The Look (warning Rant ahead)

[LadyDarkFire]

I think I have discovered what it is that gets me so damn bent out of shape over Valentine's day. It's something that I can only term The Look. It's the look that gets plastered on every face when you have to admit your singe for Valentine's. In a close knit community, this happens alot. It's when everyone in your class, including your proffesor, gives you this look of pity, along with an undertone that seems to scream that they understand your bad mood is because of you being single. It's the look that proceeds the little speeches about how it will be better next year, or how Valentine's can contain Miracles when it comes to love, or (this is my personal worst) how they have a friend who's alone on Valentine's, and SUPRISE, that person is just your type. Of course, said set up can usually fall into the catagory of "and don't worry, his staring problem is nearly gone, he's been working on it since he got off of probation." Is it so bad to be alone on Valentine's and NOT have that be the source of all your pain? I mean, why can't you just be left alone, not bombarded with the falsehoods meant to sooth, not be told to "buck up" because you are still alive? Is it so hard to just walk away, or sit and have a normal conversation with a person? Does it always have to be stupid patronization?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Does it always have to be stupid patronization?

for some reason, yes. it doesnt seem to matter to anyone that my recent bad mood is caused by stress and other factors that are actually making me cry almost at the drop of a hat (no i'm not pregnant). and yet, a lot of people think that its because i'm single and i have actually been pitied by many for being in a bad mood, and somehow that manages to piss me off even more making the day itself even worse


*hugs LadyDarkFire* i say screw them all and let them pity themselves

 

[Mistress]

Had to deal with that shit all night at work....

 

[juicylips]

HUGGGGGGGGSSS...LDF!!!

It is going to take a very special man who deserves you!

People can be real assholes about Valentines Day. It gives them an excuse to pry and poke into places they have no right to be.


Rant all you want here on Lit. We love you here, sweetie


Cassidy

 

[SilverVeil]

Oh hell .... it's not just on Valentines Day .... it is ALL holidays. ( Well maybe not July 4th or Memorial Day or Veterans Day.... )

I was alone for 12 years. No family, no sweetheart. Christmas and Thanksgiving holiday I would work 8 hours so people with family could spend that day with them ... I bought my cats a turkey kitty food dinner, got myself a Banquet Turkey dinner and celebrated with the kitties. And ya know what ?!? I was more relaxed and content then any of the people I knew. I had a peaceful holiday alone with my babies while they endured the in-laws, out-laws, scraming whiny children and drunken uncles.

People would tell me I should come over to their houses cuz they felt bad I was alone. I always used the excuse I had to sleep since I worked deep night shift.

Gimmie alone anytime. ( Well.... alone except for me, my 2 cats and my sweetie )

 

[Sabineteas]

Uh huh

I understand the look too...it is everything you said and more.<sigh>

 

[Moridin187]

Spot on sis.. I told you.. I understand completely.. I went over to a friend's house on V-Day and basically got "the look" and "the 'cheer up" speech" all night..

 

[Stealthy93]

I give a look...one that's recently been best described as envy.

 

[morninggirl5]

You described "the look" perfectly. I'd much prefer SilverVeil's cure of being able to be alone on the holidays. My family won't allow that, though.

Maybe next year.