The neighbors: Part Two

[MissTaken]

Lit won't let me open the original thread. IN reference to the child who told me about her step dad's behavior in the home. The thread is called, "My neighbors: sad, but true"

So here is the update:

I phoned the school who confirmed that I was wise to follow my gut with regard to the step dad. He is dangerous.

They now have all the information that I have and a bit more and will follow up with the authorities.

Sometimes, a gut feeling is all we have to go on.

Sometimes, the freinds we have in the system are great contacts to have.

Cross your fingers that all will be well.

Oh, and a prayer wouldn't hurt!

 

[lickerish]

Awesome news to hear, I pray it only gets better from here.

Good job MissT

 

[SweetCherry]

Hugs, MissT and thank you for doing this for this child. That man needs to be stopped. He's done enough damage. Prayers for you and for those poor innocent victims of that horid man.

 

[Sillyman]

Glad you had the courage to follow my advice. You and your children will be fine. I know it.

 

[intrigued]

They have my prayers...and I am so proud of you!

 

[Samuari]

I missed the first thread, so I don't have any background what-so-ever. I spent 3 years working as a parent aide, out of a social welfare agency, and I got a belly full of the kind of problem that this sounds like. The really tragic part is that these are almost always progressive problems. If someopne sees the signs early enough and gets the parties into treatment there is a very good chance that it can be normalized before any lasting damage is done. One of the problems (and strengths) of our system is that there has to be solid evidence of abuse before any court will order treatment. If you have that kind of evidence then the damage has been done and it is perminate. The victoms can be taught to deal with it so that they can function, but it will never be undone.

(It is a strength because it trys to prevent inocent parents from being treated badly, on the theroy that it is better to let the guilty go free than to punish the inocent. In this type of crime/social problem, it may be time to reverse the piority)

 

[ma_guy]

Fingers crossed, prayers said...

Thanks for stepping up to the plate and not letting this slide MissTaken! I do hope things work out for those kids.

You've been awarded "Guardian Angel" status in my book.... Hang in there and please keep us posted!

 

[Guest]

Should have done it instantly instead of being a coward. Calling the police would have ensured your safety. You don't deserve to call yourself a social worker.

 

[SweetCherry]

Unregistered, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Try posting your thoughts as your REAL self instead of hiding behind a guest mask like a coward. I don't think this is the appropriate place to bring your words. It shows a rather tactless approach.

 

[Debbie]

Should have done it instantly instead of being a coward. Calling the police would have ensured your safety. You don't deserve to call yourself a social worker.

Unreg, whoever you are. I respect MissTaken a lot and I know how hard this would have been. I have lived in very small communities where even contacting the police is a risk because of the possibility of the neighbours finding out. And then the party that has been informed on could retaliate, it is very scary indeed.
She has done the right thing in a very hard situation.
I have been in situations where I have had to send my children to safety to help others in need. Their safety is paramount to me. Help others always but protect your as well is my motto.
MissTaken has done that. This was a very difficult situation.


Again thank you for caring MissTaken, I will be thinking of the little girl, her family and you and yours.

(Edited for typos, my cold suxs)

 

[Nora]

Interesting that the coward who cares only for concealing his/her own identity on a posting board would call MissT a coward for wanting to protect her family. Yeah, someone's perception seems a bit skewed to me.

MissT, you did the right thing and I truly hope everything works out for the best, both for Sally and her family and for your own.

 

[HeavyStick]

you did the right thing

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks, all.

Just to remind everyone, there was never any doubt that it would be reported, it was merely a matter of how.

And to repeat, the school personnel who know the family confirmed my suspicions. The guy would likely come after me and my family.

I have been watching the situation while I tried to come up with the best plan. Things have been calm there and I have checked in with the little gal regularly.

Now the next step is to see if CPS can really do anything. Why I didn't make an anonymous report was because that would end up in no finding unless the mother admitted to what was going on. You can't do anything based solely on a child's statement. In that she will divulge the info to two or more adults, some of whom will talk with her brother will give the case some meat. I would have posted this last night, but that thread kept shutting down my pc

 

[MissTaken]

Should have done it instantly instead of being a coward. Calling the police would have ensured your safety. You don't deserve to call yourself a social worker.

*sigh*

I suppose I invited that sort of remark in posting at all and in not being able to complete the thread as intended. Oh well.


Unreg? I am a parent first.
MY children's safety HAS to come first.

Calling the police would in no way ensure my safety given the time and distance necessary for them to respond to where I live.

Maybe I don't deserve to call myself a social worker in your eyes. Doesn't matter to me. You really don't know me, the situation or the work I do. Again, I invited the remark and wont' turn this into a "poor me, I am getting picked on thread." You are entitled to your opinion based on what you know of the situation.

 

[peachykeen]

Should have done it instantly instead of being a coward. Calling the police would have ensured your safety. You don't deserve to call yourself a social worker.

and you don't deserve to call yourself a 'guest'.

MissT, I'll be thinking of ya. Keep us posted.

 

[Siren]

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you , Siren.

My son is at the bus stop now and alone.

I didn't see the children last night.

Can we hope?

I am never an advocate for dissolving a family unit, but in this situation, if mom doesn't kick out the step dad, those children need to be somewhere else, IMHO.

 

[jimmi]

MissTakens' Actiion

and you don't deserve to call yourself a 'guest'.

MissT, I'll be thinking of ya. Keep us posted.

I Still Object to the concept of someone, whoever they are, lashing out
at a member who has put herself on the line. Miss Taken chose to
share this with us out of true concern and love for herself, her children and
the family involved. No knee jerking son of a bitch , no name, should be
allowed to jump in and chastiise. That sicko needs to look inside his
own house first.

Here Here for those who will still choose to be involved, they are few
and far between.


jimmi