The "I Didn't Get Laid Today" Thread

[CWatson]

The problem with writing stories is that it reminds me of what I'm not getting.

(...And, by all indications, will never get, since the number of women who are presently interested in me can be counted on two hands with ten fingers still left over.)

Well, great art never came out of complacency. Or happiness... >_>

 

[Handley_Page]

Still no go here !

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I had a dream of a woman going down on me, but alas, it was just a dream...

 

[miaction69]

i did
but he wasn't made of flesh
and i controlled the depth and speed
purrrrfect

 

[CWatson]

I am trying not to be bummed out that, by my age, 96% of all people have gotten laid.

In psychology, 5% is statistically significant. In other words, it means I can scientically classify myself as a loser.

Goddammit, I'm tired of being unloved.

 

[miaction69]

I am trying not to be bummed out that I'm so far on the "loser" end of the bell curve. The worldwide average age for virginity loss is 17. I just turned 26.

Goddammit, I'm tired of being unloved.

go visit a sex shop - u'll never be unloved again

 

[Munachi]

i had several sex-dreams last night. but as for real sex, still have to wait till friday.

 

[_Lynn_]

Maybe next year, or when the world 'behaves' and doesn't need specialty services to get them out of trouble.

 

[vrosej10]

I missed out today, but am still feeling satisfied from the pounding of the year from the hubby the other night. The man can bang.

 

[vrosej10]

I am trying not to be bummed out that, by my age, 96% of all people have gotten laid.

In psychology, 5% is statistically significant. In other words, it means I can scientically classify myself as a loser.

Goddammit, I'm tired of being unloved.

Please don't feel bad. Everyone starts in their own time and masturbation counts as sex. When I first got laid, I thought I was the last person of my age to get some. Then I found out all the people I thought were getting had lied. It turned out I was the first in my group to have sex and I wound up alienated because they thought I was easy despite the fact that it had been with my long term boyfriend. My sister was 25 when she lost her virginity and a friend of mine was 28.
If it really bothers you, why not try a sex worker?

 

[TheeGoatPig]

*grumble*

 

[CWatson]

If it really bothers you, why not try a sex worker?

Because sex is not love.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Because sex is not love.

Exactly. Which is why it is ok to have sex without love.

 

[CWatson]

Yes, it is. ...Presuming, of course, that sex is what you happened to be lacking your RDA of.

 

[YoursSINSerely]

Exactly. Which is why it is ok to have sex without love.

OMG! I'm here with Thee Goat Pig, again. People will talk.

 

[Munachi]

indeed, sex is not love. so the question is, what do you want? are you waiting for the love of your life? do you want just to play a bit, but want it to be something more than "just sex"?

i can understand not wanting to go to a prostitute - i would think sex is, even when it is not about love, also about things like feeling wanted etc. - and not everyone can easily forget that the other one is just in it for money. on the other hand, i can also understand people who go to a prostitute - as long as they make sure it is all fair etc. ...

 

[penandpaper]

I am trying not to be bummed out that, by my age, 96% of all people have gotten laid.

In psychology, 5% is statistically significant. In other words, it means I can scientically classify myself as a loser.

Goddammit, I'm tired of being unloved.

I have an answer.

No offense, but if you're tired of it, then go out and make it happen. It's like writing, you're going to get rejected, but you pick yourself up and start all over again. It's like losing weight, you lose some, Thanksgiving rolls around and you end up a little heavier, but then you get back on the fucking treadmill.

If you find it hard to talk to women, then go to a bar, a church, wherever and start talking to them. All of them. A lot. Eventually, you're going to learn how to start a conversation, how to hold it and keep it entertaining, and how to close the deal. It may take weeks, but it will happen.

When won't it happen. I have an answer for that too.

It will not happen if you sit there and do nothing about it. It will not happen if you think you're going to magically be transported to some porn world where there's a plethora of women lined up to blow and fuck you. It will not happen if you keep thinking it won't.

You have to go out there, actually care about other people, their feelings, and listen to them. Then, you'll find a person to love. If you're just looking for someone to fuck, then do the opposite. Go to a bar, don't care, hit on ever girl there and within a week you'll have had your fill of being the asshole guy that gets laid constantly.

There's the advice. Take it or leave it.

