The much dreaded "Friend Zone"

[Xander]

You know, I've been thinkinh about this particular subject for a while.
What the hell is the "friend zone" anyway?

To most guys, the definition of the "Friend Zone" is:
When you're (the guy) really wanna know the girl. And really think she's worth knowing well. And thus is not pushing for anything more, right away.
Okay, so you're getting to know each other, and everything seems to work out JUST fine.

Except!!

NOw, you're in the "friend Zone". Now you're loved, but the person in question would never dream about an innocent kiss, a passionate hug. Or something like it. because now you're THE friend. And friends don't do that.....?????

It doesn't matter if she has felt the same way about you, as you have about her, at the time you started to know each other. You're still in the "friend zone" and cannot be touched.

What's up with that?? Does the Zone really prevent anything more to happend??

In my case, I'd have to say yes. The moment you're in the Zone, you can't go any further.
One of my best friends today, was a girl where I ended up in the Zone. I hated it for the longest time.
Today, I can thankfully say we're only friends. But at the same time I can say. If she ever kissed me passionately, my head would litterally explode.

So, any thoughts about this weird subject??
Any experiences??
And please, if anybody can prove my theory wrong. I'm all ears.

 

[Stormystarr]

I had this best friend that I did everything with. We had known one another from the third grade on. We always had an attraction to each other, but said we'd never cross that line. But one night we were a little drunk and had sex. It was possibly the best either of us had ever had, but from that day on our friendship was never the same. I wish we hadn't done it, then he would probably still be my best friend. Now we only talk about once every 2-3 months!

 

[TN_Vixen]

Who says that hopping into bed with your best friend has to ruin things? I think as long as you are very open and up front with things, lay it all out on the table and discuss it like 2 adults, then it can be a good thing. Of course that is much easier said than done, but once it is done - adding a little humor to the situation - then most of the time the friendship becomes even more solid and intimate.

 

[Xander]

Who says that hopping into bed with your best friend has to ruin things? I think as long as you are very open and up front with things, lay it all out on the table and discuss it like 2 adults, then it can be a good thing. Of course that is much easier said than done, but once it is done - adding a little humor to the situation - then most of the time the friendship becomes even more solid and intimate.

You could be right TN_Vixen. But I've just never seen it happen. Nor experienced it.

I will haveto go with Stormystarr here. I too, once, did sleep with a friend. And within two-three weeks, we didn't talk at all.
The sex was good, it was talked about a lot before it actually happend. But after...well the story just ends there.

But please if anybody have a story of "friends who fuck together, stay together". By all means, let's hear it.

 

[Alyrahh]

I, too, will have to agree with Xander. I was extremely close with a guy, we did everything from grocery shopping to attending weddings together. He had a key to my house and could come and go as he pleased. He let himself in late one night, while I was sleeping. He woke me in a most unconventional way and we ended up having sex.

I had been highly attracted to him sexually for quite some time, so I wasn't at all trying to stop anything. The sex was amazing! BUT, the friendship ended there. In hindsight, I would give anything to rewind time and make sure that night never happened. As great as it felt, the loss of the friendship definitely wasn't worth it.