The "Add me as a Lit Buddy" thread.......

[MirandaAlexis]

This is mainly for the girls but to help the guys too, so here's the deal.

Girls (and guys) - are you tired of the same lame messages? A "hi", "what's up" or a "mmmmmmm" from a perfect stranger with no information in their profile and very few, if any, posts? Or the clearly copy and paste spam messages like you're on the mailing list they just purchased and they're trying to sell you something? There's plenty of examples of worse stuff just reading through the threads. Here's a good one ---

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1060307

Here's what I recommend - go to your profile and click "Edit Options" and check "Receive Private Messages only from Buddies and Moderators" and then add your friends and people you'd like to be buddies with to your "Buddy List". Those not on your list can't message you. I know, nothing new here and this isn't rocket science, but as a new relatively new member I started receiving these weird messages within minutes (like I'm sure you did as well) until someone helped me with the message option thingy.

Guys (and girls) - post your information in this thread if you'd like to make yourself available to be added to others "buddy" lists. Post as little or as much as you want, but for starters I recommend at least a simple a/s/l and why you're here or what you're looking for. It would probably help if you had a profile as well. Hopefully someone will post a good template or two of information for others to use.

I hope this helps other newbies and oldies alike and especially the nice, fun people to connect with more people!

 

[ThatOneBlindGuy]

This makes me proud I filled out my profile. Hurray! And nice to meet you by the way.

 

[JoshXXX]

Hey there Just read your profile. I feel the same way about exploring sex and fantasies here. I've found it really helpful and some people on here have been amazingly supportive! I know my experience as a guy is probably totally different from what you get as a girl here, but I hope you stick with it and don't give up on finding cool people even though you have to wade through a sea of bad messages to do it.

If you ever want to chat about sex, fantasies, fetishes, kinks, etc. just hit me up. You seem like you could be one of the cool ones.

-Josh

 

[ThatOneBlindGuy]

Hey there Just read your profile. I feel the same way about exploring sex and fantasies here. I've found it really helpful and some people on here have been amazingly supportive! I know my experience as a guy is probably totally different from what you get as a girl here, but I hope you stick with it and don't give up on finding cool people even though you have to wade through a sea of bad messages to do it.

If you ever want to chat about sex, fantasies, fetishes, kinks, etc. just hit me up. You seem like you could be one of the cool ones.

-Josh

i agree completely. I am also perfectly willing to have a real conversation about sex, or anything really. I might try to make you laugh along the way, but just like Earth, I'm mostly harmless.

 

[jlimp15]

You sound like exactly the type of woman in looking to chat with and see where things go. And for any other women that come across this thread, feel free to shoot me a PM

 

[bigbrother1111]

And now 5,000 guys have added miranda to their buddy list. completely ignoring why this thread was made to begin with.

 

[Nastassia4Hire]

And now 5,000 guys have added miranda to their buddy list. completely ignoring why this thread was made to begin with.

This.

Good try just the same Miranda!

 

[Amanda_d6969]

Yes, good try Miranda. "A" for effort for sure. Though I've made great use of my ignore button for the same reasons you point out, I'm going to follow your lead and cut my message thing off except for buddys.

 

[Nastassia4Hire]

Yes, good try Miranda. "A" for effort for sure. Though I've made great use of my ignore button for the same reasons you point out, I'm going to follow your lead and cut my message thing off except for buddys.

This +1.

 

[Lovesdetailedrp]

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Nastassia.. I missed this one small detail.. ugggh.. sorry. Hope you didnt ignore my message!

 

[bigbrother1111]

We are posting phone numbers now? LOL

 

[MirandaAlexis]

Thanks for the support and encouragement ladies. I may repost this in a few days and maybe it'll get off to a much better start.

 

[julius_1975ct]

39m I am interested in sharing my wife and a few other kinky things. I am always looking for new people to chat with. I like to explore sexuality and see what others are into, and desires they have. Helping people realize their fantasies is my biggest turn on. I also like to talk about real experiences and push the boundaries of taboo.

 

[magicmikeaustin]

harmless

ask my friends

 

[jdc38]

I think Miranda gives reasonable advice. I suspect the ratio of males to females on Lit is pretty unbalanced. And even if not males are much more interested in the PM thing. The ladies must simply be bombarded at times with PMs.

When I do PM a lady I definitely say more than "hi" or something canned. I usually read her profile and some posts to see first if she might be interested in chatting and any interests she has communicated.

I am always respectful and if there is either no reply or she states she's not interested I add her to my ignore list so I make sure I don't bother her in the future.

Chatting on here can be fun and I have made some friends, but as Miranda points out there are some features with the software that you can use to make things enjoyable.

Happy chatting.

