The "In Loving Memory of..." Thread

[Shaq]

I think it's about time we had a thread where for just one moment we could take the time out to pay our respects to a loved one, friend, or just fellow human being that we still care about but is no longer with us. In fact, any life in general that you would like to dedicate a post is fine for this thread.

So please, don't spam or be disrespectful. This is your chance to pay your respects to someone.


I think I will dedicate this post to my mother.

She died of lung cancer in 95 but her influence on my life and the person I've become truly does allow parts of her to live on through me. As appalled as she would be at some of the things I do (including posting on lit) I think she would be understanding of my decisions and support the choices I've made because she raised me to be the same way.

So R.I.P mommy, know that you're loved .

 

[ShiningEyes]

I think it's about time we had a thread where for just one moment we could take the time out to pay our respects to a loved one, friend, or just fellow human being that we still care about but is no longer with us. In fact, any life in general that you would like to dedicate a post is fine for this thread.

So please, don't spam or be disrespectful. This is your chance to pay your respects to someone.


I think I will dedicate this post to my mother.

She died of lung cancer in 95 but her influence on my life and the person I've become truly does allow parts of her to live on through me. As appalled as she would be at some of the things I do (including posting on lit) I think she would be understanding of my decisions and support the choices I've made because she raised me to be the same way.

So R.I.P mommy, know that you're loved .

This is a wonderful Idea for a thread, Shaq!!!!!!!!!!

I would love to pay my respects to my Cousin Chad(1st cousin)!!!! He and I were the best of friends and loved each other very very much!!! He died the night of his graduation in '99!!!! He was to go off to he army a few months later! I miss him dearly!!!!!!!!!!! He would be 21 this year!

 

[LipstickKitten]

Shaq, what a wonderful thread. Thank you for starting it.

I still grieve over the loss of my brother Mike 3 years ago at the age of 49. He had a sudden heart attack that left him brain dead. His wife (and the rest of us) faced the sad decision of taking him off life support and remaining with him in the hospital hospice unit for over a week as he died. It was traumatic for all of us. In addition to his wife, he left behind three daughters, ranging in age from 23 to 16.

We miss you, big brother!

 

[missbehavin_badly]

Wonderful Idea Shaq

In Memory of my best friend Mary who was taking very suddenly January 3, 2001 in a car accident.

Imagine it
Her daughter says
"Hi, just wanted to tell you"
"Thank you for being her friend"
"You guys meant so much to her"
Voice cracking
Heart breaking
The pain still fresh as it was that day
One year later
Nothing seems quite right
The sense of loss still with us everyday
One third of a whole is missing
A gaping whole left in her place
We miss you Mary!

 

[Guest]

Nice thread, Shaq!

I know I speak for many, many Lit members when I wish the best for Mensa, and hope he does someday return if able. We all fear the worst, unfortunately.

 

[Angelofsex]

What a good thread..............

My Mom and Dad was two very important people to me.....Dad died in 80 from a heart attack and Mom in 89 from colon cancer.They were the two best parents in the whole world, never complained about anything.

Mom I took care of her to the end,had her in my house......She made taking care of her so easly........never let me know she was in pain....always smiling..........my daughter was 8 then and gave Grandma her room.....she was the apple of her eye...........I love you Mom.

Now my father........this one is a little funny,believe it or not......not him dieing that took the life out of me........but that day was Christmas Eve and guess who dressed up as Santa Clause.......yes I did for my nieces and nephews on my husband side.........well when we got the phone call at my inlaws that something was wrong with my Dad we ran......not even thinking about the suit I had on.........It was to late when we got there, he was already gone.........but you should have seen the look the police had on their face.......then I remember.........So besides it being Cristmas Eve it was a very sad and funny day. Daddy I love and miss you and Mom very much.


My two Angels in heaven we love you.

 

[Jewelz]

Echoing the others and saying that this is a great thread

My mother was 16 when she had me. When my bio father found out he left her to be with the other girl he had pregnant too. My grandparents told my mom that everything would be ok and they would help her the best they could. They already had 8 of their own children. But they helped raise me until I was 4, when my mom got into a relationship with my now step dad.

My grandparents were my everything. I spent as much time as I could with them. Every weekend. Then almost every summer I was there. They would feed me, cloth me, make me laugh, yell at me, and just be with me. I loved sitting and listening to my grandfather and the stories he told. The twinkle in his eyes was priceless. He was a "booze" lover. Had to have his beer. He was so funny and so loving when he was drunk you couldnt help but fall in love with him. His heart was of purest gold. He was the only father I knew.

