The delicious complexity of wife-sharing relationships

[Iwatchedher]

Can I seek opinions and responses to my evolving view of sharing my wife?

The more I reminisce about the times I relished sharing the woman who was first my girlfriend and then my wife with other men, and the more I fantasise about such things, the clearer it becomes to me that the incredibly intense experience, both emotionally and sexually, is partly driven by the complexity of the dynamic between me and both the other people involved - both my wife and the man who on any particular occasion was fucking her. I used to think that it was really all about my wife - a celebration of sexuality.

I felt that that my pleasure in knowing that she was giving herself to another man, or hearing from her about what he had done with her, or better still watching her, which I did just a few times, was driven by the delight and, yes, pride I took in the power of her sexual urges. I didn't really think much about the men who fucked her - they were just the instruments, so to speak, of her lust.

But looking back on those experiences I realise that this was only part of the delight. Now, looking back, I think as much or more about the men involved, about their experience of sexual pleasure wth my wife. I relish their excitement as they realised that she was available to them, that she wanted their cocks in her pussy, that her body was theirs to enjoy, and I love to reflect on their sensations as they caressed her body, fingered her pussy, felt her vagina enclose their cocks, experienced her quivering with pleasure as she felt their cocks move inside her, and their feeling of triumphant possession as they pumped their semen deep inside her...I feel all this very vividly, and in a sense I feel that in fucking her, my wife, they were fucking me...by 'lending' them my wife I was giving them the pleasure they enjoyed wth her...[though this is wrong because of course her body was not mine to 'lend', the choices she mad were always entirely hers, but sex knows no logic]. And I get excited and aroused by the thought of 'giving' these men this pleasure ... and an intimacy with them... and thse I have now, late in life discovered my bi side, hitherto quite deeply hidden.

Does this make any sense or ring any bells with anyone?

 

[pixie07]

Can I seek opinions and responses to my evolving view of sharing my wife?

The more I reminisce about the times I relished sharing the woman who was first my girlfriend and then my wife with other men, and the more I fantasise about such things, the clearer it becomes to me that the incredibly intense experience, both emotionally and sexually, is partly driven by the complexity of the dynamic between me and both the other people involved - both my wife and the man who on any particular occasion was fucking her. I used to think that it was really all about my wife - a celebration of sexuality.

I felt that that my pleasure in knowing that she was giving herself to another man, or hearing from her about what he had done with her, or better still watching her, which I did just a few times, was driven by the delight and, yes, pride I took in the power of her sexual urges. I didn't really think much about the men who fucked her - they were just the instruments, so to speak, of her lust.

But looking back on those experiences I realise that this was only part of the delight. Now, looking back, I think as much or more about the men involved, about their experience of sexual pleasure wth my wife. I relish their excitement as they realised that she was available to them, that she wanted their cocks in her pussy, that her body was theirs to enjoy, and I love to reflect on their sensations as they caressed her body, fingered her pussy, felt her vagina enclose their cocks, experienced her quivering with pleasure as she felt their cocks move inside her, and their feeling of triumphant possession as they pumped their semen deep inside her...I feel all this very vividly, and in a sense I feel that in fucking her, my wife, they were fucking me...by 'lending' them my wife I was giving them the pleasure they enjoyed wth her...[though this is wrong because of course her body was not mine to 'lend', the choices she mad were always entirely hers, but sex knows no logic]. And I get excited and aroused by the thought of 'giving' these men this pleasure ... and an intimacy with them... and thse I have now, late in life discovered my bi side, hitherto quite deeply hidden.

Does this make any sense or ring any bells with anyone?

I definitely feel an intimacy with the men my wife is with . Especially with my wife’s current main boyfriend . There relationship has evolved to now sometimes I’m allowed to get him ready for his time with my wife and those are some of my favorite moments .

 

[Iwatchedher]

Thanks Pixie - yes I can really appreciate how helping to prepare your wife’s lover for his time with her would add an incredibly vivid dimension to your feelings of intimacy with him. I never had that pleasure!

 

[bumpinthenight2022]

You're further along than me but it's reasonable that you're evolving. When I fantasize about it, it's about her being a tool for another man's pleasure. A slut. And her being turned on by my excitement of her being as slutty as possible. And maybe strangely, being as casual as possible about it. I'd love to be hanging out with a friendly couple and she takes the guy to the bathroom to get fucked, and comes back and continued the conversation like normal.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Well stated. Cheers

 

[Iwatchedher]

You're further along than me but it's reasonable that you're evolving. When I fantasize about it, it's about her being a tool for another man's pleasure. A slut. And her being turned on by my excitement of her being as slutty as possible. And maybe strangely, being as casual as possible about it. I'd love to be hanging out with a friendly couple and she takes the guy to the bathroom to get fucked, and comes back and continued the conversation like normal.

Thanks Bumpinthenight! Your comment rings a couple of bells for me.

