The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[BiBunny]

If anyone let it be your grandmother.

*Snort*. I you. *Sharpens knives*

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Because Mistress has ordered a journal entry and I don't know how to explain that they've stolen my heart without threatening the boundaries set up to protect the relationship between her and Sir.

I think you're looking to differentiate the types of love.

I'm in a fairly similiar situation, and I've realised that while I love him, I'm not *in* love with him.

To me, it's a distinct difference. Others may disagree.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

...I'm going to have to pass for now. Probably not a good idea for her to see what I've been saying. I find not looking like a complete neurotic mess is a good thing. Not that I've been succeeding there.

Awwwww

 

[chy_girl]

I think you're looking to differentiate the types of love.

I'm in a fairly similiar situation, and I've realised that while I love him, I'm not *in* love with him.

To me, it's a distinct difference. Others may disagree.

It is a distinct difference, I agree.

For me it's more that I'm falling in love, but not falling in love like that. Not romantically.

Your right that I'm trying to differentiate the types of love... even to the point of pulling up the various definitions. None fit. There's always a few points here that are right while those points are wrong. And 'love' is simply too wide a definition to not cause problems.

Funny thing is that way back when one of my college professors talked about a theory that stated if a human doesn't have a word for it, they can't understand it... something about how the brain processes and incorporates language skills.

This is like that only in reverse. The pure emotion makes sense until I try to put a name/description to it. But at the same time I can't *not* try and explain it.

It's all very headache inducing.

 

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[the captians wench]

Let's face it, the "no falling in love" rule is a rule doomed from the beginning.
If there is not risk of "love" feelings ever emerging, you don't need the rule, and if you need the rule, it is because love will happen.

That being said, you should just write how you feel, honestly, without the fear of crossing boundaries or stepping over toes. The reason I'm saying this is because she gave you the assignment and your responsibility is to be honest and open with her/them.

From what you have written so far, you are not having a hidden agenda to take her place. If she feels threatened, is their responsibility to work on it. It should not be your job to protect their relationship.

But I totally with you with the being pissed because you cannot find the words to express what you feel. Don't worry, they will come.

I agree with rida here. But it brings a question to my mind.

Please feel free to not answer verbally or to tell me to fuck off, the answer is really only relivant to you.

These boundries, were they set up by you, by them, or by the combination of you all? And if this "no love" thing was one of the boundries set, how was it frazed.

I only ask because it sounds very simular to the relationship I was in with a couple. We had boundries set by all of us, I was a second addition and knew that's all I would ever be, and actually he was a secondary to my primary relationship and would always be. For the most part the relationship was set up as a friendship but with kinky overtones. But him and I just connected on a level that no one expected.

Like I said eventually, and for various reasons, we all decided it was best to change the relationship. But that was just what was best for us.

*sigh*
You realize that if you hadn't been the recipient of many long winded pm's that crack up there would deserve a one finger salute. I suppose it can slide though. As for the coolness... we shall see if they agree with you.

And I've been slapping heart and mind around most of the day. That certainly shouldn't be a surprise.

I think you're being too hard on yourself. The idea that it is your responcibility to protect their relationship is a bit unrealistic to me. You can't expect them to be responcible for your feelings and emotions, and they can't expect you to be responcible for their/his/ or her feelings or emotions. That's something that they have to deal with with-in themselves. But i don't think they can do that if you aren't honest with yourself and with them.

The love I have for Jounar is different from the love for this other. Both are strong emotions, but special to the man I shared that love with. And it's different from the love I had for my ex husband. Love takes many forms, and I don't think it's ever really the same, even if it can be defined as romantic or platonic.

I think this exercize could be a good thing, and maybe it will help them explain some emotions that are going on with in themselves and maybe the boundry lines themselves are in question. Just a thought.

 

[ecstaticsub]

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I think you're being too hard on yourself. The idea that it is your responcibility to protect their relationship is a bit unrealistic to me. You can't expect them to be responcible for your feelings and emotions, and they can't expect you to be responcible for their/his/ or her feelings or emotions. That's something that they have to deal with with-in themselves. But i don't think they can do that if you aren't honest with yourself and with them.


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I know this is an isolated blurt thread but I have to agree 100% with this.

Chy_girl Unless you are doing something malicious, being dishonest, actively trying to break them up etc then they are responsible for their own relationship.

Be protective of youself and your heart.

 

[neci]

It's tiresome, having to straddle two worlds.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Get it together, GreenEyes.