My gramma was the sweetest tiny woman ever. She was always calm and quiet. She really treasured life and lived each day to the fullest. She never took for granted the things around her. Always loving the sunshine, the blue sky, the green grass. She humbled me.

Gramma passed away Dec. 1994 and Pappy passed away Nov 1995. A month before my first child was born.

I still mourn for them. I miss them incredibly. They were/are my heros. Totally beautiful people who are now my angels.

I love you Pappy and Grammy!! *heavensent kisses*

 

[1sexylady]

Well almost losing my mom this week ....

made me think of my brother....

He had the heart of gold...
He was funny and always a smile...
He loved a good time...
Loved all of his nieces and nephews...
He was a hunter and never killed anything he couldn't eat...
Never married or had children of his own....
Always cared for each of us and was #3 out of seven...
He was the *Wind beneath my Wings*...
RIP....Steve...I love and miss you very much...another angel for my mother....

 

[lilrosie lips]

I have been so lucky in my life, to have so many people I have loved and been loved by. My family has been my rock and my solace in times of trouble and my joy and happiness always.

Aunt Lily and Uncle Sam... two of the most generous and warm hearted people anyone could hope to know. Your simple kindness to all is an inspiration to me everyday.

My Grandfathers... one who I love and know only from stories, I wish you had lived long enough for me to have memories of you. And my other grandpa, who I had till I was seven, who taught me to rollerskate and to ride a bike, and let a small girl follow him around his workshop.

My Grandmothers... both so different from the other, one a disciplinarian and wonderful cook, who always fed me my favorite dishes and spoiled me. The other, my funny grandmother, who made me and all the family laugh and allowed us to cry on her broad shoulders. I miss you both so much. I am so grateful to have had you with me until I was grown.

My Uncle Andy, my godfather. Who taught me to jitterbug, who sang the old italian songs and made me aware of all the simple pleasures of the earth.

My cousins Dale and David, both of you left us too soon. 16 was too young for either of you to have given up hope on life. I hope you realize how love and missed you are by all of us. You have both made me so aware of what a precious gift life is and not to waste a minute of it.


Yes I have been blessed, very blessed to have had all of you in my life.

 

[Shaq]

Sports fan that I am, I join a lot of other people on the board and would like to thank Ted Williams for all he did for baseball, sports in general, and America and I hope his family will end their dispute regarding his remains.

 

[Lady_Sam]

To my stepfather Bob. You were more of a father to me in those short years than my biological father has ever been. You married my mom and after many years of bachelorhood you settled in nicely to the built in family. I know we were a trial, but we love you.

My "dad" died December 20th 1993, the day I got married, he wasn't there to see it, of pancreatic cancer.

 

[Mountain Man]

in Loving memory of my mother....

My mother died when i was 16....she commited suicide by throwing hersefl out a 9th floor window in New York in 1983..She was a magnificen person that everyone seemed to love and admire

She was diagnosed as Manic-depressive (now called Bi-Polar) when she was 19 and fought it untill her death many years later...My father tells me that she was determined to never go into the hospital again and felt that she had only one option. I was working 500 miles away and hadn't seen her in 2 months, but talked to her only days before....

I know now she is in a better place and out of pain, finally.

I miss her daily...and regret that she will never meet my daughters and they will never meet her..

Love You Mom

 

[tigerjen]

Wonderful idea for a thread, Shaq

I will never forget April 11, 1985.

It was a Thursday.

I remember that morning in school (I was in 4th grade
at the time) one of my friends, who lived near my
grandparents (my dad's parents) said that there were
police cars and a fire truck at my grandparents' house.
I figured......fire? I never thought of death.......

My mom picked me and my sister (who was in kindergarten)
up from school that afternoon, and said that Grandpa
had died from a massive heart attack in the morning.....I
cried, my sister cried.....

Later that nite going over to my Grandma's house was
freaky......she was crying.......her and my Grandpa had
been married for 40 years.......I remember saying "I'm
sorry and giving her a big hug, and she wouldn't let me
or my sister go......

My mom, dad, sis, and me were supposed to go to DC
and VA for April vacation the week of the 14th.....but had
to cancel the trip for another time due to the funeral
being on a Sunday and sitting Shiva that week (Jewish
custom)......I remember at the funeral I couldn't stop
crying, and I remember over 500 people being there, as
my grandfather was a well-known businessman in the
community and also involved in the Loyalty Lodge......