Dave

 

[xanderra]

Hell I know from first hand experience from here on lit until I put on my profile that I was a guy and a picture I would get random pm's from horny guy's. So I'm sure this will help cut your creepiness message's a lot unless they get you to add them to your buddy list and then be a creeper ha ha ha.

But in all seriousness

I am 23/m/fl I am looking to chat with the ladies maybe even more if we connect or have similar interest! I do have my profile filled out so just take a peek there.

 

[mrk829]

good idea

although i would think the women have to deal with this more than men. I have been on this site a while and have never added someone on my buddy list but have never hit ignore on anyone either. And no I am not of the 5000 men that will add MirandaAlexis to my buddy list.

 

[AndrosD]

I don't know which is worse?

Being a woman on here .. too many PMs!

Being a man on here .. no PMs!

Great idea with the thread though. I'm up for making some new "Buddies!"

 

[missgreekgeek]

I don't know which is worse?

Being a woman on here .. too many PMs!

Being a man on here .. no PMs!

Great idea with the thread though. I'm up for making some new "Buddies!"

Which is probably why some men make up fake profiles simulating women, to get responses from men...
Or it's just their cup of tea. Still trying to figure that one out.

 

[AndrosD]

Which is probably why some men make up fake profiles simulating women, to get responses from men...
Or it's just their cup of tea. Still trying to figure that one out.

I'll NEVER figure that one out .. it's creepy! (and sad)

If any ladies have any pointers, please let me know! I'm pretty awesome to chat with (I think!?) and just don't know how to get that across in a post?

 

[missgreekgeek]

I'll NEVER figure that one out .. it's creepy! (and sad)

If any ladies have any pointers, please let me know! I'm pretty awesome to chat with (I think!?) and just don't know how to get that across in a post?

Read a woman's profile. Often she'll post what she wants/likes.

I don't know how much clearer I can make mine, I still elicit some strange, and very redundant messages from guys.

 

[AndrosD]

Read a woman's profile. Often she'll post what she wants/likes.

I don't know how much clearer I can make mine, I still elicit some strange, and very redundant messages from guys.

Yeah, I read yours, I'm steering clear .. I'm scared!

 

[soulfly833]

Well i hope i filled out enough in my profile now, but as im new i probably havent so if any one has questions just as . 28/m

 

[ThatOneBlindGuy]

It just occurred to me that I haven't provided all the requested information in this thread, so here goes.
I am a 28-year-old straight male from Columbus, Ohio, and I really am a blind guy. My interests, in no particular order, are reading, music, movies, video games, and wrestling, but most of all I love to entertain people. I feed off of laughter, and bringing a little joy to someone's day makes me feel great.
As for what I'm looking for here, well, a number of things I suppose. As I said earlier, I'm glad to chat about anything at all from the latest films to the latest trends in masturbation technique. I'm not looking for anything serious, but if chat should happen to evolve into super sexy fun time, I'm sure something could be worked out. And if it never evolved into that, that would be just fine too.
I've been called interesting, funny, and several other things too, and I promise I'm not at all crazy. Well, maybe a little... No seriously, not really. Anyone who wishes to add me, or talk to me, is welcome. And thank you all for being awesome.

 

[Deliatio]

I'll NEVER figure that one out .. it's creepy! (and sad)

If any ladies have any pointers, please let me know! I'm pretty awesome to chat with (I think!?) and just don't know how to get that across in a post?

Now come on its not right to judge others like that. I mean to be honest it is kind of understandable why they do it. In allhonesty whenever somebody goes on a site with personals looking for somebody women always get hounded and men alway get ignored. So its probably just a confidence thing (they come online looking for somebody and nobody takes an interest so they decide to make a female account to make themselves feel better). Its a bit harsh to judge them for just wanting an ego boost.

On a side note I'm more interested in roleplay and found the idea of playing a woman interesting though I admit I am a guy. (Since I am a gamer I am used to roleplay) So you know I don't mind trying something different.

On another side note would it make a difference if the guy filled out their profile with oodles of text? After all if a woman gets like 80 posts would she be bothered to read the 81st's wall of text? Anyway I don'tget the appeal of trying for women online, most seem rather tired of the whole having guys bother them so they have no interest (I get it believe me) but a good few that do show interest can't really be trusted. I mean its nice to think that there are others who are different, and there always are but still...the number of goodies to baddies are quite harsh both ways.

Sorry if that came off as a rant or pessimistic. On a happier note though at least a good few people on this site have been very kind (like laurel) etc it makes everything good to have somebody to chat to. I guess if anybody wants to PM me after this keep in mind I will not be this much of a downer but I will also be honest and not judgemental of anything you're having problems with (after all life's too short to be worried what others think)

Anyway thanks for reading and have a nice day!