The first dirty talking movement

[aziegmann]

One of the things I find very hot during sex is do the dirty talking to your partner. However, I can only imagine how challenging this is for those who are not used to do it (me) and for those who aren't used to hear it (my partner). I believe that some of you on this forum have already gone through this or are going through it.

For those who have already crossed this challenge, what advice could you give to us? How do you make the first move without it seeming forced or unnatural? When it comes to dirty talking, once both parties are in the same page, everything is allowed or is it better to take it slow, making small advances over time?

And finally, how do you convince your partner to join in on this playing, considering that it would be something totally new for her?

 

[Lucien_Al]

Hmmmm, like you, I do love dirty talk. I think it’s like most sexual acts, take it slow and in small increments. Start by paying some small compliments during sex. Don’t be overly graphic in the beginning and see what their reaction is. If it’s positive, keep gradually adding to your repertoire. Ease into being more graphic. Pay attention to their reactions. If you have questions, ask them when you aren’t in the act. It has been my experience that asking questions is more natural after sex, when you are glowing in the aftermath of some hot sex.

Agree 100%. We went that route and while she is still getting there she has become a lot more vocal and starting some dirty talk. When we met she was mostly quiet but after I compliment her on her BJ skills, how I love her hard nipples and how much I love her taste she has started to become more vocal and talks a bit dirty and directs me more. Still work in progress.

 

[SissySalina]

She and sissy have "discussion time", this is when both are quietly sitting on the couch, maybe with a glass of wine or something, having a general talk. This time is considered an open topic time when anything can be brought up as a topic. This has helped the relationship immensely as sex is only part of good relationship.
Also in a relationship there needs to be a trust and belief that both parties partake in the relationship which makes for a more open minded relationship.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Reading erotica aloud to one's partner is a good way of getting used to saying "those words," not only forming them with your own mouth, but keeping your distance from them at first--they are, after all, someone else's.

First a read-through, then the performance.

 

[magicalmoments]

How do you convince your partner to join in on this playing?

Well... Let me start by saying that if you're setting out with that attitude then youre bound for failure.
Don't try to convince your partner, put that out of your mind, your partner has to examine their own fantasies and desires to decide if dirty talk is for them.

What you need to do is let your partner know that this sort of playing is one of your fantasies. You do that by just telling them. If you haven't got a history of talking openly about your fantasies then you may have some work to build the trust necessary for it to develop. That takes time and patience but in that process never, ever try to convince them to play, simply let them know that you'd like to experiment in that way. You need to open up and expose yourself to the possibility of rejection. Your partner needs to go through the same process.

My wife and I went through this, going from never sharing our fantasies through to being completely open with each other. It took courage and patience but we got there, it took several months, maybe a year, it was a long time ago..