midwestyankee
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That's bizarre. Maybe you should consider dropping the Disney Princess Discussion Board from your internet itinerary?
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That's bizarre. Maybe you should consider dropping the Disney Princess Discussion Board from your internet itinerary?
Loverskitten
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HEHEHEHEHE!
Actually, it's a diet/weightloss forum. So, yeah, adults who are offended by the word "hell"
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.....HEHEHEHEHE!
Actually, it's a diet/weightloss forum. So, yeah, adults who are offended by the word ""
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I suspect the additional heartache is simply an issue of timing... I mean, it's way more complicated than that in the not-fairest-way-imaginable, but the timing completely sucked/ sucks.
(It's deep enough that I can't bring myself to deep clean; I'm baking cupcakes but refusing to eat them, myself. Wine is simply a staple of life.)
Yes I still love The Man™. He honestly embodies about 9/10ths of the things I desire in a friend and lover, and has had a profound impact on my life. And for those reasons cutting all ties is not an option [decision made].
I get that time will heal things, and it's simply an issue of actively waiting it out. What I'm struggling with the most is this irrational fear that if someone who does genuinely care about me as a person, and like me (even if the intimate stuff ended), who embodied so much of what I want a long term partner to be doesn't see me as long term partner material... who will? Of course that's complicated by all sorts of current life-struggle (professionally and financially), which is magnifying the shit out of those fears), but how the hell do I even start?
I am obviously not "over" the relationship, which (IMO) means that ethically I can't start another one. Except that I want to have a relationship and someone to share my life with (for the first time in years... and have been wanting for a while). Which isn't going to happen, unless I suck it up and try to put myself "out there".
When I had a personals ad up saying I was looking for a relationship, all these guys wanting immediate monogamy and possible marriage kept showing up - cue the mouse running screaming from the restaurant.
I have a currently somewhat neglected ad up now, that explains I don't really do "traditional" relationships; I'm more of a start and friends and let things develop organically kind of person... which results in men going "Holy.Shit. You're intelligent, pretty, kinky, submissive, addicted to lingerie, and DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP??!?!?!!? SCORE!" and I get shuffled off into the "piece on the side" category. No; try again.
And all the while I find myself missing stupid little things I thought were bigger than they were.
Blargh.
[/whiny mouse whine over.]
Now that we've quote-posted twice, can we finally be exclusive?
Heh.
I think this gets filed under "pretty fucking shitty stretch." Do you have a file like that? For me, it was a short period I call "2007-14." When your emotional capital is depleted, yeah, it's so much harder to be resilient and move on. Everything's more difficult. The future is dimmer.
It sounds as if your emotional bank has seen too many withdrawals lately. Maybe some small personal successes at things you find satisfying can make it easier to "put yourself out there," if that's what you decide.
I get that he checked so many of your boxes. But maybe viewing that as 9/10ths is making math errors (POINTS WILL BE DEDUCTED UNLESS YOU SHOW ALL WORK!). Able and prepared to be with the mouse longterm seems like it should count for at least 50 percent. I know it leaves a hole to lose someone who seems like a perfect match. But if he has a shape that keeps him from seeing your lovesplendor, he isn't.
And he doesn't get to decide that no one else will be.
[/DGE pontificating over]
DeepGreenEyes
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HEHEHEHEHE!
Actually, it's a diet/weightloss forum. So, yeah, adults who are offended by the word "hell"
How about profanities like "Cinnabon" and "Grand Slam Breakfast"?
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Riiiiiiiight?!?!?!
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When I had a personals ad up saying I was looking for a relationship, all these guys wanting immediate monogamy and possible marriage kept showing up - cue the mouse running screaming from the restaurant.
So, it would have you killed to be exclusive for him between date 3 and date 4? I mean, it's great when your prospects are so wonderful that you just must date multiple people in a month....go for it.
Oh wait, you are a dismissed fuck toy now.
"I'm this amazing woman who deserves more than either of them was willing or able to offer..."
Please, CM, pretty please. Imagine some other girl would post that her ex said this to her. What would you say to this girl and about her ex?
Anyway, please don't date other guys while you are in the condition that you will happily spread your legs again the very moment one of "The Men" is in town.
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Definitely. Yes.
I'm thinking about turning off avs altogether because of a couple, but because I recognize all posters by avs and don't read their nicks unless it's an av I don't recognize, I haven't done it yet. But I'm getting there.
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Ok, I wasn't sure if it was just me or not. I'm getting to that point of wanting to turn avs off, too, but I LIKE to see the ones that aren't ickyyyyyy. *Whine*
And, yes, I totally recognize folks by their avs, too. It always throws me for a day or two when someone changes theirs.
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I've debated on doing the same.... I already have sigs turned off.
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If you have adblocker installed on your browser, you can right click on icky images-- including avs-- and block them for ever appearing again. I do it for most of the graphic avs... also some that strike me as especially hateful. Like, someone had an av of a gun-- straight down the barrel. blech.
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SERIOUSLY? OMG, I had no idea you could do that with Ad Block.
Thank you soooooooo much.
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I spent the last week or so getting mentally psyched for the start of chemotherapy today, but because of a minor infection we've had to forestall it for two weeks. Now it will be a couple days of decompression and another psych-up period. Oh well, at least I have two more weeks of wine and scotch to enjoy.
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I blocked them years ago. Too often are they pictures of stuff I don't want to see.
seela
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I have adblocker and I've tried that oh, so many times . I always end up with it blocking ALL avs. What am I doing wrong?
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Me too. But some of the body part ones make me urp in my mouth a little. I don't think there's a way to turn some off and leave some on from my phone.
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What browser are you using? On firefox, when you click 'block this image' it should take you to a window where you can choose one of several possible 'patterns'-- chose the last one, which is the URL of that picture exactly.I have adblocker and I've tried that oh, so many times . I always end up with it blocking ALL avs. What am I doing wrong?
On chrome, the URL is written out in the window and you can alter it manually -- which you don't want to do.
I dunno about any other browsers right now, sorry ...
Stella_Omega
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that does kind of suck, but at least you can drink to help...
midwestyankee
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Indeed! I believe there will be beer with the Chinese takeout this evening. General Tso, meet Sam Adams.
Indeed! I believe there will be beer with the Chinese takeout this evening. General Tso, meet Sam Adams.
Did they play nice ?
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What browser are you using? On firefox, when you click 'block this image' it should take you to a window where you can choose one of several possible 'patterns'-- chose the last one, which is the URL of that picture exactly.
On chrome, the URL is written out in the window and you can alter it manually -- which you don't want to do.
I dunno about any other browsers right now, sorry ...
I think I love you, Stella!
And I feel dumb.
I tried the other options, but skipped the last. My adblocker speaks Finnish and the last option was worded in such a weird manner that I thought it can't be it and didn't even try. That'll teach me a lesson.This makes Lit so much better! I don't even know why this one particular av makes me shiver, but now that's been taken care of.
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My sweet little doggie is supposed to be outdoor only. She is supposed to sleep outside and not next to my bed.
You know what?
I want my puppy. she's MY puppeh. While she has mutilated many of my things, she has never done anything resembling structural or housing damage.
I will have my puppy god dammit!!
You know what?
I want my puppy. she's MY puppeh. While she has mutilated many of my things, she has never done anything resembling structural or housing damage.
I will have my puppy god dammit!!
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