 

[vrosej10]

indeed, sex is not love. so the question is, what do you want? are you waiting for the love of your life? do you want just to play a bit, but want it to be something more than "just sex"?

i can understand not wanting to go to a prostitute - i would think sex is, even when it is not about love, also about things like feeling wanted etc. - and not everyone can easily forget that the other one is just in it for money. on the other hand, i can also understand people who go to a prostitute - as long as they make sure it is all fair etc. ...

I agree with Munachi. I thought you were referring to just not getting laid. Sex and love are a different matter, but if you just want to lose your virginity, sex workers are fine. Choosing to wait is fairly over rated. Sex is just sex. You can chose to add emotional meaning to it or not. I am wonder whether waiting for love is the reason you have not lost your virginity.

 

[penandpaper]

I agree with Munachi. I thought you were referring to just not getting laid. Sex and love are a different matter, but if you just want to lose your virginity, sex workers are fine. Choosing to wait is fairly over rated. Sex is just sex. You can chose to add emotional meaning to it or not. I am wonder whether waiting for love is the reason you have not lost your virginity.

There's a danger to waiting for love. You go into a loving relationship sexually unexperienced. And if you don't think that matters you should probably check the data on how good sex affects relationships.

I stand by my advice. You were worried about getting laid, so go out and get laid. You don't need a sex worker for it. You need practice socializing. If you are looking for love, then go find it. Start going out with a lot of people. Ask them out, don't wait. That human clock doesn't stand still. It pushes out the seconds just as fast and true as we hurl through the universe. Go find love and sex and lust and friends.

 

[vrosej10]

There's a danger to waiting for love. You go into a loving relationship sexually unexperienced. And if you don't think that matters you should probably check the data on how good sex affects relationships.

I stand by my advice. You were worried about getting laid, so go out and get laid. You don't need a sex worker for it. You need practice socializing. If you are looking for love, then go find it. Start going out with a lot of people. Ask them out, don't wait. That human clock doesn't stand still. It pushes out the seconds just as fast and true as we hurl through the universe. Go find love and sex and lust and friends.

I so agree with penandpaper. Going into a relationship sexually inexperienced can really be a problem especially for women. Losing your virginity to someone can be the glue that keeps you stuck in a bad relationship a lot longer than you should stay. I have a friend who is convinced the first guy she slept with is the sexual be-all-to-end-all even though my experience tells me he probably sux. She is staying with this guy instead of trying to find someone better who treats he properly. She would have done a lot better if she had slept with a few guys before she got to him. She would have had some perspective.

 

[penandpaper]

I so agree with penandpaper. Going into a relationship sexually inexperienced can really be a problem especially for women. Losing your virginity to someone can be the glue that keeps you stuck in a bad relationship a lot longer than you should stay. I have a friend who is convinced the first guy she slept with is the sexual be-all-to-end-all even though my experience tells me he probably sux. She is staying with this guy instead of trying to find someone better who treats he properly. She would have done a lot better if she had slept with a few guys before she got to him. She would have had some perspective.

When I typed that I was thinking of a relationship as a whole, thank you for detailing it for me. It's sad when a woman feels an obligation to an ass because he was "the first." But, I guess we all have to live and learn, and your friend is no different. I just hope she's a quick learner.

 

[sophia jane]

For old time's sake, I thought I'd drop in and say hi. The SO is out of town which means I'm on day two of no sex. Which, these days, seems like a long damned time.

And yes, I know, I suck for saying that.

But I am writing out of sexual frustration.

 

[Munachi]

agree with what penandpaper and vrosej10 say... not only about the sexual experience (i think it depends on the person and the relationship, and experience isn't necessarily about numbers) but also the social experience. someone who is very shy and waits for the big love, might have no idea what to do about it, when that big love shows up one day. flirting and dating and learning also to deal with rejection and learning what you even want from a relationship, and from the person you are in a relationship with, is important...

of course i thought my first bf is "the one" and i would stay with him forever - and when i look back at those two months that lasted, now, i am very glad he wasn't, and i am very glad that i learned in time that there are things i shouldn't put up with - and then with the next bf learned that there are, indeed, others - even if the next one wasn't "the one" either, nor the one after that...

and the other thing is, that sometimes you can't even know who is "the one" if you don't try it a bit - because maybe you have this picture of what he/she is supposed to be like, and think that someone else is "nice but not the one" - but if you got to know them better, you might realize they are even better than that image you had in your mind before...

but of course i realize it is difficult, still. and i guess a lot depends on what type of person you are (how confident etc.) and what cultural background you live in, etc. ...

 

[PrincessErin]

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[kiba]

raises hand