The Doctor's Office

[ponysslave]

Hello Everyone...I've been reading this forum for a couple months now and thought I would finally introduce myself...and ask a question.

I'm 24 and a slave to my Master...

I recently went to the doctor for a routine gyno exam and was asked about the bruises on my thighs. I was caught a little off guard and didn't really know how to respond. When the doctor asked if I ride a bike I quickly agreed that that was probably what it was from. My Master was disappointed in my response when I told him later and told me that I should not have lied.

Anyone have any advice on this? How do you deal with the doctor if your marked? Any similar stories?

 

[WriterDom]

Why open a can of worms like that if you have an out?

 

[FurryFury]

Perhaps you should seek a kink friendly doctor?

If your PYL wanted you not to lie, he should have told you that in advance, IMO. I don't think hindsight penalizing is fair. Not that life is fair . . .

 

[desertslave]

My gyno knows about our lifestyle. A friend of mine had a difficult moment when an injury sent her to the hospital hours after a vigorous play session, resulting in some very awkward questions. I decided honesty was the safest policy for both of us. I also have genital piercings, which my gyno jokes about sometimes.

Unfortunately she's dropping my insurance, so I'll have to find and break in a new one soon. <sigh>

If you have any medical conditions which might end you up in the hospital unexpectedly, I would strongly suggest you have a talk with your doctors. A few minutes of deliberate awkwardness could spare you far worse problems in the future.

 

[be_ignited]

What would he have had you do?

I'm not absolutely positive, but I believe doctors and other helath professionals are required by law to report cases of suspected abuse to the police or social services. It would be worthwhile discussion to have with your Master to make sure he realizes what could happen by "not lying."

That said (and if you can't lie), I think everything is in the presentation. Your doctor is less likely to think something's wrong if you portray it in a postive light--smile, and give every impression that the mark is just a reminder of really good sex.

 

[Netzach]

PLAY is a great word in medical situations. "Oh, my boyfriend and I were PLAYING around wink wink"

 

[intothewoods]

I can't remember if this came up for me or not. I rarely bruise or have any marks anymore, so it's not an issue, but at one point I think I did have some marks that were almost faded, and I think my doctor asked if it was a sunburn or something like that and I said, oh, uh, yeah.

If you're going to be seriously bruised up when you see a doctor, I guess it's worthwhile to seek out a friendly one. Although I think it's good to be honest with your doctor, I really can't see why mine would need to know.

 

[YourCaptor]

PLAY is a great word in medical situations. "Oh, my boyfriend and I were PLAYING around wink wink"

I hate to derail this tread so early on. But would you have any words to use on the guy in public who just watched you smack her over the head?

Play sounds great for the doc, do you have any more?

 

[intothewoods]

I hate to derail this tread so early on. But would you have any words to use on the guy in public who just watched you smack her over the head?

Play sounds great for the doc, do you have any more?

Why must I watch you smack her over the head? Or are you kidding? I always forget with you.

 

[locked_tight]

this is a very good question, ponysslave!

i guess it's a tough one and it all depends on how much you want your Doctor to know, and how your Doctor will react to it ..

be_ignited has a very valid point. if the Doctor misunderstands you and decides it needs to be reported, it could land your Master in a sticky situation. but then by covering it up, "oh, i walked into a door", could also give the Doctor the same suspicions.

i guess i am lucky in the fact that i have known my Doctor for the last 6 years and i have been honest with him from the start. that means when i come in for a vitamin shot, and he sees my ass covered in blue, he doesn't get alarmed. he actually gave me the name of a couple of creams to help with the bruising, and gave me advice on how to minimise the risk of clotting through constant brusing in the same places and more advice on aftercare.

when i think about it, my Doctor probably has over 100 regular patients .. i'm sure i'm not the only one, or even the strangest one out of the bunch *grins*

 

[Instig8r]

*Far* too many people look for medical advice from internet forums and email groups instead of USING THEIR DOCTOR! A doctor understands how the body works, how to treat injuries, and how to prevent injuries. One should have a doctor they can trust and tell the doctor the truth. And trust their doctor to tell them the truth and take care of them. Otherwise either you need to get another doctor or you need to adjust your attitude about why you have a doctor.

 

[YourCaptor]

Why must I watch you smack her over the head? Or are you kidding? I always forget with you.

Not kidding

You don't have to look if you don't want. Chances are people will see though. Theirs a lot of people out their.

 

[intothewoods]

Not kidding

You don't have to look if you don't want. Chances are people will see though. Theirs a lot of people out their.

Really? You're smacking around someone in public? With god knows who around, including children? Yeah, that won't be distracting at all. And since I don't know you from Adam, I will just call the police because I'm witnessng someone assaultng another person.

Keep it private.

 

[the captians wench]

Really? You're smacking around someone in public? With god knows who around, including children? Yeah, that won't be distracting at all. And since I don't know you from Adam, I will just call the police because I'm witnessng someone assaultng another person.

Keep it private.

*shrug* I always tend to put this in with the spanking children in public cat. As long as it's not a long drawn out seen, and you'r not going for blood or bruses, just a quick bit of correction, I just don't see the big deal.

 

[YourCaptor]

Really? You're smacking around someone in public? With god knows who around, including children? Yeah, that won't be distracting at all. And since I don't know you from Adam, I will just call the police because I'm witnessng someone assaultng another person.

Keep it private.

What could I tell you to make you understand? If this where to go down I mean.

 

[Fauna]

I went to get my pubic area waxed last week and forgot that while my sub was servicing me, we got a LOT carried away. I bruise very easily and the marks were changing daily from browns to greens to purples. At that point, they were PURPLE, like really purple.