The first is the idea of my wife being, as you wrote, 'a tool for another man's pleasure'. In reminiscing about what my wife did do with other men, and fantasising about what she might have done, I love to focus on the fact that for her [as she often told me] what she really loved was not the pleasure she herself got from a guy fucking her, but the feeling that she, her body, was being used by the man selfishly for his own pleasure. Of course she did love the sensations she experienced herself - his body on hers, his cock inside her pussy, him quivering and grunting as he came deep within her - but she very seldom reached an orgasm from casual sex, and she said that for her the real turn on was that sensation of being used by a man for his pleasure and as a receptacle for his semen. And I've always found hat a real turn on.

The second bell that your comment rings for me, and its related to what i've just being saying, is where you wrote about her 'being as casual as possible about it'. Yes, that right! It is no big deal...she meets a guy, they get chatting [or dancing] and she feels the thing click so they go off and he fucks her, and then she comes back and tells me what she has done as if it was no more than slipping outside to enjoy a smoke together. I would not myself call that 'slutty' because to me that imples some negative judgement about her - but it certainly is the behaviour that people call slutty!

All of which just goes to show how many strands there are to the complex, surprising, counter-intuitive and yes, perhaps mildly perverted delight one can feel when your wife is fucked by another man!

 

[zcraft5]

he wants to share me so bad but i know it woul split us

 

[norseman59]

he wants to share me so bad but i know it woul split us

How to feel about being shared?

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife was free to be with anyone, but her choices were interesting. Several were young men in their 20's who wanted sex with her, the older woman in her 30's. I really enjoyed hearing about their reaction to having sex with an experienced, skilled lover. One was a former lover from college, and it was special in several ways. He had been wounded in combat, and this was his first sex to see if everything still worked. It did. We all drank to celebrate his success. The last was a 65-ish man from another country, who asked her to be his sexy escort to a big event and then took her back to his penthouse for a night of sex. He made her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. She never had sex with anybody else, other than me, after that.

 

[Jagbmk]

Can I seek opinions and responses to my evolving view of sharing my wife?

The more I reminisce about the times I relished sharing the woman who was first my girlfriend and then my wife with other men, and the more I fantasise about such things, the clearer it becomes to me that the incredibly intense experience, both emotionally and sexually, is partly driven by the complexity of the dynamic between me and both the other people involved - both my wife and the man who on any particular occasion was fucking her. I used to think that it was really all about my wife - a celebration of sexuality.

I felt that that my pleasure in knowing that she was giving herself to another man, or hearing from her about what he had done with her, or better still watching her, which I did just a few times, was driven by the delight and, yes, pride I took in the power of her sexual urges. I didn't really think much about the men who fucked her - they were just the instruments, so to speak, of her lust.

But looking back on those experiences I realise that this was only part of the delight. Now, looking back, I think as much or more about the men involved, about their experience of sexual pleasure wth my wife. I relish their excitement as they realised that she was available to them, that she wanted their cocks in her pussy, that her body was theirs to enjoy, and I love to reflect on their sensations as they caressed her body, fingered her pussy, felt her vagina enclose their cocks, experienced her quivering with pleasure as she felt their cocks move inside her, and their feeling of triumphant possession as they pumped their semen deep inside her...I feel all this very vividly, and in a sense I feel that in fucking her, my wife, they were fucking me...by 'lending' them my wife I was giving them the pleasure they enjoyed wth her...[though this is wrong because of course her body was not mine to 'lend', the choices she mad were always entirely hers, but sex knows no logic]. And I get excited and aroused by the thought of 'giving' these men this pleasure ... and an intimacy with them... and thse I have now, late in life discovered my bi side, hitherto quite deeply hidden.

Does this make any sense or ring any bells with anyone?

Completely. Feel free to PM to chat if you like.

 

[Cubby4D]

Thanks Pixie - yes I can really appreciate how helping to prepare your wife’s lover for his time with her would add an incredibly vivid dimension to your feelings of intimacy with him. I never had that pleasure!

I’ve never got my wife’s lover ready for her but I’ve gotten her ready for him. Incredibly sexy . I love choosing her outfit in what I consider to be sexy. All the way to her thong he’s going to be taking off. It’s incredibly sexy seeing your wife all dolled up and knowng someone is going to enjoy your wife.

 

[RTFLDGR]

I have had two different experiences in this fetish. The first was my first wife cuckholding me when we were first married. I had no idea. She fuqued the man of her choice and me when we had made the decision to get pregnant together. This is an example of womens' "dual-mating strategy". She chose her favored genetics in a male to breed with and also made sure to fuq me @ the same time. Her plan was to get pregnant by him and use me for the resources. I did not learn about this plan until 2 years later, when the GF of Chad let me in on the truth.

https://photos.google.com/share/AF1...?key=SU16NFg3cGVyaDIwYjVheEJiUkhHX1NJZThibjl3

I went through stages. shock, anger, rage, resentment, fear. Later, the emotion of arousal surprised me. My wife and I kept going. We explored extra-marital affairs, now that adultery was out in the open. Instead, we explored swinging and 2 on 1, then hotwife. She was made for the hotwife kink. My first wife was a sexaholic. I got cucked by her and we enjoyed letting her attract men, fuq them or me enslaving her to serve men @ my demand, BDSM and more. It was an intense time until she was drawn into a high alpha male and divorced. It was bound to happen.

