The concept of Bondage...

[Milkdrops1]

rfrfreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

 

[BiBunny]

Bondage doesn't turn me on like it does for some people. That's not to say I don't like it, but to me, there's nothing inherently sexual about being bound. With play partners, it's just a means to an end--tie me up and then do whatever with me. With those I care about, it makes me feel safe and protected. I've always loved to have my hands and feet bound while I lie curled up in B.'s lap while he strokes my hair. When he's feeling really sadistic while we play, he won't tie me up because he knows how contented being bound makes me feel. Most of the time, though, he likes the happy place it puts me in, so I get cuffs, at least, if nothing else. He, on the other hand, is EXTREMELY turned on by strict bondage when he bottoms. I've never felt that way about it, so I don't understand it, but different strokes for different folks.

 

[curiouslez84]

Well, I'd just like to say that I'm new to the whole thing myself...I like being tied up and/or cuffed, but I haven't really experimented all that much with like straps or anything. Usually, my g/f just cuffs me or ties me to the bed and fucks me. It's a major turn-on for me because my nipples get real hard and hot and I can't touch them, and I can't do anything except let the pleasure of Brianna's tongue and fingers wash all over me.

*Shivers with delight just thinking about it.* ^_^

 

[Byakuya]

for me it's the idea of being helpless to her will.. I could easily overpower my wife under normal circumstances.. but if I was tied up and helpless, it's completely reversed.. I've tied her up before too, but it seems almost unnecessary because I don't need to use bondage to dominate her.. it's still fun though..

 

[northwoods_sub]

I love bondage!! What does it for me is the absolute giving up the ability to do anything about what is happening to me. If I had a choice about if I would be dominated and have to hold myself in position or being completely restrained, give me the restraints!!! They just turn me on like nothing else.

 

[His_pita]

I like being bound for the struggle it allows me to do. It's very freeing to be able to pull and tug on the restraints, but unable to stop what he is doing to me. It lets me release a lot of energy while at the same time it has a calming effect on me. I love it!

 

[Puman]

I love bondage!! What does it for me is the absolute giving up the ability to do anything about what is happening to me. If I had a choice about if I would be dominated and have to hold myself in position or being completely restrained, give me the restraints!!! They just turn me on like nothing else.

Oh yessss! *swoons*

 

[callinectes]

We don't do a lot of bondage as Daddy prefers to watch me hold a position in challenging situations. bastard! I love bondage and when he does indulge me it is heavenly. When not bound I have to concentrate on my postion and though it does have its rewards, it can be very difficult. When bound I can totally lose myself in the experience and concentrate only on what he wants me to feel.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I love having her bound, because as she she tries to flinch and such she can't. I love watching her struggle against her restraints...

 

[Andraste]

bondage allows things that i would normally stop.

i would flinch, push him away, close my legs, cover with my hands. it's instinctive.

bondage gives me the sensations i would normally deny myself.

 

[Softouch911]

bondage allows things that i would normally stop.

i would flinch, push him away, close my legs, cover with my hands. it's instinctive.

bondage gives me the sensations i would normally deny myself.

Exactly.

It's the fear of your anticipation.

It's the vulnerability of a situation where you have given up choice.

It's the permission of having no choice but to relax and let be what will be.


For me:

It is your fear.

It is your trust.

It is the power to exert a will and make of you what I will: painslut, fucktoy, objet d'art ...


Add a gag and a blindfold and it's pretty close to heaven.

For the OP: as one who is new to this, there is no situation where you have such control .... or, especially, such responsibility to remain in control! And that is the essence of dominance, many say, the ability to control yourself.

One of the contradictions of kink -- each restraint you add to her adds another to you as well.

Respectfully,
ST

 

[WriterDom]

On Human Bondage

My first experience with bondage was on the receiving end. Back in 1996 before I had heard of bdsm. It wasn’t a power exchange thing really. She just wanted to tie me up and blindfold me. So I said go for it. It was nice. She poured sweet things on me and licked them off. And finished up by riding my cock until I came. Very hard. She kept fucking me while I was cumming which drove me wild.

I like a lot of things about it. I like watching her struggle with the restraints and the ropes. I like sensation play of ice mixed with candle wax. Rubbing unknown textures against her body. Household objects.

Making her cum at will. Fucking her at will. Tying her up face down and fucking her ass. Eating her pussy. Getting her close to orgasm and backing down. Hogtying her on her belly and making her cum. Spanking her cunt with the crop. Or tying her with the over the door hook and flogging her. Mental bondage. Telling her not to move. Or tying her down with thread and see if she can keep from breaking it.

I want to tie two subs together. Tightly, both standing and facing each other and flogging them both. Or tying them together on the bed, one on top of the other so I have access to both of their cunts. Going from cunt to cunt mixing their slickness.