 

[neci]

Falling in love was never on the table, it was never supposed to be part of the deal. I'm afraid that I've already unintentionally crossed that boundary. I don't know if I'll be able to explain it better than 'not romantic but more than platonic' and that worries me. It's not often that I don't have the words for something and it's pissing me off.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'll return the collar before I hurt either of them.

it's funny how the heart chooses it's own course, despite the best of intentions from the brain. as for the assignment, i would recommend just going to a quiet corner, picking up your pen and writing whatever comes to mind. verbal/written diarrhea so to say. just let it out. tear the paper out, put it in an envelope and deliver. as for hurting either of them... that's the risk you take with love. be it platonic, romantic or somewhere in between. life is a risk. a risk that the heart is a part of no matter what you tell yourself.

 

[Fuckette]

The letter said 2 hours, the officer said 4 hours so i calculated 6 hours only 3 hours were used up.

 

[Keroin]

I'm very cranky today and I don't know why. I'm seldom cranky so I find it unnerving.


Hm.


Probably need more chocolate.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm very cranky today and I don't know why. I'm seldom cranky so I find it unnerving.


Hm.


Probably need more chocolate.

I'm rarely cranky either. Used to be a little bit when I was premenstrual but now on HRT I don't get periods

Sir says a Bandit cranky isn't really what He calls cranky, it's just a bit grumpy!

P.S. Chocolate will fix anything

 

[chy_girl]

So, is it bad that during an episode of Criminal Minds about a sexual sadist of the bad there's a picture of bound hands and all I can think is "Any rope that thick has got to be impractical... how would you tie it tight enough to do any good?"

I think the corruption process is nearing completion.

 

[graceanne]

So, is it bad that during an episode of Criminal Minds about a sexual sadist of the bad there's a picture of bound hands and all I can think is "Any rope that thick has got to be impractical... how would you tie it tight enough to do any good?"

I think the corruption process is nearing completion.

LOL!! You might be a perv if you . . . .

 

[chy_girl]

LOL!! You might be a perv if you . . . .

Oh! gracie discovered a new game!

(And the rope was huge - no way would that have worked for binding wrists...)

 

[graceanne]

Oh! gracie discovered a new game!

(And the rope was huge - no way would that have worked for binding wrists...)

Oh, I hear you. I can't recall exactly what, but I had a similar thing recently. Something that made me look hard and think 'yeah, right'. I just don't remember what it was. Honestly, quite often I'll see or hear of something that's 'horrifying' or 'sick' and privately think 'wow. hot.' I know I can't be the only one who gets wet when Gibbs (from NCIS) gets all up in someone's face and talks real quiet.

Of course, I'm horny. I was not designed to have long periods of no nookie. It doesn't take a lot to get me going these days.

 

[chy_girl]

*snip*
I know I can't be the only one who gets wet when Gibbs (from NCIS) gets all up in someone's face and talks real quiet.

Of course, I'm horny. I was not designed to have long periods of no nookie. It doesn't take a lot to get me going these days.

Noooo, Gibbs is freaking hot. And there's a look he has that ranks slightly under that quiet voice on the 'lust puddle' scale. I'm aurally inclined though.

And he doesn't help being horny.

 

[Cattypuss]

The pneumatic drill on my front pathway all morning would have been bad enough WITHOUT my dog barking incessantly at the noise.

I may have to kill someone.

 

[rida]

I should know better than drink that much.

 

[MisterSir]

I should know better than drink that much.

Ditto. For future reference, Bell's is emphatically not a shooting whiskey.

On another subject, somebody help me understand what the generally-accepted meaning of the sexual identifier "queer" is, if indeed there is one.

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

Ditto. For future reference, Bell's is emphatically not a shooting whiskey.

On another subject, somebody help me understand what the generally-accepted meaning of the sexual identifier "queer" is, if indeed there is one.

pheeeew, not just only me then wondering...

 

[MisterSir]

pheeeew, not just only me then wondering...

Not by a long shot. Homo, hetero and bisexual are fairly clear, and hetero/homoflexible are pretty easy to grasp, but queer/genderqueer seems to be an option simply to make people break down and cry.

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

Not by a long shot. Homo, hetero and bisexual are fairly clear, and hetero/homoflexible are pretty easy to grasp, but queer/genderqueer seems to be an option simply to make people break down and cry.

*nods*

Hearing/reading 'queer' I instantly think of this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5GkjO5ll7EY

 

[minx1]

fed up.