The Dance

[Shadowsdream]

I have always seen BDSM relationships as a dance of extremes in one way or another. Yet so subtle that it barely moves with the internal music of contentment and chaos.

I close My eyes and hear the cry of a single violin string screaming in harmony with the whip and the sobs of the one before Me. A slow start when the band just begins to whisper the first halting steps of the waltze that will momentarily glide across a crowded dance floor and still find the participants alone and absorbed.

Deep swoops to lull and attract before the frenzy of crescendos that build and crash upon the shores of My imagination.


Anyone care to begin a conversation around the dance of Domination and submission?

 

[Desdemona]

You have such a way with words, Ma'am.

I think maybe the dance changes as the relationship evolves and also as outside influences impact the dancers. Sometimes, the dance is playful, sometimes a passionate Tango, sometimes sweet and slow with the partners clinging together, slowly swaying to music only they can hear. Sometimes one partner performs a dance for the other's entertainment.

As in a dance, one partner leads, the other follows. If both attempt to lead at once, somebody's feet are going to get stepped on, thus making the dance much less pleasurable and perhaps causing the dance to end.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Thank you des for joining Me here on this thread....

I truly do enjoy your interpretation (sp?) of the dance. I totally agree that the dance evolves over time and depth of the relationship...

When the passion changes almost from a sensual desperation to a well orchestrated melding of tempos that both compliment and negate the other....the dance becomes more intimate and trusting.

You have such a way with words, Ma'am.

I think maybe the dance changes as the relationship evolves and also as outside influences impact the dancers. Sometimes, the dance is playful, sometimes a passionate Tango, sometimes sweet and slow with the partners clinging together, slowly swaying to music only they can hear. Sometimes one partner performs a dance for the other's entertainment.

As in a dance, one partner leads, the other follows. If both attempt to lead at once, somebody's feet are going to get stepped on, thus making the dance much less pleasurable and perhaps causing the dance to end.

 

[Desdemona]

Thank you des for joining Me here on this thread....

I truly do enjoy your interpretation (sp?) of the dance. I totally agree that the dance evolves over time and depth of the relationship...

When the passion changes almost from a sensual desperation to a well orchestrated melding of tempos that both compliment and negate the other....the dance becomes more intimate and trusting.

Thank you Ma'am. I imagine that watching dancers who have developed deep intimacy and trust together would give the casual observer the impression that it's effortless. I believe that it requires alot of time spent working together and rehearsing in order to perfect such an intimate and trusting choreography. But then, that's part of the fun, isn't it?

 

[WriterDom]

A primal dance. Like a mating dance you would see in nature. Punctuated by the swish of leather and contact with skin. Moans and sighs.

 

[Limbhugger]

As always Shadowsdream, your words leave me leaning into my monitor in hopes of more.

I don't think I can do any better than what Des has already written.

A dance? Most definately. And the most wonderful thing about this dance is it never ends. It only peaks and lulls but always the two are dancing together. Even when seperated. The music never stops.

 

[Etoile]

Unfortunately, I have two left feet.

 

[MissTaken]

AS with the dance, when two are paired well, there is a sort of sychronicity in movement, emotion and expression.

Further, D/s is enhanced by the music that we call life. Sometimes, that music is what brings our energy and passion, other times that music is as a lullaby and the exchange happens simply, quietly and sweetly.

When I scene, there are times it is as though Mussorgsky is pounding in my ears, other times a bit of Rachmoninoff lulls us both into rythms and motions of the dance.

And etoile, if you have two left feet, can we hope that your Daddy got you a right one for your special day?

 

[catalina_francisco]

The Tango

Two dancers dancing a Tango that is D/s to me.
A Tango danced in perfect harmony.

A dance that hides nothing,
that is full of emotion and control,
that speaks honestly straight out of the soul.
The Tango is truly a dance of love and passion with sweet intimacy.

A Tango, the dance that is danced with the hidden language of the soul.
Every step we take is a step lead by me and followed by my partner.
Sometimes the dance is violent and wild and at others the dance is soft and mild.

But every step and every note is honest and straight.
Just like life, the next note and step is always a surprise and familiar at the same time.

The Tango the dance that is not choreographed but the dance that comes from within,
where the feet follow the lead from the heart,
where the mind just directs the stream and avoids the bumps.

Francisco.

 

[MissTaken]

IN college, we used to joke and yes, were actually taught that Bolero was the best music for sex.

I must interject here that Bolero may good for vanilla sex with all that repetitive thumping in the background.

*just a bit of confetti brain after reading this thread again*

A beautiful post Francisco. And in a very raw form, the trust involved with doing a tango can be matched by the trust involved in D/s. Dipping me backward could be potentiall dangerous!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Everytime I hear the Bolero I cannot stop myself from thinking of Bo Derek running half naked along the beach.

Originally posted by MissTaken A beautiful post Francisco. And in a very raw form, the trust involved with doing a tango can be matched by the trust involved in D/s. Dipping me backward could be potentiall dangerous!

Thank you MissT, life needs a bit of danger to make it interesting, certain things are worthy of taking risks for.

Francisco.

 

[Shadowsdream]

So many wonderful and dynamic posts to this thread in My absence. I am honored that you would all add so much depth of emotions in the personalization of the intricate dance as you see it.
Quite a prom night with this group holding the floor. ~~grin~~

 

[li'a-wahine]

Shadowdream Ma'am~

hello again. Its been a long time since I've been here on Lit, and of course I come back to find one of the best descriptions of a D/s relationship yet.

I will say that for Master and myself for the past 11 years, has been anywhere from a slow sway in eachothers arms to a mosh pit . A dance is a wonderfull way to describe the dinamics for sure!

Just had to pop in and say hi. Have a nice day!

lia