The 36 year old Virgin

[ShySubSara]

Hello. I'm new here. Just got out of a terrible marriage that lasted 11 years. During that time we had sex about once a month which usually was about 5 minutes of missionary until he came. Now I need to break out of that boredom. As my girlfriend told me at work the other day I'm like a 36 year old virgin! Just wanted to say hi to everyone and look forward to exploring my sexuality and my submissive desires (and other desires as well).

 

[perrafuker]

hi

thats just terrible why so little sex? did he had some type pf prob or issue?

 

[ShySubSara]

He didn't like doing it. Fuck head idiot. Lol

 

[EctoJohn]

Hey there, Sara.
Hope you get some action once again.
I'd offer my help in that department, but being over 3000 miles away, that's not too likely.

Not unless you happend to be wealthy and want to import a guy!

 

[perrafuker]

He didn't like doing it. Fuck head idiot. Lol

what am amazed to hear about a guy that does not like sex.didnt you tried to spice things up with him or not

are you sexy or attractive woman??i'm asking because i'm curious

 

[ShySubSara]

I gave up. We had sex all the time before marriage. I like to think I'm attractive. 5'6", 140 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 34d chest. Work out 4x a week.

 

[perrafuker]

I gave up. We had sex all the time before marriage. I like to think I'm attractive. 5'6", 140 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 34d chest. Work out 4x a week.

you sound good maybe he was cheating on you or there were other under lying causes..how old was he if i may ask?

 

[ShySubSara]

37. He was not cheating. He never went anywhere.

 

[CyranoJ]

am amazed to hear about a guy that does not like sex.

You should maybe get out more? No offense. Guys with low libido aren't exactly that uncommon.

 

[The_Nic]

Hi Sara. Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Hope you find what you're looking for. PM's open if you wanna chat sometime

 

[perrafuker]

You should maybe get out more? No offense. Guys with low libido aren't exactly that uncommon.

that's true but i wonder why both didnt went for the doctor route if that's the case.because its clear that the whole relationship fell apart because of this?i mean, if i know or get the hint that my woman is not getting satisfaction i'll do something about it asap

 

[Setanta84]

37. He was not cheating. He never went anywhere.

Honestly, this was my first inclination, too.

My ex fucked all the time before we got engaged. Not just multiple times a week, multiple times every single day.

After the engagement, she started dropping hints she wasn't that into sex--and it wasn't because it was bad, she squirted to the point that we had to put towels down on the bed prior to sex--and was doing it purely for me. And that made me feel bad and guilty.

She also didn't get out much.

When the relationship was approaching the end, I found out she had never stopped sexting guys she met on dating sites prior to us going out and they only found out on me when our engagement announcement was put online.

She had dated a guy behind my backed, fucked three rich senior citizens and hit a musician who had been chasing her for years up for casual sex--all while accusing me of losing interest, wanting to leave her and sleep around, etc.

I'm just saying it's not unreasonable to assume that and it's also a mistake to assume he was being faithful just because he claimed low libido and never went anywhere. In the age of smart phones and social media, you can juggle multiple affairs from the comfort of home.

 

[ShySubSara]

We had sex like 3-4 times a week before marriage. Once we got married he didn't want it anymore. I thought (as many women do) I could change him. But after awhile I gave up and just stayed because it was easier than leaving.

 

[ShySubSara]

Honestly, this was my first inclination, too.

My ex fucked all the time before we got engaged. Not just multiple times a week, multiple times every single day.

After the engagement, she started dropping hints she wasn't that into sex--and it wasn't because it was bad, she squirted to the point that we had to put towels down on the bed prior to sex--and was doing it purely for me. And that made me feel bad and guilty.

She also didn't get out much.

When the relationship was approaching the end, I found out she had never stopped sexting guys she met on dating sites prior to us going out and they only found out on me when our engagement announcement was put online.

She had dated a guy behind my backed, fucked three rich senior citizens and hit a musician who had been chasing her for years up for casual sex--all while accusing me of losing interest, wanting to leave her and sleep around, etc.

I'm just saying it's not unreasonable to assume that and it's also a mistake to assume he was being faithful just because he claimed low libido and never went anywhere. In the age of smart phones and social media, you can juggle multiple affairs from the comfort of home.

That could all be true. But you know I really don't give a fuck now. His loss. I'm done with him and ready to move on and make up for lost time.

 

[CyranoJ]

That could all be true. But you know I really don't give a fuck now. His loss. I'm done with him and ready to move on and make up for lost time.

That's the spirit!

Sorry to hear about your experience Setanta84. Conniving assholes are bad, but conniving assholes who try to guilt you while they're betraying you are the worst.

 

[ToysAreUs]

Welcome Sara,

I know a couple who had similar bedroom issues starting right after they married. It turned out he was secretly addicted to internet porn and masterbating several times per day so he had little desire for her. Eventually, he revealed it and they went through therapy together. The couple is still together and now both are 'satisfied'.

 

[ShySubSara]

I'm glad they worked out their issues. My husband didn't watch much porn. We didn't even have computer at home. I tried to get him to watch but he was too religious to watch it he said.

 

[ProfQ1955]

I gave up. We had sex all the time before marriage. I like to think I'm attractive. 5'6", 140 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 34d chest. Work out 4x a week.

Your measurements are perfect. And you workout 4 x a week. That means spandex just what my doctor ordered. Nothing better than tight spandex across your butt. Your work out would be upped to 8 times a week.

 

[gubernacht]

Hello. I'm new here. Just got out of a terrible marriage that lasted 11 years. During that time we had sex about once a month which usually was about 5 minutes of missionary until he came. Now I need to break out of that boredom. As my girlfriend told me at work the other day I'm like a 36 year old virgin! Just wanted to say hi to everyone and look forward to exploring my sexuality and my submissive desires (and other desires as well).

Welcome Sara, Trust me I know how you feel. I am 32 and have had my own issues. Hope lit, me and whoever can help you explore, discover and encourage your desires. Welcome to the forums.

If you would like to know more feel free to message me

 

[Crusader3113]

I gave up. We had sex all the time before marriage. I like to think I'm attractive. 5'6", 140 lbs, brown hair, green eyes, 34d chest. Work out 4x a week.

sorry to hear about all your struggles...hope that things improve for you soon...