The second was by my choice. I stayed single for a decade, then married a goody 2 shoes church woman. Her kids were graduating high school. She was inexperienced in anything. She had one hubby for 25 years. I got to draw her sexuality out of her. I turned her on to other men and gave her a late hoe phase. She reveled in her new private identity. I let her have a BF that she enjoyed deliciously. I taught her BDSM and submission. She was a natural submissive.

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[BlueChamisa]

I don't use the term "sharing," because she is not my property.

But she has absolute freedom to have any kind of sex she wants, with anyone.

I get especially turned on when she fucks another man and I can watch or join in.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

I don't use the term "sharing," because she is not my property.

But she has absolute freedom to have any kind of sex she wants, with anyone.

I get especially turned on when she fucks another man and I can watch or join in.

Definitely, still a great thing you do. Keep it up.

 

[Iwatchedher]

I don't use the term "sharing," because she is not my property.

But she has absolute freedom to have any kind of sex she wants, with anyone.

I get especially turned on when she fucks another man and I can watch or join in.

Absolutely right...I completely agree... but the psychological reality is that for me the sense that i am 'sharing' her with other man who fuck her remains very real and very powerful and very arousing...and I know this is quite illogical, but the libido knows no logic, does it?

 

[Dearelliot]

I'd love it...but...I would want my wife to want the sex, not the man, and I'm not sure my wife can do that.
I could be wrong but my wife seems to me to be the kind of woman who feels more comfortable giving herself to a man who "She likes," Not just a hard cock, wham bam thank you Ma'am...but a really nice guy, in her mind...and I'm not comfortable with that.

 

[Iwatchedher]

I'd love it...but...I would want my wife to want the sex, not the man, and I'm not sure my wife can do that.
I could be wrong but my wife seems to me to be the kind of woman who feels more comfortable giving herself to a man who "She likes," Not just a hard cock, wham bam thank you Ma'am...but a really nice guy, in her mind...and I'm not comfortable with that.

Ahhh, you have touched on some very interesting issues here Dearelliot! I do know what you mean! The more one's wife is attracted to a man as a person the more anxious I'd be about him fucking her. And that must always be a factor in the complex cocktail of emotions the embrace one as one finds oneself in the potion of sharing one's wife. All I can say is that in my [relatively limited] experience, this never got in the way of me excitement and delight at her sexual adventures.
I think that is because, as you say, much depends on your wife's attitudes to sex, and to people! In my case two things made me not worry much about how my wife felt about the men who enjoyed her. The first is that I was very confident in the underlying strength of our relationship - a confidence which might of course have proved misplaced but which in fact, as things have turned out after all these years , has proved justified.

The second is that the kind of men that my wife tended to chose as sexual partners were of a type that in other contexts she wasn't really drawn to - the somewhat arrogant, breezily self-confident type. She found that she was happy to be fucked by such men but not make friends with them.

But that's not all... later in life she changed and did have some affairs with guys she did grow genuinely attached to. I did find myself more anxious about these affairs for that reason, But...and here is the mystery ...I found that this sense of emotional risk - that she really was falling for these guys, maybe even falling in love with them, as well as enjoying them fucking her - stimulated and intensified my excitement, even while it made me anxious. Why this shoild be I cannot explain...

 

[rainsol]

I don't use the term "sharing," because she is not my property.

But she has absolute freedom to have any kind of sex she wants, with anyone.

I get especially turned on when she fucks another man and I can watch or join in.

So do I

 

[Luv2see]

I did some of this with my wife when we were dating. But she enjoyed knowing that men wanted her and she could use them for her enjoyment. I was always involved so more of a wife sharing than a cuckold thing. As time went on she stopped wanting to do this. We have been faithful to only each other for many years but I would enjoy watching her again.

 

[LeSabreur]

...I found that this sense of emotional risk - that she really was falling for these guys, maybe even falling in love with them, as well as enjoying them fucking her - stimulated and intensified my excitement, even while it made me anxious. Why this shoild be I cannot explain...

This! Like many, I've always been aroused by my wife's stories of sexual adventures that she had before we met, but the one that was most arousing was her falling in love with a man she was having an affair with. The complex interplay of emotions that arise are quite intoxicating. Later, as we explored sharing her, I felt the same heightened excitement when it was apparent that she really liked the man. When I occasionally stumble across some hotwife porn where the woman tells her bull that she loves him, my hands shake with excitement.

 

[dingdongditchding]

I definitely feel an intimacy with the men my wife is with . Especially with my wife’s current main boyfriend . There relationship has evolved to now sometimes I’m allowed to get him ready for his time with my wife and those are some of my favorite moments .

that is so hot