The Birth Order Thread

[evesdream]

Where do you fall in your family's heirarchy?

There's a poll, wait for it...

 

[Joshua65]

Oldest of two.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Oldest of two, and I do believe I've always been in search of older siblings.

 

[MsLead]

Oldest of 2 and the black sheep

 

[BiBunny]

Only.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Oldest of two.
A friend and I wanted to swap so I could get the older brother I wanted and she the younger sibling she wanted, but our mothers intervened.

 

[moonbeam17]

Oldest of 4 and oldest of all the grandchildren. Never a follower and as a result, the most independent and least susceptible to guilt trips. My how that's been frustrating for them.

 

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[Collar_N_Cuffs]

oldest of 3, oldest of nine grandchildren, oldest of 15 great grand children... & least accomplished. My children are the favorite grandkids, a clear fact that gives my mom no end of guilt, so at least there's that.

Hmmmm.. I find this interesting as I am the youngest sibling and youngest grandchild, and the most accomplished. That sounds a bit cheeky but true.
Any others for this two person "trend"?

 

[Netzach]

Just me.

 

[seela]

Youngest of three, by 12 years. Talk about an accident...

 

[MeekMe]

Middle of 4.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Only one

 

[Endless_Night]

Oldest of 4, oldest grand-child, oldest great-grand-child, and oldest great-great-grand-child. It's not uncommon to start producing early in the south.

I'm the family changeling.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Youngest of four. Only girl.

 

[KoPilot]

Only child.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Middle of 4.

Now just you hold on a minute there, lady... Unless you are half of a set of twins born at exactly the same moment, this seems impossible

 

[notusuallyshy]

Youngest

youngest of three and the least conformist in every way

 

[MeekMe]

Now just you hold on a minute there, lady... Unless you are half of a set of twins born at exactly the same moment, this seems impossible

Well, there are four of us and I fall in the middle area. My youngest sister was born long after the rest of us. I was always in the middle. I have one older sister and two younger. I hardly know my youngest sister because I moved out before she really grew into her own person. Being the middle sibling is the only way I know how to describe it.

 

[cmslt2326]

Youngest

of eight...I am the youngest but I am closest to the second oldest

 

[Bdgirl]

I am the youngest, the only girl and thenonly one without kids. I am also the only member of my family to graduate college, which makes me a black sheep to my oldest brother.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Well, there are four of us and I fall in the middle area. My youngest sister was born long after the rest of us. I was always in the middle. I have one older sister and two younger. I hardly know my youngest sister because I moved out before she really grew into her own person. Being the middle sibling is the only way I know how to describe it.

Well when you put it that way it makes perfect sense

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

for the oldest child to be the least achieved while the second flourishes is very typical of abuse situations.

that trend is the same whether it's physical or verbal/ emotional abuse, where the first child is the ally/ protector/ safe harbor or even provider for the second.

It wasn't just our father; my mother struggled with depression to the point of locking us out of the house for hours on those long summer days for fear of hurting us, and I took it upon myself to squirrel away large stores of snack foods in the garage for days like that. It never even occurred to me that this was even noteworthy in the shadow of my father's treatment; as it turns out, that quiet neglect was highly relevant. It's one thing to say "go play outside," it's another to be shoed out of the house with the bolt drawn behind you.

I kinda wish that my own children were able to turn to each other like my brothers and I did, but I'm glad they clearly don't have to.

Oh wow - didn't mean to bring anything up, and thank you for the explanation. And thanks, from a younger sibling, for taking on that roll Stress does indeed bring kids together, and the same happened with my older sibling and I, though the circumstances were not abuse, and were completely different. I'm definitely going to need to digest this!

 

[DarlingCunt]

Only child. A.K.A. The center of attention?

 

[seela]

I hardly know my youngest sister because I moved out before she really grew into her own person.

This is my experience, as well. I hardly know my siblings. My sister and I see each other maybe twice a year and hardly ever call. I generally know what's going on in her life, because I see her son quite often and my mom keeps me somewhat up to date.

My brother and I have more in common, both of us being into music and I can actually remember him living at home and him waking me up to go to school in the first grades etc. Still, we don't really keep in touch that much. I see him quite often when he's in town for gigs and he regularly gets my name on the lists of various other gigs, but our communication is pretty superficial. He's alway offered to to help me move, though.

So in a way I'm an only kid, although in reality I have two older siblings.