The metaphor of a woman who is turned on getting VERY wet

[EmilyMiller]

I was thinking about this regarding the panty liner thread.

I feel - like a lot of things - this has got exaggerated. So if a woman gets wet when turned on (which may or may not happen to a discernible degree, depending on the woman and the circumstances), surely if she gets more turned on, she gets more wet. And if she is super turned on, her vagina basically becomes a faucet. The last, of course, doesn’t really happen.

Of course female arousal is less obvious than male. And wetness serves the same purpose as a throbbing erection in a story. But are we overdoing this? I find myself reaching for words like sopping and soaking probably way too much.

Thoughts?

Em

 

[joy_of_cooking]

I often describe aroused women as having swollen or flushed labia, and as clenching their thighs together. No idea how common these signs are.

 

[Treeview]

I often describe aroused women as having swollen or flushed labia, and as clenching their thighs together. No idea how common these signs are.

good description

 

[bumpercars]

But are we overdoing this? I find myself reaching for words like sopping and soaking probably way too much.

I feel like a certain amount of poetic license is acceptable - erections are rarely literally rock-hard, sex hardly ever breaks the bed, orgasms almost never shatter the earth, and yet I've seen and enjoyed those kinds of descriptions.

I feel like it's possible to overdo it - gild the Georgia O'Keeffe lily, perhaps - but it depends on how close you're hewing to reality. Erotica is often heightened reality, and people getting very visibly excited fits that pretty well.

 

[Djmac1031]

People tend to exaggerate almost everything anyway.

I'm totally starving!

I'm bored to death.

My back is killing me.

And so on.

Even when we're not WRITING sex, we exaggerate it.

I fucked his / her brains out.

In writing, especially erotica/ porn, exaggeration is almost mandatory.

She's not just wet, she's DRIPPING wet.

He's not just hard, he's ROCK hard.

Overuse of the same descriptions does get boring and routine, but it doesn't mean we should never use them. Just mix it up a bit, or save it for when things are really hot and heavy in the scene.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I often describe aroused women as having swollen or flushed labia, and as clenching their thighs together. No idea how common these signs are.

I’ve used swollen/tender lips, an urge to rub up against her partner, a warm feeling radiating from her pelvis.

It’s easier if she’s the viewpoint character because you can describe what she’s feeling instead of exaggerated external signs.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

It happens, sure, but it's funny I've never read(and sadly haven't written, but need to now) how erect a clit can get, which is a thing.

 

[AlinaX]

The image of literally dripping wet is one I like to employ if there's magic at work, but I may be guilty of doing it at other times.

 

[Cagivagurl]

There are other indicators. How we use them depends on are we speaking first person...
How do I describe personal arousal, from a female perspective?
Those unmistakable tingles. Tummy muscles fluttering.
Nipples hardening... Flushed skin colour...
Dryness in the mouth.
Increased heart rate pulse...
Swollen genitalia... moistening... Squishy rather than sopping...
None will satisfy the male readers...
They for some reason expect faucets...

Cagivagurl

 

[SimonDoom]

Exaggeration is not a big sin when it comes to erotica, as long as it doesn't become so comical that it undercuts the eroticism of the scene. I have personally experienced near-faucet conditions, and it was fun and erotic when it happened, but if it's overdone in writing (i.e., "I withdrew my fingers and her category 5 monsoon hit me") it can ruin the erotic effect. It's all a matter of what the particular scene demands. There are no rules.

 

[Smuttyandfun]

Watching her climax, if he hollers, "Thar she blows!" I'm thinking you might have overdone it, just a bit.

 

[BobbyLaker]

...
They for some reason expect faucets...

Cagivagurl

 

[Djmac1031]

There are other indicators. How we use them depends on are we speaking first person...
How do I describe personal arousal, from a female perspective?
Those unmistakable tingles. Tummy muscles fluttering.
Nipples hardening... Flushed skin colour...
Dryness in the mouth.
Increased heart rate pulse...
Swollen genitalia... moistening... Squishy rather than sopping...
None will satisfy the male readers...
They for some reason expect faucets...

Cagivagurl

Actually, that, um... totally worked for me.

 

[PrincessArianrhod]

Most erotica seems horribly exaggerated, using extreme expression, wildly inaccurate metaphor and often the most vulgar terms available in English. The exaggerated moisture content of a woman's arousal would simply have to be in proportion to the level of outrageous description the author has adopted to suit the target readership.

Extreme arousal has a proportionate response but when it comes to gushing, I suspect the woman in question has neglected pelvic floor exercises for far too long.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Agree it would be good to read about more clits being persuaded to come out from hiding.

Some words have many haters, like 'moist' and 'damp' which might be more accurate than 'squelch' or 'soaked'. A bit of exaggeration is usually appropriate, along with cocks growing 'rock-hard' or 'stiff as steel' which I noticed recently I'd used at least three times...

 

[AlinaX]

Or rigid... A hard cock is nice, but some flexibility is needed in practice.

 

[lovecraft68]

This could have been discussed in the original thread, it didn't need a second one on the topic.
But attention is attention I guess.

 

[AlinaX]

We could merge the panty liners thread with your horror one.

 

[AlinaX]

Venom dripped from Shelob's maw like lubricant from an ill-lined thong.

 

[onehitwanda]

@AlinaX would you kindly not put that image in my mind, please

 

[yowser]

My moistness was so pronounced that even his thrusting sounded liquid, like the sloppy squishing of boots in rain-drenched, early spring mud.

 

[MillieDynamite]

She soaked the bed like a broken water main floods the street.

 

[NoTalentHack]

My moistness was so pronounced that even his thrusting sounded liquid, like the sloppy squishing of boots in rain-drenched, early spring mud.

This one really does sound like it belongs in the horror thread.

 

[NoTalentHack]

"For forty days and forty nights, God covered the Earth with rain. That flood had nothing on my girlfriend's pussy when I said, 'Let's fuck, yo.'"

 

[alohadave]

Or rigid... A hard cock is nice, but some flexibility is needed in practice.

It was a highly ductile penis, able to bend without breaking, but it provided adequate stiffness for the task at hand.