Damn, I made myself hard.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Bondage

The feeling it gives me is being helpless allows me to totally relax and know I have no control over what is going to happen to me, sensory deprivation, orgasm control, orgasm denial, spanking me cause I was bad and I cant move and cant get away... I love it I always had a very fun fantasy which recently came into play for me and I loved EVERY minute of it...

 

[Ebonyfire]

Actually I can say that although I like bondage and I use it extensively with my submissives, it does not turn me on.

It is a tool that I use.

 

[UK_Strawberry]

I like a lot of things about it. I like watching her struggle with the restraints and the ropes. I like sensation play of ice mixed with candle wax. Rubbing unknown textures against her body. Household objects.

Making her cum at will. Fucking her at will. Tying her up face down and fucking her ass. Eating her pussy. Getting her close to orgasm and backing down. Hogtying her on her belly and making her cum. Spanking her cunt with the crop. Or tying her with the over the door hook and flogging her. Mental bondage. Telling her not to move. Or tying her down with thread and see if she can keep from breaking it.

I want to tie two subs together. Tightly, both standing and facing each other and flogging them both. Or tying them together on the bed, one on top of the other so I have access to both of their cunts. Going from cunt to cunt mixing their slickness.

Damn, I made myself hard.

That's one mighty fine post you got yourself there WriterDom.

 

[the captians wench]

We don't do a lot of bondage as Daddy prefers to watch me hold a position in challenging situations. bastard! I love bondage and when he does indulge me it is heavenly. When not bound I have to concentrate on my postion and though it does have its rewards, it can be very difficult. When bound I can totally lose myself in the experience and concentrate only on what he wants me to feel.

This is how my play mate and I do. He doesn't really believe in bondage so to speak. When he puts you in a position, you are expected to stay until he decides you should move. I love the challenge of this, it makes me work harder to do what I think will please him most, and that's something I can't get enough of.

Bondage seems...too easy for me. Not that I don't enjoy being restrained form time to time, but there's just no challenge in it, it's too easy to please that way. I like to prove to the one I'm serving, that I'm serving because I want to serve, not because I have no other choice.

 

[WriterDom]

That's one mighty fine post you got yourself there WriterDom.

Thanks, but your av is better.

 

[northwoods_sub]

Sir will most often require me to just hold position as well. However when I am not in bondage I find that I fell less and think more. I am not able to give Sir what he is looking for in a reaction from me because I am so worried that I am going to displease Him.
My reaction is what "does it" for Him *giggle* and if I am thinking too much neither one of us is going to get much pleasure from the experience.

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Thanks, but your av is better.

It would appear that my AV is proving quite popular all round !! LOL

Given that this thread is about bondage.......

For me, being submissive, it's about giving control to another person. For me it can only done with complete trust. Also I think as Andraste said, it gives me the chance to experience something that I might normally stop or shy away from.

 

[myinnerslut]

it allows me to be vulnerable. helpless. to struggle. to know that even as im trying to escape, i cant. it makes me feel safe, loved, owned. open to whatever A wants from me. exposed. turned on. a complete lack of control.

 

[eastern sun]

On Human Bondage

I want to tie two subs together. Tightly, both standing and facing each other and flogging them both. Or tying them together on the bed, one on top of the other so I have access to both of their cunts. Going from cunt to cunt mixing their slickness.

Damn, I made myself hard.

Sometimes one comes across an idea that makes you think you've been bit close-minded.

I might need to rethink a few limits I've set for myself.

 

[nh23]

it allows me to be vulnerable. helpless. to struggle. to know that even as im trying to escape, i cant. it makes me feel safe, loved, owned. open to whatever A wants from me. exposed. turned on. a complete lack of control.

Amen!

 

[callinectes]

Sir will most often require me to just hold position as well. However when I am not in bondage I find that I fell less and think more. I am not able to give Sir what he is looking for in a reaction from me because I am so worried that I am going to displease Him.
My reaction is what "does it" for Him *giggle* and if I am thinking too much neither one of us is going to get much pleasure from the experience.

In our case, Daddy takes great pleasure in watching my struggle to obey even when he has made it very difficult. Knowing I am giving it everything I have is what "does it" for him. There is no punishment for failure as long as I have done my absolute best to comply.

 

[MikeUknow]

"bondage allows things that i would normally stop.

i would flinch, push him away, close my legs, cover with my hands. it's instinctive.

bondage gives me the sensations i would normally deny myself."

(from a previous post above)



I agree....allowing sensations you want but don't necessary reach for without being bound, restrained or confined.

It also eliminates a but of the guilt...if you have no "choice" in what's being done to you, you can "relax" about it.

 

[mytwocents]

Wanted to ask you people a straight forward question about bondage:

What is it about bondage that turns you on?

For me its having someone restrained and helpless against there will in front of you exposed totally for you to have there way with, but seems for me to enjoy I have to see only simple restraints like in the image provided.

Does anyone else share the same reason as to why bondage does it for them? if so please explain.

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