The Official “Cheer Emily Up” Thread

[EmilyMiller]

My oldest friend on Lit (not an author) told me he was leaving today.

Our longest convo is up to page 173. But no more pages now.

I guess this is a transitory place.



Em

 

[Mrmphilll2]

Unfortunately It does happen. I’ve had my share who left. Just remember the good times and savor them. It will get better over time. But no problem to miss them.

 

[gunhilltrain]

So why is this person leaving Lit, if that is at all relevant? And why can't you talk to them through some other medium not connected to this site?

 

[EmilyMiller]

So why is this person leaving Lit, if that is at all relevant? And why can't you talk to them through some other medium not connected to this site?

Not for me to say.

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

So why is this person leaving Lit, if that is at all relevant? And why can't you talk to them through some other medium not connected to this site?

Thanks

 

[TxRad]

This is a place where people come, people go, people died and you never know about it, and then there are the ones you can't run off with a stick.

You talked for 173 pages? Are you sure they just didn't fall asleep? Kidding of course. You must have an idea after that, of why they are leaving. Shit happens. They may have been outed and had to leave. Their SO may have found out they were oerusing a porn site. The answers are endless.

So, pull up the big girl panties and move along. You'll feel better later.

 

[Trionyx]

Hang in there and take two
. You’ll feel much better in the morning.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Kitties cheer up everybody. Here’s hoping you resolve your issue.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

My oldest friend on Lit (not an author) told me he was leaving today.

Our longest convo is up to page 173. But no more pages now.

I guess this is a transitory place.



Em

I have found out the hard way how volatile online friendships are. This might sound a little bit harsh, but if you truly are friends beyond the anonymous chat, he will reach out eventually. In a way, this actually moves your relationship forward. Either you will keep in touch through other, less anonymous means, or you won't, which would mean that it wasn't a real thing anyway.
Meanwhile, you can use the extra time you would otherwise be spending on idle chat to research a story for the book club

 

[EmilyMiller]

Hang in there and take two
. You’ll feel much better in the morning.

Best recommendation yet

 

[Duleigh]

I like that you reached out to us for help, it shows that you're going to stay with us and keep us guessing what the next avatar is going to be. I know what goes on inside a person when an on-line friend says "frack it" and pulls the pin, it's a truly helpless feeling. You keep turning to us for help and someday, if you're truly lucky, you'll find someone who is a whole shitload better at it than me to give you a hand over the rough spots in the road.

The very best I can do is offer the greatest knock-knock joke ever told.

You start.

 

[Djmac1031]

The harsh reality of life is friends come, and friends go.

Doesn't make missing them any easier.

You have other friends. Here, of course, and I'm sure in the real world as well.

Friends are there for friends, best we can be.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Hugs for Emily .

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Planet Earth is a transitory place. Relationships are no less important just because some come to an end.

 

[Rustyoznail]

I like that you reached out to us for help, it shows that you're going to stay with us and keep us guessing what the next avatar is going to be. I know what goes on inside a person when an on-line friend says "frack it" and pulls the pin, it's a truly helpless feeling. You keep turning to us for help and someday, if you're truly lucky, you'll find someone who is a whole shitload better at it than me to give you a hand over the rough spots in the road.

The very best I can do is offer the greatest knock-knock joke ever told.

You start.

Warning - derailer ahead!

Here's the worst knock-knock song in the world -

Performed by a lovely lady, Mary Hopkin

 

[Rob_Royale]

Here are some real cute puppies to cheer you up.

 

[MrPixel]

 

[RachelWalsh]

Ummmm. Cheer up dear?

 

[SexyVita]

Emily,

I'm sorry for your loss. I know we don't really know each other, but I've had a few experiences with loss, both here and elsewhere. I'm not going to tell you to buck up, because that isn't how this works. Losing someone sucks, it sucks ass, and I won't say differently. Yes, over time it gets easier, but only because the mind moves on, it focus on things that are more immediate and less painful.

Not that long ago I lost someone that I used to talk to every day. For months I kept having the thought, "Oh, I should tell that to her." And every time I remembered that I couldn't, it hurt like hell. That hasn't changed. Oh, I don't think of her every day anymore, but when I do, I still miss her terribly. But time has taught me something about loss. The reason I miss her so much is because there was something between us worth missing and that something is worth celebrating. The memories you made together are part of you both and contribute to who you are.

Also, grief is both a individual and a corperate thing. That's why we do wakes and funerals, memories shared are multiplied, grief shared in lessened. Celebrate the memories, the part the person had in making you who you are, but also share the grief, when you can. Never let anyone tell you that you can't feel sad, or miss the person, you wouldn't miss them if they weren't worth it.


Vita

 

[Emilymcplugger]

This made me think of this…

Friends will be friends
When you're in need of love
They give you care and attention
Friends will be friends
When you're through with life and all hope is lost
Hold out your hand 'cause right 'til the end
(Friends will be friends) yeah, yeah!

Obviously we all wish we could wave an Hitachi wand and magic your troubles away, but I’m guessing it’s not that kind of wand.

 

[stickygirl]

So, pull up the big girl panties and move along. You'll feel better later.

 

[EmilyMiller]

A general thanks to everyone, plus to those who PMed me.



Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

You have other friends. Here, of course, and I'm sure in the real world as well

I know, hun. And I’m grateful .

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

Here are some real cute puppies to cheer you up.

That was a very well chosen image .

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

Emily,

I'm sorry for your loss. I know we don't really know each other, but I've had a few experiences with loss, both here and elsewhere. I'm not going to tell you to buck up, because that isn't how this works. Losing someone sucks, it sucks ass, and I won't say differently. Yes, over time it gets easier, but only because the mind moves on, it focus on things that are more immediate and less painful.

Not that long ago I lost someone that I used to talk to every day. For months I kept having the thought, "Oh, I should tell that to her." And every time I remembered that I couldn't, it hurt like hell. That hasn't changed. Oh, I don't think of her every day anymore, but when I do, I still miss her terribly. But time has taught me something about loss. The reason I miss her so much is because there was something between us worth missing and that something is worth celebrating. The memories you made together are part of you both and contribute to who you are.

Also, grief is both a individual and a corperate thing. That's why we do wakes and funerals, memories shared are multiplied, grief shared in lessened. Celebrate the memories, the part the person had in making you who you are, but also share the grief, when you can. Never let anyone tell you that you can't feel sad, or miss the person, you wouldn't miss them if they weren't worth it.


Vita

That was beautiful, thanks