The waxer had a glint in her eye asked what happened. I said I had some fun and she started to giggle. One of the last things she said to me as she was finishing my full Brazilian was something along the lines of "I'll make you clean and smooth so you have more fun!"


I'm positive I'm not the first person to go in with bruises and I won't be the last. Be honest with your doctor. They have seen it before.

 

[Bandit58]

A couple of years ago I had a fairly heavy session with Sir and a lady friend who both topped me. I ended up with quite a bruised butt, and I totally forgot I had a gyno appointment in three days It took me six months to get that appointment so there was no way I was going to cancel it. I asked Sir what I should say if there was any comment about the bruises. He said I should just tell the truth - that I liked rough sex and it was completely consensual.

As it happens nothing was said The marks were still quite noticeable and the doctor could not have failed to see them. Maybe he made notes in my chart, I don't know I haven't been back since.

I'm sure medical professionals see this kind of thing all the time, but I'm not going to volunteer information unless I'm specifically asked or unless I'm injured to the point of needing medical attention.

 

[ponysslave]

That said (and if you can't lie), I think everything is in the presentation. Your doctor is less likely to think something's wrong if you portray it in a postive light--smile, and give every impression that the mark is just a reminder of really good sex.

That's a great point and exactly what my Master told me I should have done...be positive and proud.

Thanks everyone for the great advice ..a lot of you said to always remember that the docs have seen worse....definitely true. This was my first time with this doctor ....I am also one of her first patients as she is a new doctor herself...so I guess Ill break her in.

 

[mfd141]

Hi all, hope you don't mind my 2 cents worth.
Honesty is the best policy with the doctors as yes they have probably seen it before. But I also feel that there is no need to volunteer information in this situation. I have found that since my submissive is required to inform me of the details of her life (appointments) I am able to plan her sessions accordingly for the few days preceding her MD visit so as to lessen the "after effects". This accomplishes 2 things: it lessens her chance at needing to answer questions we don't care to speak about with others who may not understand, and it allows me to build anticipation about how I'm going to enjoy myself with her after her appointment. For example, it is arousing and enjoyable for me to prohibit myself from certain activities at times which heightens the anticipation and arousal factor for me.
I know this isn't for everyone, but it has worked well for us. Take care all.

 

[ataxia.girl]

When i went to the doctor the last time my ass was covered in bruises. Before the exam started i just told him i needed to talk to him for a second before he started. He sent the nurse out and i just said if you see a bunch of bruises on my butt please don't be concerned, its just a sex thing. He laughed and said if i hadn't told him it was a sex thing but rather that i had fallen or something he would have been concerned.

At least in my state they are required to report suspected abuse. i emphatically told him that not only was it just a sex thing but that it was MY thing and is done at MY request for MY gratification. He was very cool with it and i think it even turned him on a little

 

[Corylea]

There's a pamphlet that's intended to explain the differences between BDSM and abuse to professionals.

The online version is here,

http://www.thenetworklared.org/smvsabuse.htm

and you can also order paper pamphlets. I think it's helpful to have something to hand to your doctor, because 1) If you get nervous and forget what you want to say, you have back-up, and 2) A pamphlet from an organization makes it clear that you're not just a lone weirdo -- there are lots of people who do this, and we've spent time thinking about the differences between BDSM and abuse, and 3) Doctors are often rushed during appointments, and having a pamphlet means that s/he can review what you said later.

 

[Netzach]

What could I tell you to make you understand? If this where to go down I mean.

Understand what? That you don't give a shit about anyone's personal boundaries but your own? Just because it makes you hot means everyone else needs to know?

If you can't tell the difference between taking your dick out for the doctor and taking your dick out and swinging it around in public because it turns you on, I'm not sure anything I say is going to matter.

Hitting your children, kicking your dog, and bitchslapping your spouse in public make you equally as asshole. It's like someone insisting no one's watching if you take a shit alongside the road.

 

[BiBunny]

Understand what? That you don't give a shit about anyone's personal boundaries but your own? Just because it makes you hot means everyone else needs to know?

If you can't tell the difference between taking your dick out for the doctor and taking your dick out and swinging it around in public because it turns you on, I'm not sure anything I say is going to matter.

Hitting your children, kicking your dog, and bitchslapping your spouse in public make you equally as asshole. It's like someone insisting no one's watching if you take a shit alongside the road.

Not to mention that if that happens, one day somebody bigger and badder than him is going to see. And possibly intervene. Boy, it'll be fun to be lain up in a hospital bed explaining to the cops that you got your ass whipped by a big ol' country boy who saw you smacking some chick around.

Don't expect any sympathy from anyone in that case.

 

[myinnerslut]

i tell the truth, but in a way that isnt revealing or oversharing.

i've found that an answer of "rough sex" said with a bit of a you-wanna-make-something-of-it tone often cuases people to just accept the answer and back off.

 

[minx1]

Not kidding

You don't have to look if you don't want. Chances are people will see though. Theirs a lot of people out their.

Really? You're smacking around someone in public? With god knows who around, including children? Yeah, that won't be distracting at all. And since I don't know you from Adam, I will just call the police because I'm witnessng someone assaultng another person.

Keep it private.

I've seen a woman being beaten up in the street in broad daylight by a bloke and intervened. It might have been consensual but it might not yanno?
I know at the end of the day it wasn't my business, plus it was pretty stupid....he was a big angry bloke lol, but I'm not just gonna stand there and say or do nothing.
If I saw it again I would call the police.


I just got back from the docs, about a lump behind my ear. He asked me if I have rough sex.
I just said ''only if I'm really lucky''

That was the end of that lol