Then the bombshell......at the cemetery........as his
casket was being lowered into the ground, my grandma
let out a wailing cry and was ready to almost jump into
the ground with him, but my dad and uncle held her
tightly........

I remember my grandpa very well.......always very fun
loving, and teasing me and my sister......a family man....
a loving husband to my grandma, for 40 years........which
is almost unheard of these days.........

I know today in the present time, my grandma still has
never completely gotten over his death, esp. after being
married to him for so long and the love they had together....

I know I'll never forget........


tigerjen

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thank you, Shaq

I want to pay tribute to my friend, Jim. In the three short years I knew him, he entrusted me with his secrets and his dreams, and taught me to love myself.

His wicked sense of humor and his love of music and life carry on within me as I still feel his presence as one of my guardian angels.

Jim passed at 35 years of age from aids, and knowing him made such a big and lasting difference in my life.

Thanks for the yodels, Babe!

 

[knightstalker]

This goes to my Cousin Brandon..I remember the first time you came and heard me play my new guitar and said you were going to be a rock star to...We laughed and said one day when one of us makes it we would help the other out...Why did you have to shoot that shit in your viens when your band was ready to make it why did you leave so many people who loved you behind your wife and child miss you so much to this day ...I know you wanted to lead the life but I sometimes hate you for what you did you were more than my cousin we were bro's...We understood each other...I miss you man and wish you were still here with us ...Your boy looks just like you and gets me sad every time I see him but he is growing up to be a litle man ...May your soul have fopund the peace you were looking for ..I love you Brandon..

 

[Tatiana]

I would dedicate this to my Stepmum and my father...she died Dec '99 of a brain anurysum and my father died may 2000 of litterly a broken heart...they were married 22 years...they were soul mates

**Stars to sing**

""Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me..."

 

[knightstalker]

This goes to my Granma..You were always there for me grnma always with a hug and a smile ..You were there for me when noone else wanted me and were trying to ship me off to military school you stuck by my side and took me in ..Though you died 15 years ago I still think of you at least once a day and granpa to ...Granme I love you to this day and miss you so much..I went to your gravesight the other day and cleaned it and granpa's and put your favorite flowers next to it and poured a half pint of wiskey on granpas..Well gotta go for know just wanted to thank you for all you did for me when i was a teenager...

 

[1sexylady]

Bump....

This is worth it...

 

[Pervert]

R.I.P.

O.J. Simpson. One of the funniest dudes ever. Absolutely 100% not guilty. What a ham!

 

[mbb308]

Great idea!!! Haven't written a word about this, either

Martha von Schilling Stuart - 27 March 1912 to 30 June 2002

I spent her 89th birthday party seated at her left hand. It seemed that everyone was talking to each other, and I had the Birthday Girl to myself. She was, by that time, the last surviving member of my grandparent's generation (my mother's father's little sister). We talked for almost 90 minutes uninterrupted - about life, aging, God, doing for others, friends.... She was lonely - whereas she had friends, all her contemporaries had died. She told me that night that she was ready to "go home". She also told me she felt great.

She contracted pancreatic cancer three months later. Clear-headed as ever, she decided the cure was worse than the disease. It started catching up with her this April. She settled in for the final descent as the disease starting killing her in earnest.

I saw her last on 23 June, with my mother and son. The visit was short - the patient was weak, but 100% aware. Mom and Son went to the garden for a few minutes, leaving us alone. We sat silently, looking at each other. I knew she hurt. I asked, "Are you OK?" She said, "Yes," with so much more meaning than the answer to those three small words. I left, knowing she was fine.

She buried a husband of a lifetime, raised three fine adults, volunteered for every organization in town and showed up and worked, and cared sincerely for others, including helping in a nursing home, working with some many years younger than she. She told me she was passing along what she had been freely given.

She was a class act until the end and died peacefully and with grace. Her memorial service filled the church.

You taught me so much so quickly. Thank you, Aunt Martha.

 

[tigerjen]

another.......

my other grandfather (my mom's father)........
late June 1987.......a month after my Bat Mitzvah......

I remember right before he had to go into the hospital
for CT scan.........that Sunday.....me and my parents were
originally going out to dinner but my Nana insisted that
we stay for dinner.........we did........little did I know that
would be the last time I would see Pops.......I wasn't
allowed to go to the hospital to visit.....I think it was
a pretty intense situation that my parents went and me
and my sis didn't.

