The New Year Always Gives Me the Blues

[lavender]

 

[SINthysist]

Self-Dissatisfaction?

 

[Siren]

It is the Holiday Blues my dear friend

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Yes, it is true

 

[Wiggles]

I get a little depressed thinking about all the stuff I haven't done this year, all the stuff I should have done.
Start thinking about what's going to happen if I don't do it. I.e.college


Hope the feeling passes quickly for you.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, it isn't my favorite holiday either.

I always find myself looking backwards rather than forwards.

Hmmmm

 

[Cheyenne]

If you lived in the north, I'd say the problem was January itself. And realizing there are at least 2 months of bitter cold and snow ahead of you before a touch of Spring might arrive. I fight the winter blues/cabin fever by planning a spring vacation. It makes the winter weeks go much faster if there is something to look forward to in March.

 

[Laurel]

Usually, New Years is a non-holiday for me, but I get all excited over Christmas. This year, Christmas came and went in a blah way, but New Years perked me up. I can't explain why, but yesterday my mood jumped up several notches, and I'm feeling groovy today. I was talking to Risia about it in PMs last night. It's not like I have anything amazing planned for 2002. In fact, this year I'll be entering the dreaded Third Decade of life, so you'd think I'd be bumming. It's weird.

 

[Starfish]

Well, it isn't my favorite holiday either.

I always find myself looking backwards rather than forwards.

Hmmmm

Why do we do this? I am doing it too. Cept it started 5 years ago, and hasn't stopped since.

I am fucking exhausted by basing my self worth on the wrong things.

I need focus, clarity, precise tone to a given movements purpose. I need this all, and I am going to get it. I will.


I am thinking about reclaiming my heart. Is that breaking my vow to love and have compassion for all things? Is that wrong? Can I own my heart, and not be selfish? I don't think it is right, and if I do then I may enevitably destroy everything I've worked for, but will the pain, flaw and inflictions of others that I am compassionate to destroy me first?

*sigh*

((((((((((((((((((((Lavender, AJ, Misstaken, Siren, Nessus, Cheyenne, Wiggles, Laurel, and the rest of you villanous scum ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

 

[april-wine]

I'm with you lavender, can't shake this icky feeling.....Can't even dull it.........Hmmmmmmmm

 

[patient1]

Blues

Kinda complicated. Bad winter weather, & little sunlight make people feel bad, that's why the holidays are now. An attempt to make us feel better.

I love Christmas for it's underlying ideals: kindness, generosity. It focuses us on others & that is good for us& the people we love, and the strangers we try to help or be nice to.

The trouble is that Christmas spirit can't last the year or even the winter, because we follow it with one of the worst holidays : New Year's day. The focus shifts from others to ourselves. Introspection can be a good thing , but it isn't so productive when you're already fighting depression. Lot's of people go into a tailspin.

I think my profile says "the private promises we make to ourselves or our God are the easiest ones to break, but the most important ones to keep" . That means setting ourselves up for failure sabotages our self respect & self-esteem. It happens a lot with New Year's resolutions.

Exercise & light, natural or artificial early in the morning help.
So does doing something for the benefit of others or your community. They'll give you a reprieve from the tailspin. It also helps to laugh out loud every morning.Read something funny.
Making yourself smile for 20 minutes straight will fool your subconscious into thinking you have something to be happy about, or at the least that things aren't so bad. People will be friendlier as a result, and you can start to reverse the depression process. It ain't easy. It takes persistent effort. Who wants to hear some jokes?

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Lavy, you shoulda been here last night with Risia and I.

Now that was an I hate new years thing.

(((((((Special K)))))))

 

[JennyOmanHill]

For me it's the realization of another year over, then realizing how little I accomplished. I'm trying this year to focus instead on all the new and exciting things that are ahead of me in the months to come, and to just set small daily goals for myself, rather than long-term ideas.

 

[sexy-girl]

lisa said this to me ... i thought she was just being her normal weird self ... but i guess im the weird one ... i never have ever been blue about new year ... i get excited about all the cool stuff that will happen next year


lisa did say though she was happier with this new year ... because we did alot of the things we wanted to do last year and next years going to be busy too with a lot of the plans we have to do together (getting an apartment)

 

[dqrich]

lisa said this to me ... i thought she was just being her normal weird self ... but i guess im the weird one ... i never have ever been blue about new year ... i get excited about all the cool stuff that will happen next year


lisa did say though she was happier with this new year ... because we did alot of the things we wanted to do last year and next years going to be busy too with a lot of the plans we have to do together (getting an apartment) [/QUOT

Is it that it is another day or is it that it is another day that "millions" should be celebrating?

 

[Debbie]

lisa said this to me ... i thought she was just being her normal weird self ... but i guess im the weird one ... i never have ever been blue about new year ... i get excited about all the cool stuff that will happen next year


lisa did say though she was happier with this new year ... because we did alot of the things we wanted to do last year and next years going to be busy too with a lot of the plans we have to do together (getting an apartment) [/QUOT

Is it that it is another day or is it that it is another day that "millions" should be celebrating?

*AHEM* Yes that was me, debbiexxx, clearing my throat to get your full attention. Have I got it? dqrich. It is important to me what sexy-girl has to say. I think it is damn cool that lisa and sexy-girl are making plans for this year together. including moving into an apartment. So yes I will be amongst the many celebrating when they move in together.
I don't know you very well but the way you put things can be misconstrued. If your post was referring to New years then please don't quote a person's post or it can be assumed that your comment is referring to what that person has had to say.

 

[Angelus]

Hmmm.... all you have to do is what I do.

Think of every new year as a fresh start and all the shit that you got up to the year before should be forgotten. I know it is hard but if you look at things like I do you won't be depressed every new year.

 

[sexy-girl]

*AHEM* Yes that was me, debbiexxx, clearing my throat to get your full attention. Have I got it? dqrich. It is important to me what sexy-girl has to say. I think it is damn cool that lisa and sexy-girl are making plans for this year together. including moving into an apartment. So yes I will be amongst the many celebrating when they move in together.
I don't know you very well but the way you put things can be misconstrued. If your post was referring to New years then please don't quote a person's post or it can be assumed that your comment is referring to what that person has had to say.

hehe wow debbie your very authorative when you want to be thanks for sticking up for me

dqrich i never said everyone should enjoy or dislike new years ... i mearly was stating that i like it but my girlfriend usually doesnt (although she did this year)

also extra info for debbie lisa is actually living with me now still but we are living at home with my mother which is fine but it would be nice to have a place for ourselves ... so yeah i'd let you all know how that pans out

 

[Guest]

I, often, feel a bit of the blues on New Years Day. Another year has flown by, and the climax of the holidays have been the reached. The ebb has come and gone. I'm usually tired and ill by the end of the year. But, this year I'm attempting to make a list of all of things for what I'm quite grateful. It's puts life into perspective for me. Also, a long bath helps!

 

[ksmybuttons]

Just wallowing in it

I decided to wallow in this funk and just get it all over with for the year. I have reviewed all the things I didn't do last year and decided that I am not going to do most of them this year, either. I am still wallowing and haven't decided what new things I am not going to do this year so that I can wallow in them next year.

Yes, this is a good plan. I'll be done by friday.