jealous (I hate that)

 

[madetotakeit]

Love that I am
Intelligent
Loyal
Sensual
Love deeply
Artistic
Introspective
A leader
Calm under pressure
Empathetic
Attractive
Almost finished reclaiming myself
Learning to open up
Patient
Stubborn

Hate that I am

Slow to reveal
Quick to cut off except in love
Stubborn (it's a love/hate thing)
Appear Aloof
Keep a distance until I feel emotionally safe
Scarred
Use intelligence to keep an emotional distance when unsure
Introspective (another love/hate thing. Sometimes I need to just go with it rather than figure out the whys)

 

[Marquis]

OK, follow up.

What is the one thing that is most important to you, the factor that you base your self esteem on most.

For me, I would say that it is the way I treat people.

I am never happier than when I feel like I am treating people with respect and honor, just treating people well in general.

I am never more depressed than when I feel like I am treating people poorly.

Thank you all for sharing with me.

 

[EmpressFi]

more than my appearance (because I dont think I'll ever see myself thinner)

The one thing that will send me into a tizzy faster than anything else... my intelligence. If I feel stupid or feel that someone is calling me stupid, I get angry and withdrawn. It's a combination of things... a short temper and a lack of will to confront

 

[TeachMeSir]

Alright,

Things I love about myself:

Mother
Mentor
Loyal friend
Understanding
Empathetic
Fun
Assertive & self-confident
Passionate / Sensual
Sincere / Honest


Things I would like to change about myself.

Mainpulative
Anxious
Procrastinating
Aloof
Controlling
Demanding
Over-achiever
Tired
Lonely

 

[Marquis]

Sometimes, the world seems full of strangers.

Sometimes, it feels like you know everyone.

 

[mia_ow]

Do you ever make a list of things you love about yourself, and a list of things you hate about yourself, just to check up on your self image?

I'm a little concerned that my list might be getting imbalanced, as it tends to do every once in a while.

Things I Love About Myself

I am:

Intelligent
Attractive
Charismatic
A leader
Ambitious
Creative
Spontaneous


Things I Hate About Myself

I am:

Shallow
Phony
Opportunistic
Short-sighted
Emotionally unavailable
Critical
Judgmental
Arrogant

It's easy to see that your "hate" list is self serving, by flipping the whole thing around....like this:

what if you were

stupid
ugly
boring
a follower
no ambition (live in moms basement)
no creativity

....but it's ok! because of your good side:

deep
genuine
(whatever the opposite of opportunist is)
emotionally available (needy!)
uncritical and
humble.

No thanks, right?????

OK I will play

I am

sexy
seductive
pretty smart
creative
affectionate

but also

vain
self-doubting
vindictive
possessive!
fearful of life
a procrastinator
lazy

 

[ownedsubgal]

hmm...can't say that i've ever made a list of things i like/love about myself. it'd take too long to think of the 2 or 3 things that may belong on it....high self-esteem wouldn't really serve me well considering my way of life.

but i did want to say to Marquis, some of those qualities you listed as negatives...namely being arrogant, critical, opportunistic....personally i'd view those as very positive qualities in a Dominant male, and really almost mandatory for a successful Master.

 

[00Syd]

OK, follow up.

What is the one thing that is most important to you, the factor that you base your self esteem on most.

For me, I would say that it is the way I treat people.

I am never happier than when I feel like I am treating people with respect and honor, just treating people well in general.

I am never more depressed than when I feel like I am treating people poorly.

Thank you all for sharing with me.

That I am fun and able to make people smile. That makes me smile

 

[graceanne]

I suck at these things, so I'm just going over everyone else's lists and copying those things that I am (or am not), too.

Love:

a good mother
Loyal
Kind
Empathetic
Intelligent
Creative
Level headed
Organized
Patient
forgiving
Unmaterialistic
Practical
decisive

*-*-*

Hate:
too loyal
anal retentive
fat
argumentative
know it all
needy
not patient enough
not organized enough
fearful
stubborn
prideful
bitchy
chronically lonely (ties into the needy thing)

OK, follow up.

What is the one thing that is most important to you, the factor that you base your self esteem on most.

My parenting and my intelligence.

 

[Netzach]

OK, follow up.

What is the one thing that is most important to you, the factor that you base your self esteem on most.

For me, I would say that it is the way I treat people.

I am never happier than when I feel like I am treating people with respect and honor, just treating people well in general.

I am never more depressed than when I feel like I am treating people poorly.

Thank you all for sharing with me.

Man, that's altruistic.

Whether I feel like I'm onto anything, productive or engaged. If I feel like I'm slacking or just going along I get depressed - in a macro sense rather than micro.

 

[madetotakeit]

OK, follow up.

What is the one thing that is most important to you, the factor that you base your self esteem on most.

For me, I would say that it is the way I treat people.

Mine is the same, how I treat people.

I always try to treat people how I want to be treated. If someone has has done something for me, I have an overpowering need to find a way to show them how I feel.

If I hurt someone or disappoint them, I will carry that for years. There are some ridiculously minor guilts I still have even as far back as childhood.

 

[TeachMeSir]

The thing that goes right to the core of me is also how I deal with people... Respect, honor, trust, honesty is all rolled into it ... but at the very center is my desire to mentor. There are 2 types of people I love. Those that don't need me to mentor them, but that I can learn form, and those I can lead... I think it keeps a nice balance.