The How To Win Friends and Influence People Thread

[Mia62]

I think this is an important topic around here...we always seem to be stepping on other people's toes as we are busy trying to insert both feet into our own mouths. Please take what you need and pass the rest around for others to enjoy.


When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bustling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Dale Carnegie

 

[MsSpellChecker]

Don't fart!

 

[Shingen]

I agree...nice quote BTW.

Do you have his book?

 

[Mia62]

I agree...nice quote BTW.

Do you have his book?

I do at the house I left...I was thinking about it the other day and I need to reread it.


Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain - and most fools do.
Dale Carnegie

 

[Mia62]

Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Eleanor Roosevelt (1884 - 1962)

Honest criticism is hard to take - especially when it comes from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance, or a stranger.
Franklin P. Jones

 

[Shingen]

I do at the house I left...I was thinking about it the other day and I need to reread it.


Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain - and most fools do.
Dale Carnegie

I have it somewhere in my house...I just need to find it. It has a lot of good reading in it.

 

[Mia62]

On making friends...

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Dale Carnegie

 

[Mia62]

Wow...is this one ever true...

He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere.
Ali ibn-Abi-Talib (602 AD - 661 AD),

 

[Mia62]

Do you think we have any science experiments around here?

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

 

[Mia62]

Everyone is born with genius, but most people only keep it a few minutes.
Edgard Varese (1883 - 1965)

Genius may have its limitations, but stupidity is not thus handicapped.
Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)

There's a fine line between genius and insanity. I have erased this line.
Oscar Levant (1906 - 1972)

The public is wonderfully tolerant. It forgives everything except genius.
Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900), The Critic as Artist, 1891

 

[Mia62]

You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.


~ Dale Carnegie ~

 

[Mia62]

The written word is so powerful...

No man means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.
~ Henry Brooks Adams ~

Nothing we use or hear or touch can be expressed in words that equal what we are given by the senses.
~ Hannah Arendt ~

There are words which sever hearts more than sharp swords; there are words the point of which sting the heart through the course of a whole life.
~ Frederika Bremer ~

A blow with a word strikes deeper than a blow with a sword.
~ Robert Burton ~

 

[DiamanteBella]

Kindness can always be in your heart even when fondness is not...

 

[Mia62]

Kindness can always be in your heart even when fondness is not...

I like this...it fits with the following one as well.

Keep your words sweet -- you may have to eat them. I expect to pass through this world but once; any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now; let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
~ Stephan Grellet ~

 

[Mia62]

Thoughts on happiness to finish off today...

Happiness comes more from loving than being loved; and often when our affection seems wounded it is only our vanity bleeding. To love, and to be hurt often, and to love again -- this is the brave and happy life.
~ J.E Buckrose ~

To have joy one must share it. Happiness was born a twin.
~ Lord Byron ~

Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.
~ Dale Carnegie ~


Good night...sweet dreams...

 

[DiamanteBella]

Here are some more that I like...

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
--Dale Carnegie

Strangers are just friends waiting to happen.
--Unknown

Never explain-your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.
--Elbert Hubbard


And remember...If you were somebody else, would you want to be friends with you?

 

[plasticman33]

Re: Do you think we have any science experiments around here?

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

The transformation had some unexpected results, didn't it?

 

[Tranquility]

"And remember...If you were somebody else, would you want to be friends with you? DiamanteBella"
I would just so I could whats next...***** in never boring around here always something going on somewhere besides I would like to think I am a good friend.

"Never fly so high that when you fall it hurts" Unknown

 

[peachykeen]

I'm currently reading "How to Lose Friends and Alienate People", by coincidence.

 

[sterlingclay]

There's a fine line between genius and insanity. I have erased this line.
Oscar Levant (1906 - 1972)

Too fitting

I love them genious quotes ;-)
Like this one

"The word 'genius' isn't applicable in football. A genius is a guy like Norman Einstein."
-Joe Theisman, quarterback and sports analyst

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Dale Carnagie is owed a royalty for this thread I think.

btw, his course and book freakin suck mule cock....

 

[sterlingclay]

You say that like it's a bad thing

 

[Mia62]

On trusting...and mistrust...

Build a little fence of trust around today; Fill the space with loving deeds, And therein stay. Look not through the sheltering bars Upon tomorrow; God will help thee bear what comes of joy and sorrow.
~ Mary F. Butts ~

The man who trusts men will make fewer mistakes that he who distrusts them.
~ Camillo Benso Conte Di Cavour ~

Woe to the man whose heart has not learned while young to hope, to love -- and to put its trust in life.
~ Joseph Conrad ~

You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough.
~ Frank Crane ~

Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

Never trust the man who tells you all his troubles but keeps from you all his joys.
~ Jewish Proverb ~

If you can't trust people, who can you trust?
~ Hohn Widdiconbe ~

My father used to say: "Never suspect people, It's better to be deceived or mistaken, which is only human, after all, than to be suspicious, which is common."
~ Stark Young ~

 

[Vinny]

This is one of the many reasons I find this woman so attractive

 

[Mia62]

Nothing exists until or unless it is observed. An artist is making something exist by observing it. And his hope for other people is that they will also make it exist by observing it. I call it "creative observation." Creative viewing.
~ William S. Burroughs ~

To see what is right, and not do it, is want of courage, or of principle.
~ Confucius ~

Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.
~ Hans Margolius ~

*blush* Thank you Vinny.