I remember lots of good memories.......beach trips,
the dollhouse he built from scratch for me and my sis
(one Christmas it was a "work in progress"...meaning
no paint or anything yet......but the following Christmas
it was all painted and decorated up nicely......), the
twice-baked stuffed potatoes and other goodies he
would cook up, and on Halloween he dressed up as a
camera!! I remember that clear as a bell.......was really
funny........


tigerjen

 

[tigerjen]

still 2 others.......

**my great-grandmother........"great-Nana"......(my mom's
grandmother).....passed on October 1983 from colon
cancer..........she was born in Palermo, Sicily......and came
over here..........

I remember her being loving but also no-nonsense &
tough.......but with a good heart........lived well into her
late 80s.......

I recall a story my dad told me a long time ago......when
i just only a few weeks old way back when, she told him
that he wasn't holding me the "right way"! cute story


**my great-aunt Fay.........she was in her very late 80s
when she passed due to natural causes in December
1992......she was in the early stages of Alzheimers, and
it was just as well she passed on when she did.....no
suffering......my grandma's oldest sister (dad's side of
family again).......though I saw her at family gatherings
and holidays mostly, a lovely woman, always a lady......


tigerjen

 

[Ukin]

Like Shaq..I dedicate this post to my dearly loved and departed Mother who passed away at the young age of 61, 9 years ago now.
I have such a lot to thank her for and I wish that I'd had the time when she was alive to thank her for steering me in the right direction, for the inheritance of her mind, her love of figures. For being there when I joined the Army at the tender age of 15 years and 3 months, for being there to cure me of my home sickness, for the continued support throughout my 25 years of Army life.
I would love to have the opportunity again to thank her for everything that she did for me....the love she gave, for all the washing, the ironing and generally being there for her family.

We all miss her and will never ever forget the fun times we had and the drinking sessions we had too lol.

R.I.P. Mum....I love and miss you.

 

[QuickDuck]

A couple of people have asked me about the first line of my sig file....

Shaq, i saw this thread and decided to add to it... I did not write this, but it so aptly sums up what i want to say about such a great friend....

"GreySeer, 1973-2002

A good friend of mine and one of the central figures in the brief history of 'Quake' in Australia has passed away after a battle with cancer - GreySeer, aka Matthew Barnett. He is survived by his wife Jen and twins, Liam and Chelsea (born about 10 weeks ago).

Pretty much everyone in the AU Quake scene knows GreySeer, particularly the Quake 1 community. Internationally, anyone who has updated news via the Challenge Network will have used "GreySeer's Truly Amazing News Updater Thing v0.9a". There are over 900 writers in the database, and userid number 1 is GreySeer.

I met GreySeer in 1998 and during 1998-1999 through Challenge.AU we did some international LAN and online competitions together (eg here). After that we built the Challenge Network, with GreySeer creating the script that is used across all the Challenge sites and also managing our various moves from host to host (and other occasional crises).

In all that time Mat was the most down-to-earth, no-bullshit guy I have ever met. He was extremely loveable and very funny. He was also incredibly generous of his time for computer gamers. I can recall several occasions where he would just turn up at someone else's competition and end up running it for them. He was known in NSW as 'the lan man' for his expertise in running smooth lans and professional competitions.

One day, Mat had a lump in his leg checked out and it was cancer. The doctors amputated the leg. After this Mat didn't stop doing the things he loved but still carried on running lans, even with one leg and in between chemotherapy.

He ran two big Quake1 competitions (Smegged) and in the last year or so he pursued his love of role playing games, traveling interstate. In between trips to the hospital, Mat was always travelling somewhere or doing something."

Now for my entry....

I remember one night, he walked into our games room and looked over the shoulder of one of the guys playing TOCA racing and out of the blue shouted "BRUM!!"

6 people promptly ran off the road from laughing to hard.

It is memories like this that i have of Matt and that will last with me a very very long time.

I miss you alot Matt.
Dane

 

[bubman]

well i guess its my turn to step up here......... and for me i would like to say one more time for everyone to hear .......... I LOVE YOU DAD, AND I MISS YOU EVERY DAY........i got a call at 5:45am one sunday that my dad had gone to the hospitel..... i ran out of the house jumped im my car, and when i got there i was too late.. he was dead....... they told me he diea at 6:10.... i got there at 6:14 and i would have given anything just to tell him one more time ........ I LOVE YOU DAD....

he was and still is my best friend